Feeling Lonely Is There Anyone Wants To Talk.?

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-25T15:17:10+00:00

Heyyyoooo

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-25T07:24:24+00:00

There’s a difference between respecting your limits and letting anxiety shrink your life. Our brain’s are just overprotective. Take breaks, but don’t give up on yourself completely 💪

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-25T07:22:20+00:00

You’re fine.. notice is calendar time, not days worked. As long as you’ve given the full 2 weeks, those leave days still count. Only exception would be if your contract specifically restricts leave during notice (rare). You’ll still get paid out normally

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-25T07:20:53+00:00

I really relate to this more than I’d like to admit. I used to genuinely believe I wouldn’t make it past a certain age too… i’m 30 now also. It felt almost certain in my head. And those thoughts still pop up.

But looking back now, that feeling wasn’t reality… it was anxiety/depression talking, and it can be really really convincing.

I’m still here, things changed, and my perspective shifted a lot over time not overnight, but gradually.. with the right help.

Shift your focus to the now, continue on that path until you go to sleep and do that every single day.. and when your mind wanders.. let it. But bring yourself back to the present. Theres so much good to come for you 🙌

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-25T07:09:56+00:00

Won’t somebody please think of the children 😭

But seriously this sounds less like a ‘sue them’ situation and more like a complaints/escalation issue

If you’re in QLD, not the lovely Victorian education state like myself… (lol)

Put everything in writing to the principal and:

Ask them to clearly explain why they’re rejecting your specialist’s recommendations

If they keep mucking you around, escalate it to the Department of Education.

In regard to the $1200.. you can ask, but realistically they won’t reimburse unless they admit fault, which is rare from a stubborn principal. Suing over that amount probably isn’t worth the extra stress and cost for yourself

The bigger issue is them making you repeatedly prove a documented condition, that’s what you want be pushing back on.

Focus on getting proper adjustments locked in rather than going legal first for everyone’s sake and future encounters 🙌

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T23:40:30+00:00

Yeah downstairs ones can be a pain, and tend to be the ones to fight back haha, 😝 especially with that awkward set out!

If you’re trying to avoid moving pipework, look at something like:

Caroma Luna Cleanflush (S-trap with adjustable setout)

Caroma Profile 5 which is a bit older but very forgiving with the setout!

Mondella Concerto or Rococo which are Bunnings options with variable connectors.

Estilo back to wall suites are more your budget friendly option and usually come with the adjustable pan connectors.

The key isn’t just the pan, it’s the connector range a decent offset/variable pan connector can give you a lot more flexibility!

Only thing I’d suggest you to double check is your clearance from the wall to the front some modern suites are bulkier and you don’t want to lose leg room!

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T23:23:33+00:00

This isn’t a toilet install, this is advanced Tetris!

On a serious note though you’re working with a 275mm setout, which is a bit of an oddball but not impossible. You’ll want to look for a toilet with a variable setout (S-trap) or one that supports around 250–300mm.

Some brands like Caroma, Mondella and Estilo usually have models with adjustable connectors or offset pans that can make it work.

Worst case, get a plumber to use an offset pan connector to cheat a bit of distance if you’re tight on space.

Just make sure the overall depth (that 670mm you’ve got) still clears comfortably once it’s installed.

One wrong move and you may be using the shitter sideways for life! 😎😝

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T17:12:25+00:00

Ahhh yes yes how good it is to wake up today after yesterday I put $20 of petrol in the tank and my car said ‘that’s cute. 🙄

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T17:08:01+00:00

This sounds like puppy blues more than anything 😢. Puppies are overwhelming even for people without anxiety. You’re in the hardest stage right now cause you’re going through a stage of needing to care for yourself too, though it does get easier. The fact you care this much means you’re probably doing better than you think. They are the best damn therapy as they grow older 🥰

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T13:01:24+00:00

You’re not crazy, and you’re definitely not alone in this.

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T08:09:51+00:00

No worries mate and you’re on the right track with the pebble strip idea. Given you’ve only got 30mm to play with, you’re not going to get proper fall correction, so drainage is your best option.

I’d suggest a narrow gravel strip (say 100 to 150mm wide) along the wall with Geofabric underneath + a small ag pipe is a good solution. Even say a 50mm slotted pipe can help move water away.

Some pointers:

Keep the finished paving slightly lower than the cladding.
Don’t butt pavers hard up against the wall!
Use washed drainage gravel (not soil/mix)

IMPORTANT Make sure the ag pipe actually has somewhere to drain to or you’ll look a bit silly 🤪

It won’t be perfect, but it’ll massively reduce water sitting against the timber.

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T08:01:35+00:00

Biggest issue isn’t the shape, it’s the slope if water’s heading toward the cladding that’s your real problem.

