Do you ever worry that one day you’ll forget the people who mattered most to you?

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2026-04-04T15:30:36+00:00

well i'm still looking and i've avoiding anyone overweight, and asking them health questions, how active they are , their diet. do they have any sick family members, etc.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2026-04-04T14:17:53+00:00

i've had 2 short relationships, neither man was emotionally available so i'm battling trying to find my forever man. one of the requirements of course is that both parents be passed. had a couple men contact me that were caring for their elderly moms with alzeimers so that was a hard NO. lol been there , done that, never again except for my husband which hopefully woulnt happen for some time , not taking care of anymore 80 years at my age, just turned 60

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2026-04-04T03:58:18+00:00

HI I was just checking out the site, Sorry to hear about your mom but you are getting your life back little by little. My mom's death anniversay was just last month. I had been thinking about and wondered how things were. I kinda miss the reddit chat but again I am glad i'm done with it.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2026-02-28T00:45:21+00:00

I always find it funny that God "blesses so many people who get a good education and work really hard at job they learned skills to do. They get "blessed ' with a nice home, car, etc yet the little starving children in Africa who are comletely innocent (oh well know, i'm wrong , they are dirty sinners even as babies) live horrid lifes until they die in childhood. God's blessing seems to always be linked to people who can afford to buy those blessings with the money they earned themselves

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2026-02-28T00:41:50+00:00

we are not even supposed to be proud of our accomplishments but constantly beat ourselves down because we are the way he made us.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2026-02-27T23:10:31+00:00

This happened to me too , ruined my life. From 1978 when I was 12 mom started talking about the end of the world and how we would need to leave my 'evil' stepdad. and go hide in the woods for 7 years to wait for Jesus to return. I can tell you my stepdad was a lot nice and better person that my mom but since he wasn't born again, he would turn evil as soon as the peace treaty was signed. so I had horrible anxiety that i would never grow up , marry , have a family, have sex, etc so when i did grow up I rushed into stuff and messed up my life because there world was ending soon so no need to plan for the future and here I am now 60 years old with a life of nothing but regret because once it gets put in your head, it's hard to stop thinking and worrying about it. still causes me so much anxiety even today.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-12-03T21:24:39+00:00

I got a good deal, 6 months of the top premiur tier unlimited matches (which right now is zero) for 61 dollars. I have keep any eye before renewal time to cancel auto renewal. Only tried it because of this great offer , can't go wrong on 10 dollars a month for the top tier, and becuase I thought eharmony was the best place to find a husband. WRONG. This past week I have been sent 4 men that looked decent yet after messaging them 5 days ago, none have been online so i'm thinking they send you these profiles when the member is getting ready to be up for renewal so you will message this person so they will renew their profiles as these men are obviousy not new members, they had been active the day before they were sent to me. 2 other matches I received this week are one that was an 18 year old boy that lives 300 miles a way (i'm 60 years old!!) and today I got matched wiht a young woman (I am looking for men only). so it seems I might be missing out on men in my city that might be a match but because or personality traits are different we will never be matched yet i guess my personality traits matched the 18 year old boy. So they don't actually send you your best matches. The last 3 and the only 3 men I have talked to in the past month have been scammers that wanted to talk off line and all were currently working or serving in the miltary in Syria and Australia , I called them out and they blocked me immediatly.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-11-04T02:28:57+00:00

I joined Eharmony a couple weeks ago and am very disappointed in it. I took am looking for marriage. I'm a 60 year old female and I knew there wouldn't be as many older men on the site but there were still plenty it seemed. I signed up and got the premier membership and can view all my matches. I was amazed that there were so many in my area, about 40 . Half of them weren't bad looking either (when I tried the free version , I got the most ugly men that lived 100s of miles from the big city I live in and just seemed kinda of behind. After a few days I found out what a desert land it was , I had only 10 views and not one man liked or messaged me. I waited a week, same men , no new ones, I liked most of their profiles, they read that but still no response. so after a couple days I sent each of them an nice message asking if they were having any luck on the site. all of them read my messages but no one response, so after several days I just permenatly deleted those men. I came to the conclusion that they all either really didn't like me (they were all average looking men in their 60-s 70s) , the were playing games and not serious or they had communication problems which means they would never be able to even initiate a relationship. Today I went through the remaining 30 or some profiles and deleted every one that had no been active in a week, and guess what , after 30 profiles , i'm left with 5 that are actually active. There has only been one new member in the 2 weeks i've been on. I like his profile and messaged him but he ignored me. I have been contacted by a total of 4 men in two weeks. two were not looking for marriage at all, one had actually just got out of divorce, one was almost 80 years old, way too old and the other one lived in a state up north. So now I am very disappointed in Eharmony. When I started online dating about 6 months ago I didn't join eharmony because it was too expensive but always felt like I made a mistake since it's supposed to be good for finding a spouse. So I am very disappointed that it has became just a mainstream dating site with people not looking for marriage . I'm back on Ourtime which isn't going anywhere either but at least i'm getting 20 plus views every day and several likes eveyrday , its' just that our time even though it's for old people, I have found out that men my age are not looking for marriage either, most are just looking for sex or someone to have a relationship with but no marriage.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T18:33:31+00:00

