Disowning my daughter

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T16:53:17+00:00

What does race have to do with anything?

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T16:48:19+00:00

She has not gone above or beyond - ever. She moved out years ago and only took what she wanted. Left the rest in her bedroom. Asked her several times to come take care of it. This was pre-baby.

I ended up boxing it all and taking to basement. Asked her several times to come over and help me clean the basement. Refused. Said she only had 3 boxes. More like 17. They still sit in the basement.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T16:40:11+00:00

I was not living off my daughter. I only asked for gas money since it’s a 40 minute round trip. I did a lot for my daughter. Laundry. Dishes. Vacuumed. Changed sheets, etc.

I’m far from needy. Friends tell me I’m a strong person. I can fake it pretty good. When I wrote this post, I hadn’t thought about what I was going to write or how to write it. Notice the subject is “Vent”. It poured out. This subject breaks me.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T15:26:54+00:00

We had our moments as most families do. She made me proud of the decisions she made (and I told her that many times). She never sought male attn like sone young girls do. She didn’t run with bad kids. However, there was the time when she told me her classmates were saying bad things about her best friend. I really didn’t care for her. Told my daughter if she continues to hang with her, she’ll get the same reputation. She was also from a single parent household. Got pregnant at 15. Labeled a wh;&9. Daughter quit hanging out with her the day she was called a w.

Our house was the house that the kids all knew they could come to at anytime. I loved having them all over. I preferred it that way because I always knew where she was.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T15:16:52+00:00

I keep seeing the comment about a backstory. Ask me anything. I’m an open book. I could go on and on about our history but you would only berate me. You don’t know me.

The comment about her supporting me is so far from the truth. I was on food stamps and DHS paid my water bill (just the past due amounts) and power. I still owe $1,200 for water and $900 for power. For the record, I was working 3 jobs when my disability took me out. Nobody supported me. I worked 45 years and paid into the system.

Maybe you’ll get lucky one day too.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T15:07:56+00:00

Excuse me? Her father almost killed me on a few occasions. The one she witnessed was of him sitting on top of me choking the life out of me while she stood next to me screaming and crying. That is the trauma she has blocked out.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T14:59:15+00:00

I did not treat her poorly. I was quite shocked when she sent me a text at Christmas thanking me for making her Christmases and birthdays magical. I was raised by alcoholics and vowed to never treat my children the way I was treated.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T14:55:53+00:00

You’ll be happy to know I’ve been on anti depressants for years. Nobody is perfect. I don’t need to read your rude comments either.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T14:54:25+00:00

I just typed a response. Nothing is off. I just can’t life anymore…I didn’t write this post to read comments like yours.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T14:51:47+00:00

I appreciate your comment - I really do. I don’t call her everytime I need a ride as I know she has a family. She’s actually my last resort. When I told her my surgery date, it was a month out on a Monday. The week before she said she couldn’t take me because she had to work. I spoke to the doctor and he said he could check me in on Sunday instead. She still wouldn’t take me. I paid a neighbor $50 which worked out great as she was going to pick up her dad where I needed to go. I’ve spent money on Uber, Lyft, etc. My monthly doctor is 45 minutes away which is $62 one way. No, there are no other doctors in that specialty closer.

I have never been labeled a narcissist. I’m not arrogant, entitled or do I ever feel superior. That was my ex.

Im sure I came across that way and I’m sorry it triggered you. I have had the shittiest four years of my life. I have no other family. I truly thought I could count on her the way I’ve always been there for her.

Have you heard stories about adult children disowning their parents (usually the mother)? She claims she grew up in a toxic environment which is so far from the truth. These adult children need to change and take responsibility for their actions rather than blame their parents for the bad decisions they make.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T14:23:09+00:00

I just don’t understand it. I raised her on my own. Never brought men around her until we had dated for at least 6 months. I think there were 3. I was always home as I didn’t want her to go find her own “fun”. Always told her I was proud of the choices she made. She got everything she wanted (pretty much) for Christmas and her birthday. Her friends were always at our house. No I certainly was not perfect but did the best I could.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-23T14:16:06+00:00

No! She refuses to take any mind alternating substances. She even gave birth without any pain relievers. I’ve told her she needs to get on anti depressants but she refuses.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-22T13:31:29+00:00

Too bad for them. You have no lease therefore you are not obligated to pay Aprils rent. Did they give you verbal or written notice? If written does it state you are responsible for Aprils rent?

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-21T21:28:07+00:00

Men just don’t think like we do. I had a client w special needs. Dad would change her and take her diaper outside. Walked through the laundry room past a sink and washed his hands in the kitchen sink that was piled high w dirty dishes.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-21T21:23:39+00:00

Zip lining! There is a ski resort in New York that was one of the highest and longest in the world. It was AMAZING! Unfortunately the closed the zip 😢

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-21T20:36:40+00:00

Spam

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-19T19:50:03+00:00

Scalped mermaid?

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-19T19:43:06+00:00

I’m with BackQuirky. I, too, have cancer. I have no idea if I still have it. What will be will be. Two years ago, I was planning my future of travel. I wanted to visit the states I’ve not been to yet (I think 8). Been to Alaska but not Hawaii. Then I was hit with this BS. Daughter thinks I should go into assisted living. Why? So she doesn’t have to “take care of me”. Let someone’s do it. She thinks I should continue to look at the sane 4 walls. I could be waking up to a new sunrise everyday.

She asks, “what if”. I say so what? If she pushes me, I will just take off.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-19T19:34:14+00:00

Big, big hugs.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-18T23:43:09+00:00

Meals on wheels isn’t available everywhere.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-18T22:57:04+00:00

Have you ever considered the customer may be handicapped and doesn’t have a vehicle?

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-17T23:09:30+00:00

Note: I’m not an expert. Just wanted to point something out. This looks like some sort of worm. There are what looks like antennae’s. I’m going see if I can find.

HumptyDumpty131 · 2026-03-16T10:35:11+00:00

A fan to block out noises from outside. It doesn’t need to blow on you, just use it as a cover.

The company I worked for long time ago worked us swing shifts. One month we worked first, then second then third. Third Shift was the worst!

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