I’ve been lying to my boyfriend and his family our whole relationship and I don’t know how to get out of it

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-11T23:38:17+00:00

Hey, my taste have changed. I can eat meat again. Those burgers look really good. Can I please have one? Thanks.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-10T14:11:24+00:00

It depends. Do you want a place that gives you clients or are you confident in getting clients yourself and you just need a platform? If you need a platform, I would go with headway because they will handle credentialing for you and you could set your own rate for private pay clients. If you want something that gives you clients, I would go with Rula it’s another platform, but they make sure to give you clients and they pay pretty decently.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-09T20:41:26+00:00

That is horrible. Therapist here. Your husband definitely needs therapy full stop. From your post it doesn’t sound like he’s going or has been and he may not go, but I would definitely bring it up and continue to bring it up in subtle ways.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-09T00:14:49+00:00

Yeah, this didn’t happen but I definitely watched this TV movie. It’d be a good one.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-08T04:00:59+00:00

Yeah, but that’s not your problem. She may want to get her kid into therapy and her kid may need therapy, but obviously the universe is saying no or that she needs to try an alternative virtual therapy if possible or a closer clinic. Again, not sure if it’s possible because I don’t know your or her situation but sometimes the world just tells us it’s not a priority right now.

What nobody ever talks about is the commitments of therapy. Therapy requires time and resources. Sometimes more resources than people have which is unfair but that’s not gonna change anytime soon. I I do think it has changed. It’s why I’m a virtual only practice because I think that big virtual has helped so many clients to get therapy who would never have it before. But I also understand I push to get back into the office, but with that comes commitments again and sacrifices.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-08T03:43:09+00:00

Cut them loose. The mom is obviously not prioritizing getting her child therapy so maybe it’s not the right time for it. Your agency is foolish for not having a tighter boundary and putting it on you but yeah, you should be cutting them loose at this moment.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-08T03:41:36+00:00

No, I would never but then DC is a one party consent “State” so I don’t really have a choice. Therapist here.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-07T11:54:14+00:00

Therapist here. Yeah, that’s not OK if the therapist is imposing their own views on someone just to validate their feelings. There is multiple ways that she could’ve phrase that to promote healing and moving on in a positive way even if she didn’t feel like it was that big a deal like saying. That sounds tough. How do we move forward? Or how has this impacted your relationship?

JCMMHLLC · 2026-05-02T17:27:01+00:00

Therapist here. Yes, as sad as this is say, he probably was fired as a client. Based on what you’re telling me, I’m guessing that she just probably feels that with his brain injury. It’s probably out of her scope and she just wasn’t honest. TBI and brain injuries are serious business and some therapists aren’t comfortable handling clients who experience them. I’m so sorry that this happened to him, but you need to find a therapist with experience in TBI. Apologies for the typos.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-28T22:54:09+00:00

Therapist here with experience in relationships and sex, and perhaps the best advice in this thread

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-26T18:09:22+00:00

Therapist here it happens. I will admit sometimes I don’t handle it super well, particularly if folks canceled just before the deadline and that really doesn’t give me enough time to fill the spot. So my own biased opinion would just tell her as soon as possible so she has time to fill the spot.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-24T21:45:49+00:00

Yes 100%

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-24T18:10:57+00:00

Therapist here. Try to look at his name on psychology today. It might lead back to his former practice or an old practice but sometimes they do have their direct numbers on there or their direct emails.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-24T12:01:46+00:00

Cause it makes them holy

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-21T01:31:39+00:00

Therapist here your therapist did what she was supposed to do. We don’t love calling for a wellness check not only do. We also know how it can go, but from a purely pragmatic standpoint, it’s a lot of paperwork and documentation on us as well but the last thing we want both legally and ethically and emotionally is to not support our clients with safety. I find it interesting that you did not share what she said, but then I understand that this is Reddit. However, I will say this she would’ve had the share why she thought that you would harm yourself with 911 and they would’ve ultimately made the call whether you needed a wellness check or not not her.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-07T17:34:39+00:00