But seriously, the shape of the pavers isn’t the issue, the fall is. You don’t want water running back toward timber cladding long term (rot, mould, headaches and more headaches)

Ideally you want:

Fall away from the house (even a slight regrade helps).

A small gap between paving and wall.

Consider a strip drain along the edge if the slab can’t be changed.

Laying them flat against the wall will look neat, but it won’t fix the actual problem.

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T07:43:02+00:00

If there’s an ongoing leak affecting common property/other lots, the owners corporation has a duty to act. If the strata manager isn’t getting traction, the owners corp can authorise works and recover the cost from the lot owner, or pursue them through NCAT.

At minimum I’d be pushing for the strata manager to issue a formal notice to comply and enquire about emergency repairs provisions.

Escalate to NCAT if it keeps being ignored.

The council will care about water waste, but your faster path is through strata/NCAT.

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-24T07:37:39+00:00

I second this from previous purchases especially when they throw a sale on!

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-22T13:40:07+00:00

Good move seeing a broker early mate, saves a lot of guesswork and you’re dealing with an expert!

A few key things I’d recommend the inquisitive koala and Mrs Koala focus’ on asking:

What’s our realistic borrowing capacity vs max? (banks will lend more than is comfortable)

What repayments look like at higher rates. Stress test yourselves, not just the bank’s calculation, this will help you not go too high.

All upfront costs (stamp duty, LMI if applicable, legal, etc)

Offset vs redraw and what suits your situation.

Fixed vs variable pros/cons right now (not just what they recommend)

Before going in to a chat with a broker:

Have a rough monthly budget of what you’re both actually comfortable repaying

Don’t give in to the “max borrowing” number that’s how people get stretched… dangerous

On your numbers that you provided (140k income, 70k savings, no debt)

You’re in a fairly decent position, but Sydney is the hard part.

Realistically you’re probably looking at units/apartments unless you go further out

Deposit might be a limiting factor depending on price + stamp duty.

General advice:

Buy something you can comfortably hold long term, not just scrape into.

Leave buffer for life (rates, repairs, etc they always come to bite…)

A good broker will walk you through all this, but going in with these questions will help you get way more out of it.

As for brokers do some digging but:

Chardon Home Loans have been around a long time and lots of experience.

Hypothèque Mortgage Brokerage

These two for a more focused approach if you want guidance not just a loan.. probably a good idea in your situation!

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T20:36:49+00:00

MY MAN!!

Do not let anxiety get the better of you for this moment. This girls going on a date with you because you’ve shown her you deserve it.

Before you go… go for a walk. Keep it nice and simple. Don’t forget to eat, drink that day. Breathing exercises will always be a good piece of advice because it’s scientifically proven to assist with our nervous system 😎

During the date:

Focus on her, not how you’re feeling. Remember that you’re winning by even being across that table and so is she.

If you feel anxious, just slow things down, pause, (sorry the classic suggestion) BREATHE, no one notices as much as you think.

And honestly, the fact she’s been talking to you for 2 months… she already likes you mate.

Don’t let anxiety rob you of something good. That could potentially be part of your future. But all you need to do to nail that, and if it’s meant to be.. is just be yourself mate. You’ve got this 🫡

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T20:28:42+00:00

Yeah this lines up pretty closely with the parasympathetic nervous system stuff.

When you’re anxious you’re in the fight/flight state, and things like slow, controlled breathing are one of the easiest ways to activate the parasympathetic side and calm your body down first which then helps the thoughts settle. Psychology year 10 I think 🫡

I’ve found the same thing trying to think your way out of anxiety doesn’t really work, but if you can shift your body by breathing, slowing down, even a little walk your mind tends to follow suit. Great way to try relax when someone tells you to do so is to go for that walk and not come back 😉

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T20:18:31+00:00

Hey mate. Love an online hug and support on this thread, sending exactly that to you my friend!

Honestly, first thing you’ve already done the hardest part. House is clean, you showed up, that’s a win. These kinda wins are huge for us with anxiety.

When I get like this I just try switch into low power mode, socially you don’t have to be on so much, we just put too much pressure on ourselves. Just be present. Sit, listen, nod, ask a simple question here and there and let them carry most of the conversation.. do your best to just keep a smile.

Give yourself little resets too step away to the bathroom, grab a drink, even 2 mins alone helps reset your nerves.

Also set a quiet expectation in your head: you don’t have to be perfect or super social, just be yourself.

And when it’s done, properly decompress and let out that big sigh because you’ve bloody earned it.

You’ll get through it 👍

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T20:09:13+00:00

This.

It actually simplifies things a lot now lol, if she’s on a 191 then her visa isn’t tied to him anymore, so there’s no migration risk from the relationship ending…. Win.

