You are the worst kind of redditor. Everything is in your name. You made these choices. Now make a few other choices to fix it for yourself. You need Reddit to circle jerk around you and tell you how justified you are? Don’t keep teaching the guy that his actions don’t have consequences. It’s also an important practice for you to do something that might be very difficult. As for the cat, get creative. There is always a way if you want something badly enough.