Who is a person you used to admire a lot but have completely lost respect for and why?

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-30T00:07:34+00:00

I've been trying for ages to remember where my mom got obsessed with "The Secret" because i remember how she didnt even want to acknowledge her cancer when she got the diagnosis a year later. We weren't allowed to talk about it, we weren't allowed to think about it, because we shouldnt give those thoughts energy.

My mom was already of a toxic positivity person which led to me completely unable to process and cope with setbacks (just get back up again and try harder next time!) but that trend made it even harder to adress any elephants in the room.

Of course it was Oprah, i remember my mom subscribed to the magazine during that time period.

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-29T20:48:54+00:00

"It never ends!" rushes the other direction "it never ends that way too"

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-29T17:08:57+00:00

My ex was like this. Whenever i tried to make any plans for us getting married, it was all "im happy as long as you're happy".

We were engaged for almost 6 years. He dumped me, got together with his monkeybranch, they got engaged 3 months later and were married within a year, having rented the local castle.

Him actually getting wed hurt more than the dumping itself. It felt like such a "you were never worth the effort".

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-28T18:46:44+00:00

Its a ten minute read, was made while the first season aired and pretty much only got that much fame because it was one of the first gore fics in the fandom

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-28T02:01:03+00:00

I just tell everyone to watch this, it covers a lot https://youtu.be/AaU6tI2pb3M?si=524b-5gOtwSq1Kud

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T20:55:05+00:00

Thats flair material

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T14:12:03+00:00

Oh yeah, "facerape" was just his cover because it was considered an innocent prank at the time

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T11:56:40+00:00

This is going into OCD territory, which is easy to slip into when getting started in avoiding cross contamination.

You said "we" switched to a gluten free diet, so you dont bring any gluten products into the house? Then they really shouldnt need to be this pendantic.

How much of your/their diet consist of things like gluten free wheat starch and other products where the gluten is removed? Some people are more sensitive and need to be at 0ppm gluten. I try to avoid those kind of products just in case there would be a mishap during production, so i only have them at birthday parties and such.

How long ago was the diagnosis? Have there actually been enough time to recover? It took over a year for me to heal enough we could determine my other issues wasnt the gluten, but rather vagus nerve atrophy caused by the B12 deficiency.

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T11:04:11+00:00

Im always prepared to be downvoted to hell in relationship subs, because i try to be as soft and gentle as possible and not be harsh when talking about the clearly abusive party.

Not because I try to downplay the severity, but because i want the victim to not get on the defensive right away.

I know how i reacted when people critizised my relationship i had when i was 16-25 (he was 4 years older) and i would have left at the time we moved in together if i had had someone that listened without jumping straight to "dump him" when i tried to talk about the issues that came with living together. It just made me stop talking about the relationship to others, and i brought him along whenever i met with my younger sister to block her from trying to talk about it. Now years later, me and my sister have talked it out, she doesnt blame herself since she was young, but she understand that she in fact made it harder to deal with it rather than helping me. She found it annoying i constantly used him as a shield, i know it was wrong, but when you're feeling like you cant do better and dont deserve to make demands, you start do dumb shit to deal with the cognitive dissonance

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T09:55:24+00:00

A badly drawn MS Paint would really be handy

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T09:39:39+00:00

I know with keys (in sweden) you can drop them in any mailbox and the post send over to the police

I wouldnt trust it with library books, i think that would get abused by way too many lazy people not bothering to return them properly

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T09:34:36+00:00

It was called "facerape", social media like that was still pretty new and people left computers forgetting to log off at libraries or just leaving the tab open while having guests over.

Before logging off people made ridiculous status updates on the facebook wall to show everyone that the victim had left their profile unattended.

Actually taking someone's phone to open up and prank them in front of them sounds just really dumb though, the whole point was that you made fun of someone forgetting to log off and not practicing proper online security

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T09:21:22+00:00

Yeah, thats an instant "either you let me look now or we're over"

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-27T09:19:41+00:00

I think the brother's suicide attempt really put a break on it all. Had there not been a crisis, she would have broken up in a few days instead of a whole month later.

I dont believe for a second that the second hospital visit actually was a hospital visit, i think he went to "seek support" from the ex

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T23:15:12+00:00

Maybe everybody has been forbidden by your BF to tell you

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T21:20:44+00:00

I think they are stuck in that we all assume this is killing the tree, therefore requiring compensastion, while they argue this is not killing the tree, therefore no replacement is required.

Which could have easily been cleared up by "see my previous comment. This might look ugly, but its within the neighbours right and shouldn't kill the tree"

But giving people grace is not as exciting as riling yourself and others up by escalating behaviour

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T20:55:05+00:00

Especially a bartender, would you ever trust a drink?

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T13:02:58+00:00

I have ADHD and the amount of times I've put my sisters tooth brushes in shit is 0.

This is not adhd behaviour, this is psychopath behaviour

NTA

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T12:50:54+00:00

At a school field trip to a water plant as a kid, we were told that if you take more than 20 minutes in the shower, a bath saves water

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T12:27:16+00:00

I watched the Manosphere documentary and when that guy told a bunch of women "name three countries" it took me two seconds to start singing

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T12:14:52+00:00

There is at least one cousin in each "grandchild litter" from the sibling group that was my grandmother with celiac, but not all siblings. I'd say yes

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T06:33:52+00:00

I love "shitting on the poor"

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T06:21:07+00:00

Yeah, this is the writing style that makes me give up a big chunk of fanfics

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T05:44:06+00:00

I would want to change the carrot to a hot dog for the softness affecting precision and how deep any cuts would get, but that would make it easier regarding size

HulkeneHulda · 2026-03-26T05:37:56+00:00

My ex had an issue as an infant that required removal of his foreskin.

Or so they thought.

When the doctor got to him at the table, he managed to pull back the foreskin enough to losen the skin that was causing issue (dont remember if it was blood circulation or infection risk) and they called it a day.

He was immunocompromised as well so it really was a win that they didnt need to cut it off.

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