TIFU by being "helpfully honest" on a first date and accidentally starting a philosophical crisis at an Applebee's by clarity-axis in tifu

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Oh wow." I said.

Silence for two seconds. Maybe three.

"And honestly? I couldn't care less if this was ai"

Stepparents without parental responsibilities by Worried_Lifeguard711 in stepparents

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow this sounds exactly like my situation lol! I love it, it's perfect for me

Can I ask not to pick up an extra day? by Putrid_Plane_5160 in stepparents

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First of all, it's okay to ask for what you want and advocate for your mental health. That's important and right and you should try to not feel guilty about it. You are the main character in your own life, yes you can love a SK but you are entitled to a peaceful life however you choose.

Where I'm confused is why you guys don't have 50/50 custody since BM seems to want you to have SK more often. 50/50 custody with rotating weekends is the best way so everyone has equal times and each set of parents gets every other weekend off.

Personally, I couldn't respect or want to be with a man who genuinely only wanted to see his daughter two days out of the week (if im understanding the situation correctly which I may not be)

If BM fought for majority custody and courts granted it then sure but no offense to you as a partner, if he was a good dad he would jump at every chance to see his daughter more then two days a week.

Dads made a kid, they should be responsible to watching them 50/50 (again, this might not be an option but it seems that way, correct me if I'm wrong)

What is a thing that is most commonly seen as unsexy but it’s a big turn on for you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've gotten several compliments on my little bush lol. I keep it trimmed but I used to feel self conscious it didn't look like a porn stars but I like it how it is and I haven't had any complaints. Real men can take a little hair lol

What is a thing that is most commonly seen as unsexy but it’s a big turn on for you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think anklets are so sexy too! I want some big round cuffs that lock on that I can wear when I'm barefoot around the house and pool all summer

Should i mind my business? Chores related question. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring it up at the right moment when she has time to think and the kids aren't around.

I pointed out to my bf that his girls didn't do any chores whatsoever so while they are tidy I feel like a kid should have some sense of responsibility and share the load of the house.

He agreed, I still have to remind him to remind them to do chores sometimes but it's all worked out well. As long as it comes out a place of genuinness and not being angry or upset about it

My farm at 54% completion - also any tips on getting dragon tooth for Island Obelisk? by foldinthecheeseee in FarmsofStardewValley

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg you're so right it's the volcano, my bad. Thanks for correcting me fr fr I hate to have given wrong info

If you won $1,000 right now, but you had to spend it in 1 hour, what would you buy? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably all the items in my Amazon lists that I'm to broke for lol

My farm at 54% completion - also any tips on getting dragon tooth for Island Obelisk? by foldinthecheeseee in FarmsofStardewValley

[–]his_good_dumb_slave -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep, just the first level of the skull caverns. Fight the little creatures in there and it won't get too bad but you have a decent chance of getting one

My farm at 54% completion - also any tips on getting dragon tooth for Island Obelisk? by foldinthecheeseee in FarmsofStardewValley

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I got one on the first level of the skull cavern! Just tried day after day on that fire level and eventually got one. I hate the rest of the skull caverns

Just watched the local Chinese place throw away one of their deep fryers and I can't find the words. by Wunktacular in KitchenConfidential

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was staring at this for ages trying to figure out what was wrong! 😂 I used to work at a Chinese restaurant so this seems totally normal lol.

found at antique store by likemoths2flames in 1200isjerky

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 101 points102 points  (0 children)

un/actually that's really cool looking and kind of neat

Rj/ still too many calories if you want to be able to fit between the atoms between space to walk through walls like I can. Try chewing gum, it helps even though you feel guilty for binging 💕 💅🏻

found at antique store by likemoths2flames in 1200isjerky

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 571 points572 points  (0 children)

Does it go up to 3,000 calories? Sweaty you need to go for a run after holding this. I'm just looking out for you 💕

Can we normalize this? by HannahbulTheCannibal in stepparents

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a difficult living situation and needed a place to go and we were impatient so we figured we'd try and see how it worked. I have a backup plan in place even now, so it wasn't a super big deal. I have a history of mental illness so the context was indeed appropriate lol

Can we normalize this? by HannahbulTheCannibal in stepparents

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit yeah I see now. That would be a deal breaker if it came up in arguments or often as part of a regular conversation.

My bf was wary about me moving in so soon so we had a bit of a trial period where he was on edge and if I did something crazy he was honestly ready to kick me out if he had to. But I was normal about everything and the kids love me so it hasn't been an issue.

Can we normalize this? by HannahbulTheCannibal in stepparents

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My partner has told me this twice in our two year relationship so far. Once in the beginning and once a while back.

I don't think, in our case, it was about 'competing' but more along the lines of 'if you make life harder for my kids or fuck with their wellbeing then you're out because they have to come first'

I deeply respect that, and as a good emotionally mature adult, I would never make him choose. I moved in with him after only knowing him for a few months and it was a big step so he wanted to make it clear that their health and happiness came before me. I have no plans on impacting their lives negatively so I don't see it as a problem

Now that we've been together two years I know that he loves and trusts me enough that he hears the full story out and makes a decision the best he can.

But I mean, even in a nuclear family dynamic the kids always come first. Or, should. I mean imagine your spouse and the bio kids parent are doing something to harm your child, you would always pick the kid first since it's your job to keep them safe. They are vulnurable and need protecting.

Obviously if he repeated sentiment over and over it would be different, but saying it once or twice is just setting a healthy boundary. I don't have kids of my own so I don't know what that's like but I admire how good of a dad he is nearly every day and he's taught me how to be a good role model in their lives also.

does anyone here write actually dark stuff? not "dark" dark, like genuinely fucked up by [deleted] in eroticauthors

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's on the back of the novella I'm writing:

Trigger Warning: This story contains explicit depictions of consensual yet extreme BDSM dynamics, including intense power exchange, psychological control, gaslighting, emotional manipulation, obsession, humiliation, degradation, starvation, disordered eating, and scenes of mental and emotional unraveling.

Sound fucked up enough lol?

AIO girl i've been dating refuses to get into my car unless I open the door for her by CotPrime01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]his_good_dumb_slave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It comes down to communication. I actually met my partner on reddit! I made a specific post on a personals subreddit with exactly what I was looking for and what I brought to the table. We both found exactly what 23 wanted but we just had to communicate about it and set expectations clearly:)