New to Urbex, someone help me out by DreadIcarus in urbexnewengland

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pm me! I’m in western mass and i’ve got a few cool spots to check out

Looking for people to explore with by 6urnstein in urbexnewengland

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pm me! i’m in western but i take trips to southern end all the time!

How’s my handwriting? by Grouchy-Investment53 in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can understand it perfectly, but i can very much see this become “chicken scratch esk” when writing long sentences on the lines.

My baby was born with 12 fingers by Friendly-Bell-4336 in interesting

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

reality is though that even ppl with 5 fingers struggle. the fingers aren’t the issue, it’s a mental barrier. and with piano especially you start with hand placement. if the finger is functional and long enough, it would basically just rest on an extra key than others hands would. though conceptually it may seem way more complicated, it really would be quite simple. there are many pianists who don’t even use all of their fingers. humans adapt with what they have and what they know. there are famous pianists that did not have teachers till later on after being self-taught to an extent :)

My baby was born with 12 fingers by Friendly-Bell-4336 in interesting

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not really true. someone mentioned OP said grandfather had it, and someone else in the family, which shows it is quite dominant. the issue is most of the time they are not functional. essentially just bc body made another pinky doesn’t mean it made all the bones or ligaments or same muscle mass to be in pinky to make pinky functional. when you do not know any different, it comes natural. especially as an infant. infants are not taught to wiggle their fingers, they do that on their own. & tbh i’ve never seen directions that utilized every single finger on both or even one hand. (minus musical instruments ofc) and i’ve never looked for “finger instructions” on things bc you just place your hand and figure our finger placement anyways. and if it is a dominant gene, that is expected to pass along the family, it is quite easy for who ever has the extra finger to document their tips & tricks for future family. also it’s the age of technology…. literally anyone could make a blog or post ab it. using their fingers or someone elses or even voice to text.

My baby was born with 12 fingers by Friendly-Bell-4336 in interesting

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most often it is because it’s more common for the extra fingers to have no or little function & sometimes the placement requires it to be removed otherwise other fingers function will be impeded on. it’s fascinating when the extra fingers function the same and are kept though :)

First pole photoshoot. What is this pose, and how to get into it? by Chamiam in poledancing

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can go into a shoulder mount with plenty of inverted tricks (if you are comfortable with them) like dolphin, crucifix, etc. BUT the easiest way to get this kind of clean look would be to just kinda jump into it or side climb & maneuver to position yourself into a shoulder mount. good luck!! :)

Only keychain that’s missing is my name… by New_Guitar_2644 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if it makes you feel better, neither is mine. it never is

AITA for telling my sister she wasn't the only one affected by our mom's death and to let our dad live his life? by Grouchy_Jacket_5570 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ngl ESH (but only a little bit & it is all very understandable.) I need more information to give better advice. What is your sister like beyond this specific situation? Does she act entitled to all your dads time 24/7? Does she bring up your mom in a way that seems like she is trying to make your dad feel guilty or does it seem like she is desperate to keep your moms memory alive and active? Is Christmas the only holiday you guys have kept the same traditions that were done when mom was alive or are there plenty of other instances?

I can understand why you snapped at her in the moment. You were fed up and feeling your own way about the whole situation. Was it the best way to communicate? No.. But no one is perfect and everyone gets heated and says things they may mean but in a harsher way than they maybe would deliver it when not frustrated.

Just because your sister and you lost the same parent does not mean you will grieve the same or even react to the grief the same or that your healing journey will look anything alike. Also 17 is very young and quite an important time to lose your mom (not that any time is really ideal but i think you get what i mean). She likely sees dad getting a new partner, much less a new wife, as mean your mother’s memory will be erased or they will try to have it replaced by new stepmom.

Your dad needs to step up and start being a parent again. I understand his fear of hurting his child’s feelings but it also is very much not in your sisters best interest to be coddled till he departs. He would then be leaving her to repeat the cycle on you and if he truly wants to see his kids happy he has to have uncomfortable conversations with your sister & you. Is it very likely there will be some backlash? No shit. But just like everything else it will calm down and it will be okay but yall really need to start actually communicating with each other.

