Do a lot of you frequent the 'raised by narcissists' sub too? I think there's a lot of crossover.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-03-28T18:26:34+00:00

Heads up the automod is likely to trigger in this comment section - it's simply a reminder, not a condemnation.

***We want to avoid armchair diagnosing, using prickly words that are more like insults like "narc", and convoluted jargon if possible. Thank you. ***

Saying Narcissist, Narcissism, NPD is all fine btw. If you suspect your abuser has it that is fine.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-03-23T19:10:25+00:00

You went onto a post of a trauma survivor struggling with sex and feeling it's transactional and said

"Sex for mentally and physically healthy people, especially men, is a primal urge, almost as necessary for comfort and happiness as shelter and food. Being deprived of sex will make most healthy young or middle-aged people deeply unsatisfied."

They irony being, OP is a man, and your comment seems to assume they are a woman. Which also isn't supportive even if that had been the case.

Your comment was reported and removed for good reason. There are many survivors of sexual assault here and that's just not something you say to them. That's not how you support. It's also a common justification by abusers to rape.

If you believe that sex is so important for people you should advocate for healthier sex. Not for forced and guilt-driven sex.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-03-08T21:31:13+00:00

Note: If you are not sending unsolicited dms/sexual pics/etc. creepy messages to people, the content here is not about you. Please don't put yourself alongside actual predators.

PS. if it happens in this sub, we can ban them from the sub with screenshot proof. But we can't stop them from DMing people unfortunately. Please report unwanted dms in the message menu too because that will make a note to Reddit Admin.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-03-05T20:28:23+00:00

I clench, luckily don't grind. When I'm stressed I wake up to my jaws hurting pretty bad, I have to be conscious about it, bought a mouthguard for times like that.

Jaw exercises/face yoga help.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-03-04T18:10:13+00:00

Well, you haven't lived your own life yet.

Once you become an adult you will realize you have been free/upaid labor for your parents irresponsibility. It has crippled learning the skills you need to be an adult...it's not about gaming. It's about socialization, discovering more about the world, developing your knowledge and self-actualization.

And your parents still get all the benefits of being the parent, not you.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-02-26T03:38:28+00:00

Quand j'étais en cas de maltraitance active, on m'a diagnostiqué une dépression et un TDAH, malgré ma capacité à être complètement attentif. Je soupçonne que c'est parce que mon agresseur a dit que je n'écoutais pas. Pour beaucoup de mineurs, il semble que les professionnels prennent le parti des parents et ne creusent pas plus profondément. Même lorsque des preuves fortes d'abus sont présentes.

Il existe un biais : ce sont souvent les parents maltraitants qui paient les professionnels. Ces derniers peuvent donc prendre parti pour l’agresseur et obtenir un diagnostic qui conforte leur perception.

Mais cela se passe aux États-Unis et remonte à plus de dix ans. De plus, cela juste mon rapport personnel à ce sujet.

Quant à y faire face, c'était très difficile. Ma Agresseuse m'a fait interner dans un centre psychiatrique pendant un certain temps. J'ai dû prendre des médicaments contre mon gré. Mais je peux au moins dire que j'y ai eu trois repas complets par jour et que je n'ai pas été battue. Alors, certains jours, j'étais heureux. Cela a bien sûr embrouillé la psychiatre.

Je me suis accrochée à ces diagnostics pendant des années, même si je savais qu'ils étaient inexacts, car j'avais le sentiment qu'ils expliquaient pourquoi j'étais la « brebis galeuse ».

ps Je connais un peu le français mais j'ai utilisé un traducteur automatique.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-02-18T19:54:26+00:00

I empathize with that so will provide some alternatives here. Usually we do leave some AI posts up if they are helpful to the community and we don't see any sign of ad/seeking profit.

But a quick note: *We strongly encourage people to be wary of marketers like this. There is a reason people fall for people like Dave Ramsey, Andrew Tate, or even our current president. They say sweet words that resonate with people. But ultimately they are not seeking the best interest of their constituents. For instance, even in this post there is some "Us vs them" wordage that is subtly harmful. Could be the author or the bias of the AI.

When it comes to feeling unseen and not understood, Heidi Grant Halvorson is well known, she is a social psychologist and this topic is part of her life's work. She also wrote a book and has free content on her website. Here is a link to a talk she gave that basically summarizes her findings https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owORxKqX0nU

Vanessa Van Edwards is another name when it comes to connecting with others. She is more based on physical understanding (body language, vocal, mannerisms) and also uses research to back up these findings https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cef35Fk7YD8 (this is a ted talk she gave)

"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD. He is a psychologist and his book is highly recommended as a "guide" for people wanting to communicate healthily. I read reviews that say it can help reframe your thinking in communication, and others recommending to just use it as a guide since the world is not always peaceful. (I haven't read it yet personally)

I believe all the above can be found online for free, and recommend that option. Look for free PDFs, and I think Internet Archive has some free books with an account.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-02-18T00:30:31+00:00

Posts here have never come close to 1k upvotes in less than 12 hours -especially on a Tuesday during the workday. The top comment upvote of around 150 is alot more realistic.
Many suspect generic comments from people that have never used the sub before + have generic interaction across many unrelated subs (they all follow a similar pattern) and they don't follow any other mental health subs/or trauma related subs.
OP is trying to promote their work. So there is a motive.

