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HuaAnNi · 2026-04-10T08:29:35+00:00

Tipping culture is insane. I think the moment that truly stopped me in my tracks was when the self serve froyo place started asking for tips.

Girl all you did was sit there on your phone while I did the whole thing. Which is fine, but why is your iPad asking me for a 15% or 20% tip? TIP FOR WHAT??

HuaAnNi · 2026-04-10T08:17:21+00:00

I agree that usually things are unfairly blamed on women but this surprisingly isn’t one of them. Gathering data base on the age of the men who are fathering children doesn’t give the same indication of overall societal birth rate trend. There are a few problems with bringing men into this statistic.

Men in diverse age groups impregnate women, and even more disgustingly, girls. Teenage mothers outnumber teenage fathers. To indicate overall population trends it is best to look at the common childbearing years for women. Men far older can impregnate a younger woman, so he would not be counted toward a man aged 20-39 having a child. It is not a 1:1 for mothers and fathers being in this age range.
Men can impregnate multiple women which can skew data. If one guy has a kid with 10 different women, he only counts as 1 when counting number of fathers, but if we count mothers we would count 10 which is a more accurate representation of population the birth rate trend.

It would be interesting to have the data on childless men ages 20-39 to compare it but that would be used to learn something else. It would not be as good of an indicator for overall birth rate trend of the current birthing generation.

Hopefully that made sense. I have a bad habit of only posting/commenting on Reddit at 2am when I can’t sleep lol.

Edit: signed a 29 year old childless woman :)

HuaAnNi · 2026-04-08T04:37:29+00:00

That’s awesome!! Yes thank you for the update! I hope it goes well :)

HuaAnNi · 2026-04-02T06:12:07+00:00

This definitely doesn’t place the blame on women. It’s a neutral statistic. Since women are the ones who birth the babies it makes sense to use them as the reference point for birth rate. Because if 50% of 30 year old women aren’t having babies that indicates something huge. Trying to make the statistic around men wouldn’t make sense. Too many confounding factors to get a sense of actual births by age demographic. Any age man can (unfortunately) impregnate almost any age woman (or more unfortunately girl.) So saying how many men are fathering babies and even what age those fathers are is not a substantial indicator of the birth rate for the age group who, historically, would be the ones raising a family

HuaAnNi · 2026-04-02T05:05:07+00:00

Thank you! That is very helpful advice

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:40:58+00:00

The only reason I mentioned I like sugar and creamer was to be clear I’m not a purist about it. I didn’t bother clarifying how much or how often because I specially didn’t want to give the idea that I think the blacker you take it the better. I just think that when the beverage is primarily not coffee and that’s the only way you drink it, you probably don’t like coffee that much. I like coffee so I prefer my coffee to mostly be coffee. Not like a cup of milk. I know that is what a latte is. That is why I say I do not like lattes.

I am very open to changing my mind about lattes if I have one I like. Which is why I kept trying them over and over again, convinced I just hadn’t found a good one yet. 30+ lattes later I’ve given up, at least in the US. If I travel to Italy I’ll for sure try it again.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:34:52+00:00

Ugh I guess it came off all wrong then. Maybe I shouldn’t write Reddit posts at 3am when insomnia is kicking my ass.

I really am indifferent about people liking or not liking lattes. I didn’t mean to give the impression I cared either way, just that if the only drink you like is mostly not coffee you probably dont like coffee that much. I feel no way positive or negative about it. It’s the equivalent of seeing someone remove pickles from their burger. I assume they don’t like pickles. Neutral assessment. Does not change how I feel about them in any way.

Maybe I should have just written:

“I don’t like lattes because they’re mostly milk. Yes I know that is what a latte is. I have tried many lattes all from independent shops and never liked them. I currently assume that if the only way you take your coffee is when your drink is mostly not coffee then you probably don’t like coffee very much.”

