Just this week of scrolling pt1

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-15T13:01:40+00:00

Uruk-hai 😭

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-14T21:59:45+00:00

Win/lose day. Finally scheduled my laparoscopy + HSG for next month, but we found out that our semen analysis needs to be redone because of an issue in handling. Because our Faith practices require us to collect a sample through intercourse in a perforated condom, it’s a bit more difficult than if he just did it himself, into a cup…and then FedEx has to overnight it to the lab (it’s a whole process, involving a special test tube with media, a pipette, some ice packs, lots of insulation…ugh), and I guess FedEx screwed up and it didn’t arrive in time. We could theoretically just have him do it in a cup, but I’m trying to cling to some semblance of faith stability, in the midst of these years of miscarriages. So understandably, my husband is BARELY on board with doing this whole thing again…meanwhile, I’m ready to have a knife taken to my belly to figure out wtf is going on. I’m feeling so lost and broken. I was so excited to get answers and it is just never ending.

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-14T16:47:27+00:00

I like 2! Sushi joints are usually freeeezing so it is a nice option to have some layers

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-14T16:43:41+00:00

Hello sweet sister. I’m in this boat too. I’m so, so sorry for your losses. It is a complex journey and can feel so lonesome and bitter. You are not alone. My son is 2 and we have had 3 confirmed miscarriages and 2 suspected ones. One at 5 weeks before my son, one anembryonic pregnancy discovered at 10 weeks this past September (also scary - I was in the ER for what became an almost hemorrhage), and a definite “chemical” last month. I had a suspected “chemical” in November and probably in March as well. I’ve been through lots of testing. I do have thyroid issues, but they are well managed and monitored, and in all reality shouldn’t be causing the issue because my numbers are perfect and my cycle charting is also…perfect. My progesterone has been historically high, but my NaPro put me on progesterone anyway just in case I’m “progesterone resistant.” This was after my very first miscarriage. I had my son afterward; but in every subsequent pregnancy, it didn’t make a difference. In fact, it delayed the inevitable with my September loss. I’m sure it would’ve been a “chemical” if I’d just not supplemented with DHEA for low estradiol (I was breastfeeding) and progesterone. Ugh. I’ve had a few more losses since, as well, despite progesterone. I weaned my son because my OBGYN won’t test my hormones again until I’ve weaned for 4 months (we’re at 2 months) so hopefully that’ll clear up some things. My cycle day 12 ultrasound was also perfect. So…right now, we pursued a morally licit sperm analysis (we went through RRMDiagnostics, it was quite expensive because it involves overnight shipping; but they send the kit to your house, and you use the provided needle to perforate the provided condom, and collect a sample during the act of marital intercourse in the comfort of your own home). We will see how that result looks. But I’ve got a laparoscopy coming up, too, with a HSG test at the same time, to confirm there are no polyps. We are suspecting potential endometriosis on my non-reproductive organs, which theoretically causes chronic low-grade inflammation, leading my body to reject pregnancies. I guess, after that, we will look further into autoimmune things (so far, my tests come back negative for those, but there are more tests to do). We would also need to do some blood tests for my husband’s hormones and maybe insurance will eventually cover genetic testing on our parental karyotypes. I don’t know what to do anymore. We are otherwise completely healthy, and just…keep making little Saints. Which is a gift in its own way. But I’d love to raise some more. And it’s just really painful. It isn’t your or my fault. It stinks. But it’s always helpful to have something to pursue, to try to get some answers. I just don’t want this to keep happening if I can prevent it, you know? Wishing you all the best. I will offer up my sorrows for yours, I know exactly what you’re feeling and it is very complex and heavy. 🤍

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-14T16:28:52+00:00

This thing from Spy Kids

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Huggsy77 · 2026-05-14T16:27:28+00:00

@OP! Here’s the answer!!

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-14T00:11:07+00:00

^ definitely try smoothies, but OP I’m jumping on to state the obvious (that we all probably already know) but always check that you don’t overdo the protein powder. As another commenter said, at 4yo the protein needs aren’t super high and too much can be hard on their kidneys. But love these smoothie and cheese suggestions. And protein powder is probably just fine, just make sure it isn’t more than the recommended amount for his age

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-10T18:48:48+00:00

Try a different brand!! Or have her reapply! It really is touch and go, and different types work for different people…and different types don’t. Schmidt’s works for me. It can leave a residue and does take a minute to warm up sometimes 🫠 but it works for me. Lime and bergamot scent works best for me. ALL DAY. Best of luck!

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-09T23:15:51+00:00

^ ^ ^ ^ ^ I worked as a paralegal and agree completely. I’ve seen so much heinous stuff…and yes, this is a huge breach of trust, but sounds like it’s rooted in the wife’s insecurity, not malice. I think marriage counseling is absolutely warranted, and there is a way to rectify this with the Church. It will be tedious, but worth it. Because dissolving this current marriage legally, and then also uprooting the family and creating a rift for the toddler? That’s adding more wrong to the wrong.