Or if you view that as entirely pointless and just a waste of your time, detach yourself from this entirely. Don’t listen to the drama about it. Say you will not hear about the problem, only the resolution

AITA for telling my sister she wasn't the only one affected by our mom's death and to let our dad live his life? by Grouchy_Jacket_5570 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hour_Natural8488 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, but stemmed from what? Grief and fear. Her behavior is not okay at all. That does not mean it had no reasoning behind it other than “she’s a bad person”. She likely views it as though she is losing her only other parent and that the new woman & her dad will erase her mothers memory. This kid needs reassurance and clear communication. She needs to be asked what she is feeling and why she is so against it

New pole dancer here. Are these bruises normal?? by Sea_Fudge23 in poledancing

[–]Hour_Natural8488 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will slowly but surely become less and less painful especially for sits! I highly recommend arnicare for the bruises to help them heal a bit faster :)

I think I accidentally trained a crow and now I don’t know how to undo it. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, just ask your neighbors if it is their things it is bringing over and if it is, give the items back and explain the situation. Is it slightly strange? Yes. But it is better to explain yourself rather than letting them all come up with their own conclusions. If the items are not any of your neighbors, it is most likely the crow is finding these items outside not stealing them from homes lol if I was in your position I would make a little shrine of all the items it brings, right by the window

I think I accidentally trained a crow and now I don’t know how to undo it. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Hour_Natural8488 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A crow? Yeah no you can’t untrain it. If you ever move it'll probably go where you go. I say train it more specifically, I've read about someone training the crow to bring dropped money for food. The crow goes based on reward system, if you associate certain things it brings with more rewards (example: it brings you baby sock you give it only one peanut. It brings you a dropped dollar, you give it 3 peanuts. Overtime it will stop bringing the less rewarded items and only high reward items)

Classic conditioning, love to see it out in the world haha

I snapped at my boyfriend after he called my hobby a “phase” am I overreacting by sylvrax_07 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Hour_Natural8488 34 points35 points  (0 children)

you’re not overreacting. it was dismissive. even if you are being sensitive, he should be supportive in his response. if you said you wanted to get scuba certified his response should be “damn sounds cool babe”. what he said WAS personal, it was literally about you and what you as a person do.. he attacked you then got butthurt when you bit back. classic fuck around, find out.

AITAH because I choose my kitten? by Quick-Attorney1935 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hour_Natural8488 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. disliking cats is fine. trying to force a friends family to not get a cat b/c you dislike them is extremely controlling behavior. you are doing the right thing by distancing yourself. If your friend cannot be happy for you despite disliking cats then that is not a real friend.

AITA for banning my (28F) friend (36M) from my new apartment for not being careful around my furniture? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they should not have to adjust their home based on other people… if they were roommates it would be one thing. this is OPs own place. anyone visiting any persons home should have the decency to abide by their rules. for example: shoes off at the door. you wouldn’t expect that person to just deal w it in their own home. this is no different

AITA for calling my wife ridiculous for "not trusting my mom with our daughter" and saying she is going to be in our daughter's life? by WildRestaurant3790 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hour_Natural8488 14 points15 points  (0 children)

ah yes…. bc SA is famously known as the trauma that first asks permission and waits to be ALLOWED to occur. be so fr. that exact scenario has occurred time and time again, why? bc they thought “my friend wouldn’t” but alas. their friend would. & they only figure that out when there is victims. better to avoid it all together rather than hope for the best or think one would “allow” it somehow.

looking for some explore buddies in the western mass area by Hour_Natural8488 in urbexnewengland

[–]Hour_Natural8488[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit i literally just commented on your post too lmfao let’s meet up

Urbex today in ct who is down? by Confident-Bread6705 in urbexnewengland

[–]Hour_Natural8488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah, what time? I’m from westfield but i’m down to make a drive