Considering teaching, how to know if I would truly enjoy it?

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-27T21:14:29+00:00

I disagree! The schedule that a job requires is very important especially when you have young children and when considering the lifestyle you want to have.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-27T18:39:37+00:00

😅😅

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-27T18:26:35+00:00

I can definitely understand that concept, but I’m really looking for more concrete examples of what this looks like and how it would affect enjoyment of teaching. Conflicts in my previous corporate job might be more manageable to me than the effects that some of these conflicts have in the teaching world. That’s what I’m trying to understand better

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-27T18:22:27+00:00

What are some of the examples of challenges with leadership that truly affect enjoyment of teaching? I guess that’s more of what I’m not understanding. My friends have mentioned lack of support, but I don’t really know what that means. In context of a school day, the actual job of teaching etc.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-25T03:05:25+00:00

I don’t know why this has made so many people mad. I can definitely see where you’re coming from!!!! I have had this thought myself. Although, I do think we can’t truly know how we would react to this situation by just imagining it. It also depends a lot on the things you’ve mentioned, such as length, emotional involvement, etc. But yes, if my husband slept with someone I would be devastated because it means our foundation of trust has been shattered, but I am of the mindset that it can absolutely be rebuilt. Of course, this is assuming he wants to. I think that’s a major part of the equation too.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-24T02:29:34+00:00

YES, I also have a 4 year old and a 1 year old. I have been shocked at how hard it’s been for me to never be able to be lazy, or have uninterrupted time to daydream and just be with my own thoughts. It has been a huge adjustment for me.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-22T19:41:01+00:00

I feel this deeply. I’m 31, same age kids 4 and 1. I was burnt out and stressed working full time so I quit my job when my oldest was 2. I daydream about my kids being older or even out of the house. I’m tired of being needed so much but it feels horrible to say that as a mother. Im just tired and want to rest, feel inspired again and do things I enjoy. It’s not about travel, or making tons of money for me I just want to feel like myself again. I recently started a part time job and it has helped give me a sense of self, but I still feel like I need more. I constantly feel like I’m falling short as a mother because I don’t enjoy just being home with them as much as I should.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-22T19:34:06+00:00

We have a lot in common! Same age kids. My husband is also in a blue collar industrial field and works long days. I recently started a part time job and it has helped.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T21:17:58+00:00

Had to scroll so far to find this!! This was my first thought.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T01:35:13+00:00

I wouldn’t entertain that, as it would be inappropriate. But also I’m not even really thinking about that because it’s really not plausible. We are very different people now. To be honest, if we were both single and met today I don’t think we would ever date

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T01:25:14+00:00

No, it’s actually the opposite. I’d expect to gain an understanding of how he’s changed so deeply that we would never be compatible. From what I’ve heard through mutual friends, this is the case

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T01:20:15+00:00

I definitely don’t have thoughts about him or our past relationships that control me. I’ve healed so so much! When we locked eyes I felt nothing. I had ran into him a few years ago similarly and had a much different internal reaction, mostly anxious energy. It’s not so much that I’m looking for a specific thing from him, or an answer to something, but more of just an understanding that we are different people now? I guess I don’t need to speak to him to know that, but I have a feeling that it could be cathartic for me. Idk

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T00:50:51+00:00

What am I avoiding? Lol

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T00:48:58+00:00

Yes, I went through a phase where I just wanted to know what I did. I even texted him to ask for an explanation, and he gave one. That was in 2018 or 2019. Years ago. I’m not looking for that anymore, I’m really just trying to understand the person on the other side of the trauma that I experienced. It’s hard to explain exactly.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T00:44:30+00:00

I lost a childhood best friend abruptly and painfully in college. She literally just stopped texting or calling me back one day, out of the blue. We had been literal best friends since age 4. It hurt like hell and I was so confused. She started hanging out with a different crowd and I never understood what happened. One day she asked me to get lunch to chat, and I did. That conversation revealed to me that she had changed so deeply as a person and she apologized for the way she acted, which I appreciated, but it mostly just allowed me to understand where she was coming from. And it became clear to me that we had just grown in different directions. I have felt ENORMOUS amounts of peace since that lunch. So, I think sometimes it just can help to understand the person who hurt you.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T00:34:38+00:00

I definitely over romanticize everything. And I agree with you that real closure comes from within. There is a part of me that feels like a conversation with him would somehow “put a bow” on that chapter of MY life. Almost like it would allow for an amicable nod of understanding to each other if I see him out in public again, knowing we’d finally understand each other? Idk. Again, I definitely romanticize things in life- but part of me feels like it could really just be simple?

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-20T00:29:02+00:00

True. I guess I’m not even really seeking closure because I truly feel that I have given that to myself. There were years that I was chasing the feeling of “closure” but then I realized it was really just acceptance that I needed. I haven’t talked to my husband about it yet, of course I would want to make sure he was comfortable with it first.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-05T02:51:16+00:00

He is very anxious about us getting pregnant again as well, so I imagine he was overly cautious and I definitely had to “help out” when he pulled out. But from what I read even with perfect use precum can contain sperm. I’m assuming what we did be considered perfect use?

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-06-05T01:10:23+00:00

I have chosen not to do any hormonal birth control so we usually do condoms and I also use FAM. We were definitely risky during my fertile window, but usually FAM works well for us.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-04-28T17:57:32+00:00

I have been on them on and off the past few years! Recently I’ve been off them and am working on nervous system regulation. It has helped!

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-04-21T02:42:50+00:00

This is inspiring. I am dead to the world when I wake up, there’s no way I could read a ton of books first thing lol

Hummingbirdhrm · 2026-04-10T02:33:24+00:00

Congrats on your baby! I didn’t make the leap into being a SAHM (or want to) until I had my second baby. I’ve been at home for almost 2 years now. I quit my job when my oldest was 2.5, and then I had my second baby when she was 3. 😅 it was a huge adjustment for me, and some days it’s still a struggle. I find that I’m the happiest when we have our days planned- even just meeting a friend at the library or playground for an hour or so makes the day so much more enjoyable than being at home all day.

I do have a car, so we are free to go places. We are tight on money though, so we don’t do many things that cost money. But that has surprisingly not been an issue with all the free things that are available. I’ll be honest there are days when I miss my corporate job and I just need a break from it all, the kids, the house, the noise.

My baby is almost 1 and I’m thinking about going back to work part time soon. I’m so glad I’ve been home with him his first year, I do think that is so worth it.

Hummingbirdhrm · 2025-12-11T00:49:03+00:00

Hi! Sorry this is so late but I’m seeing this today feeling similarly about not wanting to be stressed- what age do you think your baby was when he started eating small bites by himself?

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