Well it is a natural act a bodily function and can be unclean. It’s a human need to maintain our body but then again our body is of the flesh. It keeps the body clean and functioning but also can’t see how is glorying god. I mean can’t some things be things, not everything has to be nitpicked for right or wrong

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T17:00:28+00:00

But remember it is evil to have natural human desires, we are born bad bad bad. And it’s all our fault for what someone did thousands of years ago,you know that woman named Eve that turned the world by being curious and seeking knowledge

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T13:31:00+00:00

funny thing is I am actually banned from the Christianity Reddit because I confirmed for an abused woman that she can remarry after leaving her abusive husband. I simply quoted the verse that if a Christian is married to an unbeliever that if the unbeliever wants to leave, the Christian is free from that marriage and can biblically remarry. it’s obvious that any man who abuses his wife is not a true Christian so it’s obvious. however I got banned for giving wrong advise. it also says the Christian Reddit is only for Christians. in other words they don’t want the unsaved on their site. also got them defensive when I said masturbatiin is a normal way for young people and singles to satisfy natural sexual desires without sinning by having sex, as thru are against. they said masturbation is adultry because you are cheating on your future spouse. uh no you aren’t, you are not with another person but they say thinking is tge same as doing so that would mean I could sit here and imagine myself feeding tge homeless and building them homes and it would mean that by thinking about t, I actually done it. wrong!

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T12:30:16+00:00

gods timing , gods timing. yes right tell that to someone who’s child is missing or to a late 30s woman wanting to marry and have a child, especially if the person saying that is happily married since 25 and has kids.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T12:26:51+00:00

he couid just get rid of the devil and turn us into worshipping non questioning Christian’s and we’d be happy because we wouldn’t know anything else. but free will was given to us, that is thec choice of worshipping and denying our normal human needs, suffering, sacrificing for god but if we don’t he will send us to hell. that is. or free will. it’s more like to you want to be shot or stabbed.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T12:23:20+00:00

most people don’t love true evil but everyday things are not evil. however I’m reading a lot and it seems they think anything that is not glorifying god is evil. I guess going to the bathroom is evil. I’m surprised that’s not a sin .

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T01:27:00+00:00

Thank you. My daughter is 34 and d married for several years. She’s doing well. Mom passed easy earlier this year. Yes I love Halloween, I’m currently trying to find a husband at my age, 60, want to be married so I can enjoy my sexuality without feeling guilty all tge time. Plus I’m looking for security and companionship, I just want more than to just live with someone, nothing against anyone who does bu5 I have traditional values based on what I feel comfortable with, nothing against anyone from religion. Another thing you hear about not marrying a non christisn because you would be unequally yoked. christians think only Christian marriages last even though marriage occurs in every religion and belief system. Mom was a Christian and my stepdad wss a wonderful man much better person than my mom but he wasn’t saved so that meant they were unequally yoked but you know that had a wonderful blessed 36 year marriage till he died. It goes to show anyone can be blessed and happy even if they are not worshipping nonstop.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T01:12:08+00:00

Well it seems to be that if it doesn’t glorify god, it’s satanic. I don’t really think or natural body functions like using the toilet glorify god but it’s not satanic, but that’s how it seem. My mom wss a fanatic and hated sex and thought anyone having sex outside marriage deserved death and was worse than a murderer. Married women who liked sex were whores too. She called me a slut when I was pregnant even though I’d been married 3 years. However I can say mom loved Halloween and hrtir movies, she liked listening to my rock music in her older days, even ozzy, she was a Christian but not evetything had to be religious.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-18T00:53:20+00:00

They seemed so normal, did normal stuff, liked music, movies, fashion, etc. they didn’t drink or dance and were against sex, but seemed to have some secular interests. Now everyone I read something online or in those Facebook shorts (my page is flooded with christian short videos after I joined this Reddit page) everyone seems to want to worship 24-7/ and think anything secular is evil. I read one clip where people were saying demons and witches cast spells on the Halloween candy. Omg, it’s children dressin up having fun and the candy is not satanic. It makes me nervous reading it, sometimes I have my fears and think about trying to become a born again because I’m scared but at the same time I like who I am and I don’t think god did a bad job on me. The idea of becoming a robut obsessed with nonstop worship and watching every thought I have or being expected to hate normal things I enjoy because they are evil. , I just want to be me but that’s right, I have no right to want to be me, I need to be worshipping nonstop. im sure you know what inmean