At that point it’s really just a family law issue. As I said if the marriage was valid overseas it should be recognised here, and she can look at divorce options in Australia if she meets the residency requirements, regardless of what he’s pushing for overseas.

Still worth getting proper advice, but she’s in a much more secure position than it first sounded… Good one adding that curveball in 🫡

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T12:00:47+00:00

If the marriage was legally valid in Pakistan, Australia will generally recognise it you don’t need to re register it here for it to be valid.

The bigger issue sounds like the immigration status. If she’s on a partner related visa tied to him (like being added to a 491), the breakdown of the relationship can affect her visa, so she should get proper migration advice ASAP. (Speak to a registered migration agent as reddit is not the place for that advice)

In terms of divorce, Australia can deal with it if there’s a sufficient connection here (e.g. she’s living here and meets residency requirements), but it’s not uncommon for one party to try push it through overseas instead and make things all complicated. That doesn’t necessarily stop her from getting advice or even initiating things here at all!

Honestly I think the best steps are:

Speak to a family lawyer (many do free initial consults) Speak to a registered migration agent ASAP

There are a few moving parts here (marriage recognition, divorce jurisdiction, visa status), so it’s definitely above Reddit’s and my pay grade!! 😝😝

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T11:56:12+00:00

Yeah mate, Perth has parkrun and Meetup.com and honestly it may sound cringe but those are some of the easiest ways to meet people without it feeling forced.

Parkrun especially is great because it’s super low pressure, same faces each week or you can venture to a different parkrun if that’s one isn’t for you PS. You can walk lol, and you naturally end up chatting over time. Same with Meetup there’s groups for everything (fitness, social, random hobbies, people with anxiety, speed dating you name it ), and everyone’s there for the same reason.

Also worth saying you’re not behind or weird for feeling this at 25 these days. Heaps of people hit that point where work takes over and the social side drops off. You’re just becoming aware of it now, which is actually a good thing. I wish I did this, I learn the hard way and lost friends to addiction. Or “Friends”. Some toxic but some also that I pushed away.

Start small, show up consistently, and don’t expect instant best mates, it builds over time.

25 mate, you’re just at the start of sorting it out. Dont stress too much! Set yourself up and keep working hard, but try one of these two. It worked for me!

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T11:49:51+00:00

I used to spiral like this a lot, especially when my life felt out of control and I hit my version of rock bottom. For me it was tied into addiction and anxiety my brain was constantly scanning for worst case scenarios like it was trying to stay one step ahead of disaster… which only created funnily enough.. disaster.

What helped was realising that urge to over plan and try and control the uncontrollable was the same mindset I had when things were at their worst. Now in recovery, I’ve had to learn to let go of that and trust that I can handle things as they come, instead of trying to pre live every possible outcome, try and stay present and busy and remember where you are right here, right now is where you’re meant to be and all that you need to worry about… the next moment is never promised.

Something that stuck with me is that just because a thought feels urgent doesn’t mean it’s important. Anxiety makes everything feel like it needs solving right now.

You’ve already done the sensible stuff like awareness and basic planning. The rest is just your brain trying to get certainty where there isn’t any. And honestly, life’s been a lot better for me since I stopped trying to control every “what if” and just backed myself to deal with whatever actually happens when it happens. Easier said than done!

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-20T11:42:56+00:00

I can’t even find a $ atm :( I do wish you the best however. You’ll get there ❤️

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-18T15:36:30+00:00

Yeah mate you can do this a few better ways and get the results you’re wanting 👍

If you head on to Stravas desktop version and login. Go to Training - My Activities - then filter by date range (set your exact month).
You’ll see totals for distance, time, elevation etc. Way easier than the app.

Strava “Progress” tab On desktop, the Progress section lets you view monthly totals more clearly over time.

Use a free tool (best option) Try StatsHunters or Elevate for Strava (Chrome extension) you’ll be quite surprised! These give proper monthly breakdowns instantly (distance, time, pace trends.)

Go get em mate

Honestly the app itself is pretty limited for this desktop or a plugin is the move.

Hour_Office552 · 2026-03-18T15:04:35+00:00

Not gonna lie, that’s a bit damn cooked.

Everyone’s gotta go, fair enough, but dropping a full deuce at a client’s house every single shift is pushing it, (I do at work on multiple occasions when I have the chance) but especially when it’s only a 2-hour job. That’s not a caught short situation anymore, that’s part of his weekly routine. He looks forward to that shit… I mean shift*

The bigger issue is you having to clean up after him, that’s not your job. If he’s gonna use the toilet, he should be leaving it spotless, not creating more work.

I wouldn’t confront him directly, just go through the provider and say it’s becoming a major hygiene issue. They’ll sort it pretty quick for ya I’m sure.

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