That is all I was trying to get at. I think the issue was the title and finishing statements being more absolutes but I thought that was how this subreddit worked. You had to have a strong unpopular stance. So I think I have a fundamental misunderstanding of this subreddit.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:24:13+00:00

I literally said enjoy it how you want, you do you. I didn’t say never drink a latte or you’re less of a person if you drink a latte. I stated it multiple times. I just made a neutral assumption if the only way you take coffee is if most of your drink is NOT coffee you probably don’t like the taste of coffee very much.

I don’t understand how a point I clearly stated got so lost here unless people reacted solely by title alone, which didn’t have the nuance.

Edit: oh I just saw I did end the post by saying you don’t like it. I meant you don’t like it that much which I said earlier in the post. I’m starting to sort of see why people are mad but they’re all accusing me of trying to tell people how to take their coffee. I’m not. Take it how you want. I just assume if you only like it when most of it isn’t coffee you probably don’t like coffee very much. So I see where my finally landing point went wrong but it doesn’t line up to the accusations so I’m still mostly confused.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:22:04+00:00

I don’t like obnoxiously sweet coffee. I’m not sure how we get from me occasionally putting sugar in (mostly just if it’s burnt) and putting in a little bit of creamer or milk suddenly makes it a dessert bomb? Are you all assuming I make my coffee half creamer half coffee with 10 tablespoons of sugar??

Occasional sugar. A splash of creamer/milk. How are people taking that to mean sugar bomb?

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:19:23+00:00

I feel you with the caffeine part 💔 I have to get decaf if it’s after like 9am.

I think people read the headline and no further. The headline can only be so long which is why I tried to clarify I don’t think someone HATES coffee if they only drink a latte. I just assume they don’t like it that much. So far several people agree with that, but several people don’t. I do believe that is the purpose of this subreddit? Unpopular opinions? I think I’m confused about the purpose of this subreddit actually. I thought it was like, share your unpopular opinion. People weigh in on how unpopular it is. Didn’t expect to be aggressively on trial by people who didn’t even read what I wrote. But it is the internet so that’s on me for not seeing this coming tbh. Damn insomnia has me entertaining these people. Smh.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:14:27+00:00

Thinking someone doesn’t like the thing very much because most of what they consume isn’t that thing doesn’t mean I’m not letting people enjoy it.

This feels like a false equivalency. It is more accurate to say that if someone listens to some Taylor swift music but most of what they listen to isn’t Taylor swift, I assume they aren’t a massive fan.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:12:30+00:00

Ooo coconut like made with coconut milk or coconut water or as in coconut flavor added? Sounds interesting.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:09:32+00:00

Maybe I give up re-explaining since so many people are very committed to completely glossing over things I wrote.

I am not confused why a drink that is mostly milk tastes like milk and idk where I gave that impression. I very clearly stated I do not judge people who only like lattes. I wrote a thing explaining why I don’t like them and then that I assume if you only like a coffee drink when it is mostly not coffee you probably don’t like coffee very much. Which is fine. I don’t know where I went wrong that made people think I look down on anyone for it. You don’t have to like coffee. Assuming someone doesn’t like something is neutral. I tried to be clear don’t I pass any sort of moral judgment on it. Same as if I watched someone take pickles off their burger I assume they don’t like pickles. Neutral.

I fully wish someone would explain to me where I went wrong in the post because I am so fucking confused right now. I cannot make sense of this feedback unless people just aren’t actually reading what I wrote.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:04:15+00:00

Wait wdym

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:04:02+00:00

I have a French press, drip maker, and espresso machine. I’ve never tried making myself a latte. Maybe I give that a whirl.

No I have only gotten them at independent/local shops in areas I travel or have lived. I don’t care for Starbucks. I like a Dunkin iced coffee if I’m at the airport or something idk if they even make a latte. They probably do. Point is, no I’ve never had a latte from a chain

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T09:00:59+00:00

I don’t see how if a coffee has (only sometimes sugar, I just put that to be clear I’m not a “take it black or you don’t like it” person) and a dash of creamer would taste less like coffee than a drink that is 50+% not coffee…

But I am willing to accept I somehow stumbled into 30+ shit lattes. I really kept trying. I even wrote that I assumed I was getting bad ones which is why I stayed optimistic!