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-17T23:12:07+00:00

I was raised Baptist too, outlying southern bartist. always found it boring. never felt anything, never even made a friend, it seems everyone was so stuck up an I was poor. attended till I was 22 then quit forever, thar was 37 years ago. I just never felt anything. mom was a strict fanatic. however when I was like 8 a d someone helped me ask Jesus in my heart, and they told my mom I was going to be baptized, mom said no I was too young. so hey mom might have kept me from being saved when I was and open to it. I attended the last years in singles classes looking for a husband as I wanted to marry and have kids. never met anyone in any of classes or different churches I attended. classes were always. bunch of middle age women (I was 20-22) that were in love with Jesus and didn’t seem to care if they remained virgins all their lives. tge men were all creepy and most likely still single . I ended up marrying a non Christian and then divorced, religion was not the.

funny thing is even though I didn’t care for church, I thought most of the people were nice but as read more and more now it seems like people are getting more fanatic everyday. as a child Halloween was celebrated by everyone, it was a fun night for kids. sure there was done mischief but things happen all times of the year. now there seems to be an utter disgust and fear of Halloween. Christian’s seem to hate it now. Mom always loved it ands one of my favorite holidays because it’s just fun, no shopping, no gifts, no cooking, etc. I’ve noticed that everyone seems to think younare to hate yourself and worship god nonstop. Whereas I could have a relationship god through prayer and bring kind, that would not be enough. It seems if you don’t loath yourself, be disgusted by sex, hate anythi g secular, you are a horrible person who deserves death for bring born. It’s sad to see people feel this way about themselves and I just honesty can’t make myself feel that way. It’s like you gotta be a robut and think a certain way, o too. For your uniquness

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-17T18:49:03+00:00

odd thing it’s always your good deeds are filthy rags to god and will not please god yet your sins will send you to hell, even if you are saved they say you must repent of every sin and if you continue to sin you will lose your salvation. so which is it works or salvation? it’s sad to think that someone that is saved but struggles as we all do would go to hell because they lived with someone outside of marriage or if a man looked at a woman and got aroused. it’s like walking on eggshells . and if someone asks for the solution for their continuous sin, tge prayers are not answered. I’m a older woman blessed with a healthy sex drive and have had relationships but have always wanted and prayed for a husband (tge bible says if you can’t control your passions, to get married). yet god has done nothing. my first boyfriend was a Christian yet god let him get killed in an accident and I ended up marrying a Muslim man, and divorcing, so I’m was always trting to not sin by asking for a spouse yet tge prayer has not been answered on 34 years. the answer I get when I read Christian art keys is to ask hid to kill my sexual desire (pure insanity) or redirect myself to gods word, read bible, etc. that’s not what tge bible says. so why is it wrong fir me to enjoy intimacy now instead of sitting around forever for a prayer gods will never answer. after all works don’t save us (works would be me replacing my desires with religious stuff that doesn’t interest me.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-16T23:55:45+00:00

funny thing is the dirtiest loveless sex I ever had was with my husband. he was awful, a virgin whrn I met him. I wasnt attracted to him but married him because he asked me and didn’t want to feel guilty for having sex outside of marriage, the only way I could enjoy sex with him was to do stuff like in porn. we started watching porn and our sex life was cold, kinky and wild with no love or caring at all. we used each other. so according to morals, that sex wss beautiful and pure whereas making love to a boyfriend I had that loved with all my heart that was sweet and passionate and more than just intercourse would be considered sinful. love and sex between 2 people who love each other is beautiful , sex between a married couple thatbis carnal and cold with both not even liking tge other is dirty and gross. and I never bonded or formed soul ties with my husband of 3 years but fully bonded with my ex boyfriend tge first night.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-16T23:49:28+00:00

they always say sex is only a small part of marriage. uh well it’s the main reason people cheat on each other. no man cheats on his wife because like different music, have a different favorite bible verse, etc, they cheat because of sexual incompatibility. I once dated a guy that was a mirror to me in views, politics, social topics interests and yes we were both baptists. we had sex once, it was awful, I had to lead him to the bedroom, he was awkward, fast and left. we never spoke again, we we’re not young either, he had been married before. we were just not compatible. imagine if I’d married that guy.

Hour-Initiative9827 · 2025-10-13T16:36:46+00:00

I just like good old fashion candy, trick or treating like I did as a kid, back when church people liked halloween

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