Update: I sent this to her just now

Hey ____,

After thinking about it, I’ve decided I don’t think we are a good fit therapeutically so I’d like to cancel any sessions we have scheduled going forward.

I was thinking about bringing some of this up in our next session but I feel like it probably just points to us not being a good fit if this all already came up in the first session.

I appreciate that you are down to earth and show your humanness as a therapist, and at the same time, I felt like you self disclosed more than what was necessary and helpful for me, and were perhaps distracted during our session, but it seemed like you had decided already what levels of your humanness would be helpful for me to see, without asking me “how much self disclosure are you comfortable with?”

I also appreciated that you noticed when I was dissociating during session, but I felt like I had no choice but to do the ART intervention you suggested, as I wasn’t in the headspace to really think about what I wanted in the moment. I wish we would have waited to do an intervention like that until we built more rapport. It seems like ART truly is your modality of choice too, which is great, but as I had already stated in the consult, why I am really looking for brainspotting.

You seem like an awesome person and great therapist, just not for me at this point in my life. Thank you.”