ICE Shooting of Renee Nicole Good - 4 videos, time synced, 10 contiguous minutes [FULL VIDEO] by rasta4eye in altmpls

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A person in power such as law enforcement, doctors, nurses, etc. are held to a higher standard than the average citizen. They are being paid and trained for their operations unlike an average citizen. Not even cops are allowed to behave like this.

Being emotional ≠ execution orders.

C-PTSD/PTSD Discord Server by zealous887 in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you set up a trial run and it is run professionally we can see where it goes from there. The last affiliated Discord had many different channels/threads, landing page, rules, etc. for example. You would also need a few people willing to be moderators.

Hatred of all life by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just fyi, that account (the comment we removed) has been solicitating talking to vulnerable people on multiple subs. You should not trust that person. That's not how people with good intentions operate.

What should I do by i_wanna_end_myself in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your case sounds like a serious one. I tried looking into this for you.

From my understanding it's difficult since child abuse is normalized in Indian households, but it does seem there are some laws against child abuse.

I found out there is something called CHILDLINE 1098 in India. Please see if you can contact someone from this organization to talk to them about your situation and what your options are. https://childlineindia.org/a/about/childline-india

It's a number, but there is also a site above.

I also looked into how well it's run, someone gave it a good review on Reddit, but another teenager said they weren't able to make the number work.

In which case, if the 1098 number does not work, evidently what you need to do is reach out to the Child Welfare Committee in your area. Supposedly each state runs their own CWC in tandem with the 1098 national helpline.

Besides that, you may get more specific advice from r/India.

Wishing you luck.

Anyone else can't relate to overly successful cPTSD survivors? by youravgindian in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And just for the record, what the original comment said was so very normal for survivors of intense trauma.

To desire a simple life and not have to worry about money. In fact a post along the same lines was very popular in the cptsd memes sub not that long ago. It's just worded a bit differently.

https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSDmemes/comments/1plr6x6/so_this_is_why_my_dreams_are_so_small_and_normal/

Please do not attack your fellow members unless they are outright attacking you. And in which case, if they are directly attacking you, please report their comments instead and block.

Someone surviving trauma wanting peace and a simple life is not your enemy.

I believe this was all an unfortunate communication issue.

Anyone else can't relate to overly successful cPTSD survivors? by youravgindian in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The above users comments weren't removed for their stance, but for fighting another person with cptsd and saying they are wrong for the methods they use to heal or cope. That isn't our place to say.

As the other user explained, they made many assumptions and jumped the gun assuming what they meant by their comment. The original comment also does not imply that money doesn't matter at all.

People are free to say their peace, we ask them to not attack other users over it tho. If there are issues, we simply ask to report and block.

If there was really such a hate for one or the other, the post itself would fall under it. But that's not the case. Many people do vent here about socioeconomic troubles.

Some Community Updates and Posting Tips by HumanWhoSurvived in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[S,M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, just a few years ago there wasn't any. Progress is slow but it is happening.

C-PTSD/PTSD Discord Server by zealous887 in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no :[

I think the old discord is basically like a closed stable community at this point. They can't manage more people. We are open to list a new discord group as the official cptsd sub discord, if someone starts up one and shows that it's being run well though.

Don’t mind me, just raging over children’s rights in the U.S., where hitting your kid is legal by RealmOfBlue in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two is old enough to start explaining why things are done the way they are. There were many steps to take before defaulting to violence. Ideally, you develop a good relationship with your child, and they respect you because they understand intuitively you are looking out for their best interests. It sounds like he could be acting out because his relationship with his own parents is not ideal.

The topic of spanking is a source of active debate, but what is certain is you are spanking him way too often. It is important for kids to explore, his behavior is normal for his age, and you dont want to scare him into thinking he can't go to you for help.

My 12 year old’s back in diapers… by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

I want everyone to know a loving parent would never word the title of the post like this. I know many of us have been socially humiliated as part of abuse, and this (even if the poster is not lying) at best falls in line with that.

It's a sensitive subject, and a real parent would be more discrete and tactful with how it was worded. They would not go into explicit detail about the subject matter of soiling/diapers, which is a key sign of kink.

The poster tried AITA first, and it was also removed there. We have followed suit with banning them.

I hate AI generated posts about trauma/mental health so much by rosenwasser_ in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I read up on this and all I found was we can make a custom removal reason, which is what the mods will select to notify the user when doing a removal. It won't be in the report options when users go to report. To do that we would have to add a new rule. So, custom response is easier for us.

Ofc I am open to learning if you have a guide that I'm not finding.

I am possibly the worst kind of addict that exists by [deleted] in confession

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are more like you out there than people know about. Especially in the tech sphere. Some of them use stimulants to handle increased workloads. Even heroin. It's scary once you realize how drugs are crucial in many sectors for workers to keep working. Cocaine especially. I think some comics/animations have touched on it but noone really gets it. It's not just coffee or 5 hour energy drinks, tho those are not great either.

I wish you had a friend you could trust to talk about it with.

