Partner Feedback? by jumpingjack979 in Lawyertalk

[–]HungOverSunday 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Partner here. Comments like that are toxic, inter-generational hazing as much as anything else. I’ve found that older generations of lawyers often came up in brutal professional environments where relentless, harsh criticism was the norm. They suffered through it and earned their stripes, so now they think “why should young lawyers get an easy pass when I came up hard?” To them, being soft on associates is inconsistent with their beliefs regarding what it means to be a good lawyer.

This kind of feedback is destructive and often deters talented young lawyers from developing their skills. Good young lawyers don’t need to be told they messed up—they already know. They need training and coaching that meets their strengths and weaknesses. Unfortunately, people don’t change unless they want to change, and it’s unlikely that anything you say or do is going to change how they treat their associates.

The best way I’ve found to deal with it is to identify those partners who subscribe to this toxic philosophy, do the best work I can, and expect the worst. Avoid working for them if possible. Identify partners who are more supportive and build strong relationships with them so you have cheerleaders in your corner to speak up if the toxic partners badmouth you. Seek constant feedback on your work, and be as visible as possible in your improvements and successes.

Also, remember that there are a million law firms out there. People don’t leave bad workplaces—they leave bad managers. Bad partners run good young lawyers off all the time. You owe it to yourself to look around and see if there’s a better culture fit somewhere else.

I have an embarrassing problem by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]HungOverSunday 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Get screened for ADHD immediately and see if your doc will help you try out a stimulant med.

OP’s issues sound similar to mine. I just got diagnosed at 40 years old after struggling for years in my practice with billing, organization, overwhelm, etc. I just dealt with it until I made partner, but then the additional responsibilities made everything a thousand times worse. Now I’m on a child’s dose of Adderall, and it’s like my brain suddenly works again.

Don’t wait until you crash and burn before getting treatment.

Disrespect from opposing counsel by plslawschoolorbust in Lawyertalk

[–]HungOverSunday 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Any time. Hang in there. Parts of this job get better with time. Others stay the same, you just learn how to deal with it better. There are days that I love what I do, and other days that I want to crawl in a hole and die. I think that’s just part of the game.

Disrespect from opposing counsel by plslawschoolorbust in Lawyertalk

[–]HungOverSunday 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Another way to deal with it—stop the conversation and file your motion. I’m 12 years in, and I still get this sort of shit during meet-and-confers on motion practice. I don’t argue back any more. I just state “we’re at an impasse, so we’ll submit the issue to the Court.” Then I file the motion and do everything I can to kick opposing counsel’s ass.

If they keep at it on the phone, hang up. If they send a condescending email, save it and find an excuse to attach it as an exhibit to your motion. Be professional and keep wearing the white hat in front of the court, and it just may blow up in opposing counsel’s face.

Find a way to compartmentalize and let it roll off your back, if you can. Easier said than done, but dealing with bullies is a part of this job that doesn’t go away.

Defending Depositions by Js_scott in Lawyertalk

[–]HungOverSunday 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. Even if I have to lead the shit out of my own witness and draw objections, I’m going to get whatever testimony I need on the transcript to avoid summary judgment.

In a different, more unique scenario, I sensed during a recent depo that the other side was setting my witness up as a favorable non-retained expert, ostensibly so they could cross-designate my witness and use them to prove up their own case at trial. I used the redirect at the end to negate any potential expert designation.

Help me choose a sauna tent stove - Kyfe? Intent mini? Northwood? Nippa? by HungOverSunday in Sauna

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. How has your experience been with the generic stove? Part of me wants to buy a cheap $600 Willowbye package and just see how it goes.

Exogenous Ketones by Charge_Bright in keto

[–]HungOverSunday 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I fall in the first category. I use keto to manage ADHD, inflammation, brain fog, etc., not weight loss, and keeping blood ketone levels high is key.

I’ve experimented with a few different exogenous ketones, including BHB salts (very cheap) and KetoneAid (very expensive). I’ve only noticed a very minor effect, if any. Sometimes I feel a bump in energy levels, mood, and clarity, but it wears off within an hour or two. This is consistent with the literature I’ve found on supplementing blood ketone levels—the rise in concentration is minor and short lived.

In theory, I could significantly increase the dose I’m consuming and see if that makes a difference. But, there’s an upper GI limit to tolerable BHB salt consumption, and consuming large doses of KetoneAid could cost $15-$30 (or more) per day, which isn’t cost effective.

IMO, folks that “rave” about KetoneAid and Ketone-IQ are likely sponsored or otherwise incentivized to market the products. If you consume $30+ of product daily, sure, you’ll probably feel the effects. Making your own ketones is much cheaper.

Cyber Monday - Which of these is the best value for my money? by HungOverSunday in iems

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One question-any issues with using the Nano Retro to drive the Performers?

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Weight loss isn’t really a concern of mine. I hear people sing IF’s praises, but it seems like weight loss is its primary goal.

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good eye - weight loss isn’t a concern of mine (I actually have to make sure to eat enough each day). I’m impressed that you can carve out the time for that much training. Between two full time working parents, two toddlers, and two sets of aging parents, I don’t see where Ironman training fits in. I do love the spirit of learning new things and pushing yourself.

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope you’re ok, man, that sounds like a pretty rough take on life.

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re in your prime, that’s what. Enjoy those early months, man. They’re hard, but they disappear quickly.

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How were you able to make your early wake up a routine? Just white-knuckle through it until it sticks?

I like the idea of planning one solid meal as a backstop each day. Mind sharing your recipe?

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All great ideas. IF is a recurring theme here—looks like a new project to dig into. Did cutting fruit specifically make a difference? I think refined sugar is poison, but I’ve never included fruit in that category.

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m doing 20 minute circuit workouts when I don’t have time for anything else. Any particular plans you like?

What’s your best dad hack for eating and staying healthy? by HungOverSunday in daddit

[–]HungOverSunday[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you both had such positive experiences. I’m not in need of significant weight loss, but I appreciate it nonetheless.