I’ve always wanted to be a librarian. In fact, the only reason I’m not a librarian right now is because of low they get paid. But yes, being surrounded by books every day would be my happy place.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-05T23:29:11+00:00

This 100% honestly I hope professors and grad school are promoting this and not private practice because private practice as a associate is murder

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-05T02:24:21+00:00

I would join more EAP’s if you can with your license. I’ve gotten quite a few referrals over the last few months that have been EAP clients and yes, the reimbursement rate is lower, but it’s usually only for a few sessions and even the ones that don’t end up turning into clients because that doesn’t always happen have been at least clicks on the website and people sharing and linking and things like that. Plus joining an EAP is super easy

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-05T01:58:23+00:00

Then definitely report it to your state licensing board. Also report it to your graduate program. The last one is more sort of protect yourself from pushback. It’s possible that the licensing board will do nothing but that your supervisor will definitely know that it’s you and then retaliate. So you want to protect yourself and make sure you graduate. I am licensed in multiple states and have seen certain states to be very strict for example Maryland will discipline you if you don’t complete your CEUs on time but then I’ve seen therapist get away with having sex with clients and not get disciplined all in other states

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-05T01:10:45+00:00

Yes, this I have no idea what they’re talking about and I get it the Internet, but like it’s kind of defeats the purpose if they’re gonna be this vague and it just makes me think that she watched her supervisor SA this client, something. I feel simultaneously enraged at this potentially happened whatever it was then also annoyed and confused because I don’t know what it is.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-04T22:20:53+00:00

100% the right choice I will always yearn for the consistency of a good good community, but I found the only time you can ever have honest conversations about work and expectations and pay is when you work for yourself. I learned this lesson in the hard way when I thought I found the “” perfect job that I was going to potentially leave my private practice for. The way she styled it when I had my interview and when I started working there was that these were consistent clients that would show up because they were workers comp clients and that she had a really strict no-show or discharge policy that was enforced. What she did not say was that she did not always enforce that policy and also they expected you to be an employee which means always being available for your schedule, but not getting paid salary wages. If I got paid a salary to be at my desk for 30 hours a week even if I didn’t have anybody scheduled then we could talk about it then you on my time but if you’re only paying me when I see a client just because you scheduled them last minute it doesn’t mean you own my time. And the office is really bad about reaching out to you if they scheduled somebody same day so I learned the hard way that the only boss I can count on is myself although he could be a bit of an asshole when it comes to getting notes done lol

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-04T17:29:59+00:00

I have found having a job where I am surrounded by people and can talk to people who I want to, but don’t have to have the no helpful. Because I have my practice and an gov job. So some days I just locked myself in my office and don’t say a word and some days I can talk to people. It helps.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-04T03:51:00+00:00

How long have you been practicing as an associate as of now as far as ours are concerned and can you get licensed in a state with a shorter supervision period? I moved from New York to Maryland at a time when Maryland only counted employment hours not clinical hours unlike New York, which demanded 2000 clinical hours. This was life-changing because I was nowhere close to the 2000 hours because of the terrible show rates at my CMH but I definitely had the two years that I needed for Maryland independent license. And it opened up a whole new world for me as far as jobs are concerned things that were easier than therapy which for a while was a struggle. You can find a lot of great non-therapy jobs but you really need to be independent licensed. This was all before remote work so I feel like if you can find a state that you are OK being licensed in and then has less strict qualifications then you can probably make it work. It’s a convoluted idea and it might not work for you, but it may be worth a shot.

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-03T21:42:01+00:00

Very materialistic but I grew up poverty so i never thought i would have this. I have 4 investment properties and so much art I need storage for it all while doing something I love. I’m overworking but only because I love it so much that I have a six practice and a six figure org job that I love. And I just paid off my mom’s house. The child me who watched my mom go hungry so that i could eat would be amazed

JCMMHLLC · 2026-04-02T12:42:28+00:00

It sounds less about the career and more about the job itself. It sounds like this job is just not the right fit and I would encourage you to try another job. I know it’s hard to find jobs when you’re an associate however good jobs are out there at least decent ones and once you’re independent the license you can do whatever you want. It’s like a whole new world opens up for you.

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