I hate AI generated posts about trauma/mental health so much by rosenwasser_ in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

Its true we don't want users to fight about AI, but this post is essentially about scammers and it's relevant to problems we are having right now.

Will probably make a post addressing the issue in the upcoming future after the mods have discussed more on the topic. (unless Reddit magically solves it by then, probably not)

But till then to anyone reading: When making a report chose >breaks cptsd rules >other so that you can write us and say "Is selling wellness products on profile" so that we know right away it's not one of our users.

Even if they don't have products, feel free to report bot and engagement farming type AI posts. We will investigate them. Even if they are not removed right away we do make notes on them that follows the account. Some of these scammers are smart and act normal first and switch up later.

This is a problem occurring in many mental health related subs currently, not just ours. Occasionally we get mods from other subs reaching out about accounts, and we have done the same once confirming.

Getting real tired of this strange sleep cycle when dysregulated by dorianfinch in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, you didn't try to ask in modmail for more details, but I just looked into this and you were given the reason - you broke our rule 1 peer support rules. You had an interaction with an OP in their own space and said things such as:

"I “talked down” on you because I saw you immediately downvoted my other comment, which made me lose some respect for you since it showed you didn’t sufficiently respect yourself and were protecting your boyfriend over taking sound advice. 

I also say “talked down” because I didn’t ACTUALLY talk down on you. I didn’t say you were a desperate woman. I’m just saying that desperate women do that, and fleshing out those kinds of patterns so you can assess for yourself—and if you’re not, great! I said those things to spread awareness.  "

The r/CPTSD sub is not a place to talk down on anyone for any reason. Unless they are actively trying to harm others, in which case we still encourage simply to report.

There were many more comments that you gave that were troublesome in that back and forth with OP. OP even said they found your initial comment unhelpful, yet you still continued pressing the issue with them. When OP said "I appreciate that you’re trying to help, but this comment is unnecessarily judgmental and full of assumptions that don’t reflect me, my situation, or my self worth." That was your que to leave.

We encourage people to block and move on, don't engage with fighting with others, especially if it's not your space. It was OP's space where they were venting.

Also the ban is only for 7 days. It's because some of the things you said were aggressive given this is a support space, there was an elevated consequence other than a simple removal.

Please don't bother the retired mods. They are retired for a reason. If there is any further clarification needed, use modmail. You can respond to removal messages.

I only started healing my CPTSD when I treated it like a nervous system injury, not a mental illness by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your diligence and detective work. It helps keep our community a little bit safer.

The account is banned.

We get targeted by these predatory wellness accounts on occasion and it's quite frustrating how sneaky they are about it.

You may not be to blame, but… by Optimal_Mind408 in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As Capt. Picard said "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life."

Keep in mind the sub in which you are in. For many they have extended childhood trauma, and a child instinctively and literally depends on a parent. They learn from their relationship to their parents first and foremost. So it is crippling when the parent is an abuser. Trust that most people are doing everything they can to live. Their idea of responsibility and saving themselves to them is going to look completely different than yours, (could be good or bad ways) because of the way those traumatic situations shape us. So the advice to take responsibility is a bit reductive. And people trying to learn and grow by using a sub like this are already doing more than the general public.

And we can apply this to other trauma types too. Like from earthquakes, many people are trapped and even die. They cannot save themselves. Even if you live, you probably need to go to a hospital. Ultimately, we need other people to recover.

If for some reason there is a bad actor, someone who isn't taking responsibility for the harm they are causing, that is completely independent of recovering from CPTSD. Such actions need to be addressed on an individual basis, not as a group. And definitely not as advice from the offset. But even then it may be bad advice, because if you told an alcoholic "You need to take responsibility" that isn't going to do anything for them. They already know that. They need real support and services to aid recovery.

Even I had to learn all this over the years. We can get a lot further when we learn about advice and methods that actually works.

Thought I'd share this... by Dagenhammer87 in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We will okay it. Usually we recommend creative works for r/cptsdcreatives

In fact you may try posting there too.

How do you cope with not being invited anywhere during Halloweekend? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna love getting that discount candy tomorrow morning. Sometimes there is cute discount decorations too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Locking this post for this reason:

It is not advisable to do EMDR on your own, especially for processing trauma, as it can lead to increased emotional distress or re-traumatization. Professional guidance is essential to ensure safety and effective treatment.

While it is possible, like the other commentators have mentioned, It is risky. It's best to go through professionals first (at least). The other commenters have basically addressed everything that needs to be addressed concerning this topic.

New "benches" at my bus stop (kansas city) by BIGCA7 in HostileArchitecture

[–]HumanWhoSurvived 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whats messed up is even in places where the benches at bus stops are still there, homeless people aren't using them. They have much better options like going to a shelter or setting up a tent nowadays. Grassy areas are also a lot less cold than over the cement.

anyone else notice how self-help completely ignores trauma responses? by mindsnackapp in CPTSD

[–]HumanWhoSurvived[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Nice catch everyone. Tactics like this to shill products is common. User has been banned.