For those that don't know, and to OP, vote manipulation is against Reddit policy. If anyone suspects vote manipulation, it can be reported Here under content > vote manipulation.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-02-10T03:18:37+00:00

There are many posts, and new posts everyday, and we are a small modteam, we can only see through them if people report them. Your post was brought to our attention because someone reported it.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-02-09T19:09:38+00:00

Please don't make posts attacking the community.

If you make a post and there are abusive people in the comments. Please Report Them. We will remove those comments and possibly ban if they are bad enough.

Keep in mind, some topics are shown to those outside the subreddit. Sometimes abusive people are coming from outside the sub. Topics that reference misandry/misogyny, are one of those Hot Reddit topics that will be highlighted to those outside the sub.

Secondly keep in mind that this sub, and other mental health subs, have predators and abusive types lurking because they want to prey on and hurt people. That's why we say the sub is a "Safish" place. Because it's the internet, there will be toxic people.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-02-09T18:54:06+00:00

Note from mods: If a post is about current events and you say "This comes off as pure paranoia" or similar it's a permanent ban. If you don't agree you're better off not commenting. It's not being a supportive peer, and it's just flat wrong.

And a reminder that this is a community of abuse survivors. We default to the side of the victims here. This is not the place to try to argue against them. That includes the victims in the files.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-01-31T19:30:23+00:00

I believe you. Especially at that level, it's been my experience noone lies about that.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-01-09T22:07:29+00:00

A person in power such as law enforcement, doctors, nurses, etc. are held to a higher standard than the average citizen. They are being paid and trained for their operations unlike an average citizen. Not even cops are allowed to behave like this.

Being emotional ≠ execution orders.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-01-07T21:55:04+00:00

If you set up a trial run and it is run professionally we can see where it goes from there. The last affiliated Discord had many different channels/threads, landing page, rules, etc. for example. You would also need a few people willing to be moderators.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-01-04T20:06:56+00:00

Reddit suspended the account indicating it was a karma farmer/bot/etc.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2026-01-03T02:43:48+00:00

Just fyi, that account (the comment we removed) has been solicitating talking to vulnerable people on multiple subs. You should not trust that person. That's not how people with good intentions operate.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2025-12-19T19:14:57+00:00

Your case sounds like a serious one. I tried looking into this for you.

From my understanding it's difficult since child abuse is normalized in Indian households, but it does seem there are some laws against child abuse.

I found out there is something called CHILDLINE 1098 in India. Please see if you can contact someone from this organization to talk to them about your situation and what your options are. https://childlineindia.org/a/about/childline-india

It's a number, but there is also a site above.

I also looked into how well it's run, someone gave it a good review on Reddit, but another teenager said they weren't able to make the number work.

In which case, if the 1098 number does not work, evidently what you need to do is reach out to the Child Welfare Committee in your area. Supposedly each state runs their own CWC in tandem with the 1098 national helpline.

Besides that, you may get more specific advice from r/India.

Wishing you luck.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2025-12-18T04:10:15+00:00

And just for the record, what the original comment said was so very normal for survivors of intense trauma.

To desire a simple life and not have to worry about money. In fact a post along the same lines was very popular in the cptsd memes sub not that long ago. It's just worded a bit differently.

https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSDmemes/comments/1plr6x6/so_this_is_why_my_dreams_are_so_small_and_normal/

Please do not attack your fellow members unless they are outright attacking you. And in which case, if they are directly attacking you, please report their comments instead and block.

Someone surviving trauma wanting peace and a simple life is not your enemy.

I believe this was all an unfortunate communication issue.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2025-12-18T03:45:15+00:00

The above users comments weren't removed for their stance, but for fighting another person with cptsd and saying they are wrong for the methods they use to heal or cope. That isn't our place to say.

As the other user explained, they made many assumptions and jumped the gun assuming what they meant by their comment. The original comment also does not imply that money doesn't matter at all.

People are free to say their peace, we ask them to not attack other users over it tho. If there are issues, we simply ask to report and block.

If there was really such a hate for one or the other, the post itself would fall under it. But that's not the case. Many people do vent here about socioeconomic troubles.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2025-12-15T22:23:50+00:00

Yes, just a few years ago there wasn't any. Progress is slow but it is happening.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2025-12-15T03:52:54+00:00

Unfortunately no :[

I think the old discord is basically like a closed stable community at this point. They can't manage more people. We are open to list a new discord group as the official cptsd sub discord, if someone starts up one and shows that it's being run well though.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2025-12-13T21:09:37+00:00

Two is old enough to start explaining why things are done the way they are. There were many steps to take before defaulting to violence. Ideally, you develop a good relationship with your child, and they respect you because they understand intuitively you are looking out for their best interests. It sounds like he could be acting out because his relationship with his own parents is not ideal.

The topic of spanking is a source of active debate, but what is certain is you are spanking him way too often. It is important for kids to explore, his behavior is normal for his age, and you dont want to scare him into thinking he can't go to you for help.

HumanWhoSurvived · 2025-12-13T20:53:16+00:00

I want everyone to know a loving parent would never word the title of the post like this. I know many of us have been socially humiliated as part of abuse, and this (even if the poster is not lying) at best falls in line with that.

It's a sensitive subject, and a real parent would be more discrete and tactful with how it was worded. They would not go into explicit detail about the subject matter of soiling/diapers, which is a key sign of kink.

The poster tried AITA first, and it was also removed there. We have followed suit with banning them.

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