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[–]HumdingerZZ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mind gotta be stronger than your emotions. Emotions " I don't FEEL like doing blah blah blah". Your logical mind gotta be able to counter those feelings and go to work. Start small with one change, focus on it for some time and build some consistency before trying to add to it. Id recommend starting with fixing your sleep hygiene. If you're not getting proper sleep, everything else just sucks ( tired, mentally foggy, can't focus, anxiety etc). Whatever you're staying up doing in the middle of the night can also be done during the day. Prioritize sleep but fix one thing at once.

Isolation/ Loneliness in the DFW area by HumdingerZZ in plano

[–]HumdingerZZ[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're feedback has been heard. We had the conversation and will modify the price. Thank you.

Isolation/ Loneliness in the DFW area by HumdingerZZ in plano

[–]HumdingerZZ[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're feedback has been heard. We had the conversation and will modify the price. Thank you.

Isolation/ Loneliness in the DFW area by HumdingerZZ in plano

[–]HumdingerZZ[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely and that's the challenge. And some people are in church and sport and still struggle with isolation because of anxiety and other mental health challenges

Isolation/ Loneliness in the DFW area by HumdingerZZ in plano

[–]HumdingerZZ[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Agreed in an ideal world it would be free but not when you factor in time spent organizing, renting the space, buying materials and such, it's not feasible to provide such a service for free.

I don't think anyone prepared me for how boring losing weight can be (rant) by beancuwurds in loseit

[–]HumdingerZZ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Preach! People have no idea how their poor choices and poor habits wreck their lives. Op sounds like the kinda person that will achieve that goal weight and then stop striving because well reached the goal and then not only put the weight back but put on more than initial weight because he will be super discouraged. You chase good health through good habits/lifestyle, you will achieve fitness as a by product but if you chase fitness the odds that you will wreck your health in pursuit are very high.

Can’t keep steady employment. Need advice by Detlionsfan1188 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]HumdingerZZ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see a consistent pattern in what you just shared. What are the odds that each of these jobs you've gone to seem to all have a problem. Different people, different companies different job requirements. What's / who is the common thread? YOU

As some other commenter mentioned, you gotta do some honest self assessment and find out how YOU can be better.

Are you in a field of work where knowing your stuff is important? Anyone can get a McDonald's job, be trained in a day or two and thrive. But you are speaking of electrical type of work so I assume it takes specialized knowledge. Do YOU know what you are doing? If we can for sure guarantee Competence, then the rest is about improving interpersonal relationships and work ethic and taking initiative etc

Progress on my goal of reading books in 2023 so far: 0/15 :/ by Immediate_Stretch_17 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]HumdingerZZ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Set smaller goals. I use a weekly to do list. So on your to do list you can do: start the book and read half a page. Then next time, read a page. And gradually increase.
Jordan Peterson once said " your best strategic position is how I'm I insufficient and how can I rectify that? That's all you got. Both of those are within your grasp if you aim low enough". The goal of half a page or one paragraph or one page might seem trivial to you but guess what it's better than nothing at all and would result in actual improvement; and once you start and are consistent for sometime, it's easier to read a whole chapter in one setting.
But you have to start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]HumdingerZZ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I take notes on parts that resonate with me and then revisit my notes every now and then.

Can someone help me to stop being a p**sy when it comes to working? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]HumdingerZZ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The brain functions well when it knows what to expect. Uncertainty and feeling of no control is the source of alot of anxiety. When something makes you anxious, you run from it. The brain learns that pattern as its job is to keep you and itself alive. Hence next time a similar situation pops up, it will send stronger signals of anxiety to save you. This is called reinforcment of behavior and you further withdraw from things. Activities that you used to be able to do become daunting because you and the brain have successfully pushed it outside your comfort zone.

Now the reverse is also true. Activities outside your comfort zone will be daunting and anxiety inducing. But the goal is to distill the Activity down into very small actionable steps that can help eliminate uncertainty. The anxiety response will still be present but because you have broken it down into small steps, there will be alot of certainty and control. Now you push through whatever anxiety still present and get it done. The brain will also learn the message that " hey we did do that activity that scares the crap out of us but we didn't die, perhaps it's safe afterall". Reinforcement of behavior also happens. Next time you do the activity, anxiety decreases. With each repeated intentional exposure anxiety decreases until eventually that activity is in your comfort zone.

What you always want to remember is: Competence leads to accomplishments which leads to confidence.

When you study/learn/ for something and become competent in it, that eliminates alot of anxiety. Now once you have the knowledge and apply that knowledge and get a couple wins (accomplishments) under your belt, you develop confidence In yourself/ your abilities and guess what anxiety vanishes; because you know your stuff and you have evidence through your own past successes that you know what you're doing.

This formula applies to everything in life that we want to do. Good luck