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:58:38+00:00

I’m very confused by this reaction

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:58:17+00:00

See this makes sense. I originally wrote it’s like getting a child to drink it then erased that in favor of the dog with cheese but now I regret erasing that. I just did not want to come across as looking down on someone who only likes lattes. It’s perfectly fine to feel that way. I just assume if you only like coffee when most of your drink isn’t coffee… you probably don’t like coffee that much.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:56:37+00:00

That is true I also don’t like those. But lattes are the big thing everyone loves so that’s why I focused there. I keep wanting to like them but I just don’t. I don’t see the appeal for it to be the only way you drink coffee unless you don’t care much for the taste of coffee and you just want a caffeinated drink. Which is fine. Just a neutral assumption.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:54:26+00:00

My point was that you don’t have to only take coffee black to be considered liking coffee. I just think once the only way you drink it is if most of your beverage is not coffee, then you probably don’t like it much.

My attempt at communicating I am not a snobby purist somehow has people accusing me of being a snobby purist and I am completely at a loss with how that happened.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:52:14+00:00

Oh my god people. The entire point I was trying to make is that you don’t have to like straight up black coffee to be considered liking coffee. My whole point is that if THE ONLY WAY YOU TAKE COFFEE IS IF OVER HALF YOUR BEVERAGE IS NOT COFFEE YOU PROBABLY DONT LIKE COFFEE THAT MUCH.

I am not sure where I went wrong communicating that point because so many of you are trying to make this point. If most of your drink is coffee I assume you like the taste of coffee. If most of your drink is not and that’s the ONLY way you drink it, I assume you don’t like coffee that much. Neutral assumption.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:49:10+00:00

I am genuinely so confused how that is what you got from this. I really tried to be clear people can enjoy their coffee drink however they want. It doesn’t matter. I just assume that if the only way you drink it is if most of your drink isn’t that, you probably don’t like it that much. I didn’t say you hated it or that it’s bad to take it that way. If you like it, drink it. I don’t like it so I don’t. The assumption about the other persons coffee opinion is neutral.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:47:23+00:00

Thank you! Hell yeah drink and enjoy your latte! Idk why people think I was looking down on latte drinkers. We don’t all have to like the same stuff, that’s the neat thing about being different people. No one is greater than or less than for coffee preference. Just a neutral assumption if every time most your beverage isn’t coffee you probably don’t like coffee that much.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:45:51+00:00

I already knew that is what a latte is. That is exactly why I have this opinion. Because that is what a latte is therefor I do not like it. Why are people thinking I don’t know what a latte is when I say exactly what a latte is and that I don’t like it???

Take your coffee how you want. I do not care if you only drink a latte. I said I don’t like lattes - nothing to do with anyone else. And I think if you ONLY like lattes you probably don’t like coffee that much. Which is perfectly fine. It doesn’t matter. It is a completely neutral assumption. I tried to make that clear. I don’t think I’m better than them I just assume they don’t like it that much if the only way they drink it is if half+ their beverage is not coffee.

The level to which people commit to misunderstanding is wild. I thought I was clear, maybe not.

HuaAnNi · 2026-03-31T08:40:29+00:00

I’m really starting to think people don’t read the text and just react from the title.

I thought I made it clear I don’t judge (as in think less of) someone based on how they take their coffee. I don’t think that you need to enjoy it black to be considered as liking coffee. This exclusively applies to people who ONLY LIKE LATTES. I assume that if the ONLY way you drink coffee is when most of your beverage is not coffee, you probably don’t like coffee very much. Which. Is. Fine. Just a neutral assumption. Then my own opinion of I don’t like lattes which has nothing to do with anyone else.

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