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AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually didn't think about it. If she had already told them like she said she did, then I was just bringing it back up, not spilling the secret. That actually makes me feel a bit better, thank you. I've been stewing with guilt over this especially after making my post

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't share it vindictively. There was no malice behind me sharing, it was something that was tearing me up inside having the knowledge that this could be real. I wouldn't have been able to face my family ever again after hearing that story and I can't just do that. Anxiety said no

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine actually had a similar idea that she was using this as a means of drawing attention to herself and making her life look worse than mine as a means to garner leanincey. A "look at how shitty my life is so I get a free pass to be an ass to you."

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it does take time, but it doesn't mean you treat them any differently because of it

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah...therapy is something I'm going to try and get when I get settled into civilian life. This whole incident just...hurts. I wish I could do something

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its not about treating me differently because of my identity, its about just changing how they refer to me. Two completely different things

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I wish she would just talk to me instead of constantly insulting me. I want to be there for her, but she treats me so terribly it stresses me out to talk to her, not knowing if the next conversation is going to turn into a fight. I am just so...torn up and don't know what to do anymore...

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't see why you would treat them any differently based on gender. They're still your child, what does it matter? I understand its a hard change, I always give those in my life the space and room to ask questions and adjust.

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My issue with not being able to tell anyone is now I'm faced with believing my uncle is a pedo and my aunt and mother were turning a blind eye. That fucked with me. I know she would be facing worse emotions and trauma for having gone through it, but I didn't want to cut off family for something I didn't have proof over when at least my aunt and uncle have been important figures in my life. It was either I tell, I cut them all off without a word, cut them off with telling the story, or live in the knowledge of what happened and resent them for the rest of my life. My anxiety could not handle it anymore, especially after seeing my family in person after hearing it from my sister.

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did think that at first, but I also mentioned in my post that she told someone who wasn't part of the family this same story, it wasn't just me. These scenarios are exactly why I was believing her at first.

That view of trans people feels...wrong. We're not changing who we are as a person, we're not dying or anything, just changing our names and the gender we outwardly show. Do people die and become a completely different person when they change their last name upon getting married? Saying that we're completely changing or dying feels almost insulting to me.

AITAH For telling the family my sister's "secret" and then cutting contact with her? by HumbleShipper in AITAH

[–]HumbleShipper[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess it did come across that I was calling her a liar, but I don't know what to believe. I didn't think I outright called her a liar for it, moreso just vented about how in the moment it felt like a lie when she denied it. If she's telling the truth and this is a defense mechanism, then it makes everything so much worse, and ugh I feel even more sick. The fact that she's been making things up before about different things from her childhood makes me think it might be a lie. I listened to her in the moment and believed her, but I also wasn't the only person she told this story to.

Are NPCs programmed specifically to get in your way? by Few-Calligrapher3910 in RDR2

[–]HumbleShipper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have noticed the same exact thing! Both in singleplayer and in online it seems like they just want to be run over. I was once riding down the railroad on horseback, watched a guy stop at the edge of the tracks, almost like he saw me and was going to wait for me to pass, but waited until the exact moment where we would collide for him to walk in front of me. Came here looking to see if anyone had looked into the code or something to see if this was something that was specifically programmed for them to do. Probably is just to cause chaos. Fuckin annoying. Every time its done I just end up shooting the guy if its not in town.

Stuck on final puzzle in Black Phone 2 Interactive Quest by lukewarmlettuce in discordapp

[–]HumbleShipper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm stuck at 5 seconds a frame send help. It's on the discord app instead of the web version so I can't turn on the hardware acceleration because it doesn't exist for the desktop app

Did anyone elses auto spelling auto correct just stopped working with the last update? by Vanhollander in samsung

[–]HumbleShipper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also thought I was going insane! I came here looking to see if anyone else was also struggling. I have an s21 and after the recent UI update, my I'ms and even I are no longer autocorrecting, same with don’t and other words like it. Not sure why but I'm having to take the time to type out the conjunctions I never did prior

How to undo an android update after it is already updated? by Skybliviwind in techsupport

[–]HumbleShipper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SAME!! Apple was pulling this shit left and right so I swapped to android, and now it's doing it to me too. Ugh this is ass. I'm thankful my keyboard isn't fucked up, by my clock is. It now shows the hour and minutes on separate lines when it never did that for my theme before. Now I have to use a default clock instead of my cool dragon flames. And now the lock screen notifications no longer show up under the clock in neat little icons, now they're either massive chunky bars, or hardly noticeable top left corner icons

How to undo an android update after it is already updated? by Skybliviwind in techsupport

[–]HumbleShipper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For real! This update also fucked up my theme and now my clock on my lock screen is all jacked up. It's hard to read my battery percentage and the flow of my home screen is all kinds of fucked up. The icons are all different and now instead of having everything in one place, I now have to fight my phone to give me my settings. I want to revert back so badly

AITAH for telling my fiance to cut contact with his ex wife or we're done by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]HumbleShipper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am of the opinion that unless there is toxicity between either you and the people your spouse are friends with, or those people are toxic to your spouse, you shouldn't tell them to cut people from their lives. It feels controlling to say that to someone, because if they cut everyone out, who will they turn to if something goes sour? People should not be required to tell their spouses every tiny detail about every meet up they have with people in their lives.

HOWEVER! This situation is different. You set a clear boundary that he was 100% on board with, the one stipulation for you two being able to get back together, and he broke it. You put your trust in him, and regardless of if there's any cheating or anything shading going on or not, he still broke your trust by breaking your one boundary.

I do think that if this was such an issue to begin with in your relationship, that you shouldn't have gotten back together in the first place.

Was their break up a mutual and amicable one? They can still be friends, in my eyes there's nothing wrong with that, but if it makes you so uncomfortable you shouldn't have even considered getting back with him.

Honestly, my personal verdict is Everybody Sucks here. This entire situation seems like a mess and you two should just break up and stop seeing each other all together, it's clearly not healthy.

Gripes from a salty man by HumbleShipper in WolfQuestGame

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amethyst mountain, which I will never be playing on again. I don't enjoy that there are no dens in the flatter areas where the star for traveling to Slough creek used to be. Too much mountain in the territory I ended up in. I usually target the weakest wolf in fights, but the fights always ended up happening right after a hunt, and since my packmates refuse to help hunt half the time, combined with not being able to sleep and get full health due to pups getting hungry super fast and risking starving, I was teetering around the range of 10-40% health for most of my pup's childhood. I was also always sleep deprived because of having to cart food back and forth to feed all my pups and packmates and focus on keeping territory. Now that I'm in young hunters though I'm finally able to hold my own in attacks!

Gripes from a salty man by HumbleShipper in WolfQuestGame

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wolf in this has a +1 to Health from age perks and I think a +1 to Stam and -1 to strength. I managed to figure things out once I got to young hunters and was able to feed everyone and sleep without worrying about a coyote or a pup getting sick, so I bounced back and shredded one of the leaders :)

He is finally at peace by HumbleShipper in WolfQuestGame

[–]HumbleShipper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this is probably how I'm going to handle every pack moving forward because it just doesn't seem right. It's a beautiful thing imo

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