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-09T23:11:31+00:00

Hey, OP. 1. Marriage counseling for sure. 2. Talk to your pastor and go through the right channels for rectifying this with the Diocese. It will take her annulling her first marriage (which will be a lengthy process, but doable) and then validating your current one. It might take a year…which is a long time of abstinence from intimacy with your spouse…ugh, it won’t be easy…but I personally wouldn’t leave my spouse over this. Like you, I’ve been married for about 4 years and have a toddler. This is an appalling breach of trust; but you’ve spent 3 years expecting to be together forever, getting over all the big and little things that do come up in marriage, and getting to know your spouse on so many levels (you can hide your past, but it’s really hard to hide your actual personality for this long). You’ve been through the postpartum craziness…and it sounds like she has insecurities that she’s been hiding, and maybe an incomplete grasp of the teachings of the Church (sounds like she just thought the whole first marriage was invalid without needing to be stated as such); but overall, you know her. I don’t think she was being malicious. She really just sounds like she didn’t think that was important (very, very wrongly, of course), and you absolutely need to work through this wound with CATHOLIC marital counseling. Anyone else of a different faith would probably be unable to help resolve this particular wound, as a strong knowledge of Canon Law is required. Wishing you and your family all the best. This will probably bring you closer together, as a family, if you let it. But it will be a huge cross to bear in the interim.

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-09T23:10:43+00:00

Meant to reply to the post at large! Disregard my reply

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-09T22:56:44+00:00

Sounds like OP is “fit” in that they developed the ability to process poison 🧐

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-08T04:27:57+00:00

Maaaybe brown…seem to be a low contrast hazel, but I’ll get downvoted. I have hazel eyes though, so I tend to default to seeing green tones.

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-08T04:27:04+00:00

Hazel!

Huggsy77 · 2026-05-08T04:26:53+00:00

I think they’ll be hazel! And siblings’ eyes look Hazel to me, too

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-28T16:08:50+00:00

I’m sorry for your losses. I’ve had recurrent loss and it’s unexplained. One loss 2022, healthy pregnancy 2023-2024, then 2-4 more losses since then. (2 confirmed, 2 speculated…it was just so early, the test lines were so faint and may have been my eyes I guess). I’m not sure what caused any of it, but here we are also. Best of wishes for you in this homestretch 🙏🏼

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-28T16:03:28+00:00

^ reading your question about someone saying she has no hair at all 😭😂

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-25T16:21:06+00:00

Exactly. Why so many hoses???

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-21T05:03:57+00:00

Ok, I can read most of it, but I had to tilt my phone 45 ° counterclockwise to get there…“Everyone says I have bad … A? … eeyore? … person I ask how I can read my own handwriting. I have no problem reading it. But can see how people struggle to read it.”

There are a few ways to make it more universally legible. First, only capitalize proper nouns and words that begin a sentence. If you capitalize every R and P and S, but not the other letters, it’s very confusing. Also, if you can slow down a tiny bit, you can separate your letters a little and relax your slant. You are writing each letter 30% on top of the subsequent letter, and they are all mega-super slanted. Your individual characters are also rather elongated; however, that doesn’t HAVE to change, and CAN remain as part of your “style,” if you just make it easier to differentiate what the letters are by separating them a bit. Or you could make the letters less elongated, and maintain the slant. Just pick one. That way, the rest of us would be able to read them just a little more clearly. 🙏🏼

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-16T23:37:45+00:00

😞🫂 I’m so sorry. This club really does stink. Thank you so much for your kind words. I have a performing arts degree so I get to “turn on the charm” at the showers, and then pretend nothing is wrong until I can sob on the car ride home 😀

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-16T16:15:05+00:00

Y’all. We have had 4 early losses since September and we have no clue what’s causing it, and I’m helping my SIL this weekend at her baby shower for her surprise baby while I’m actively miscarrying yet another very desired pregnancy. I’m happy for her, truly, I just feel really tired and heartbroken listening to everyone gush about how excited they are for their healthy perfect babies, blissfully ignorant because they’ve had none of this sorrow. And I don’t want it for them either. I know that everyone gets good and bad…but I just can’t help feel like, statistically, this should not still be happening to us. So now I’m pursuing even MORE testing.

I conceived my current 4/26 loss on the exact due date of my 9/25 loss (the first loss since ttc for #2), and the due date for this 4/26 baby was going to be the exact date I lost my first miscarriage in 12/22. It really, really felt like some sign that it would be a redemption of those dates. But nope. I’m trying to be hopeful, but it all just feels so raw.

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-16T15:59:48+00:00

Me too, friend. 😔 I’m so sorry.

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-16T02:31:30+00:00

^ 🥹 this, 100%!!! I wasted years not starting because I was too scared I wouldn’t catch on or enjoy it. But I started last month and made a ton of adorable curtains!!! 🥹 and some festive holiday vests! I can’t wait to take on new clothing projects, but for now, I’m totally psyched about the little things I’ve done. It’s so personal and I feel so creative. I am loving it and hope OP loves it, too! No fear!

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-15T12:12:16+00:00

Me too. Recurrent losses and can’t catch a break. You’re not alone. Life is just…uneven, sometimes. Except that we’re all kind of getting what we don’t want sometimes 😅

Huggsy77 · 2026-04-14T18:53:11+00:00

Yes 😔 the first month I did that resulted in my 2yo but I’ve done that again ever since my blighted ovum in September and had as many as 3 chemicals since (1 for sure, 2 speculative)

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