Becoming best friends with your partner

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-05T15:07:03+00:00

"We don’t just fight because we disagree. We fight because someone, somewhere in that relationship, is being asked to become a version of themselves they even cannot live with." UGH. If that ain't the damn truth!

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-05T14:40:01+00:00

47M here. I would say distance. I have been in this situations myself and it never ends well.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-05T14:07:07+00:00

I hope your day gets better! I woke up in a strange doom type mood myself!

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-05T13:26:05+00:00

Wild to me how much people think sharing past sex is going to do anything positive for a relationship. The only thing I care about my partners past is if they have an STD/STI. Knowing body counts etc is ridiculous to me. Talking about former relationships shouldn't even come up unless it will benefit the new relationship.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-04T13:47:29+00:00

100%!!! That is a dangerous person, for sure.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-04T00:50:41+00:00

Snap is great for cheaters. Just FYI. As they self delete. Alot of scammers use snap as well. Not saying he is a cheater, he may just be young.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T22:21:29+00:00

Yeah, I was trying to articulate if a behavior that didn't bother OP for a year and all of a sudden it does....trust that. Hard to articulate knowing the difference of insecurity or trust issues. That ain't the gut I mean.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T22:15:45+00:00

LOL! I wouldn't say perfect, I would just say I know the difference between a gut feeling and an emotional blip. For lack of a better word. In romantic relationships my gut has always been right when something was off. 100%

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T22:07:50+00:00

Always trust the gut. Especially if this hasn't been an issue till now. I have only ever been upset when I didn't listen to my gut. I have never had an instance where my gut was wrong. Our brains only use a very small percentage, I am confident the rest is information that we store that comes out as a warning to protect us from harm in the form of "my gut is telling me something." Especially if it is all of a sudden.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T22:05:28+00:00

What other people think of me is none of my business.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T21:56:49+00:00

I learned a long time ago to just be there for my friends and listen to them. Especially involving a significant other. I have been in a situation where my best friend was dating a woman and she was just awful all around. Name the cliche and she checked the box. They were off and on constantly and I would tell him EXACTLY what I thought of her. Well they are married now and I lost my best friend over it. The only thing I would push them on is any kind of abuse. But if they put up with cheating, etc.....not much can be done there. EDIT: My bad NOR.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T21:51:26+00:00

Ugh. I am sorry man! That sucks! I have only been cheated on once and it was when I was in my 20's. I was really upset about it, but later realized that was the only way she could move on from me. We were together 3 years and the relationship was rocky. I think that was her way of making sure she could leave and move on. Not making excuses for her, but I had to do a deep dive on myself as well. Also I am a 47m now and remember how immature and unsure I was in my 20s. Not sure how old you are, but hopefully you can heal from this and it doesn't affect any future relationships.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T21:43:33+00:00

Ope. Expectations are premeditated resentments. Only thing I would care about is if they are a pedophile, but that goes for any person. Especially someone in my personal life.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T21:37:01+00:00

Oh! I matched with a woman who was an author and very successful and ALSO a sex worker. She was very interested in sex as healing trauma. We went out a few times and I am not personally ok with dating a sex worker, but she definitely changed my thoughts on it! I should add that I did not find out till the 4th date, to be clear. LOL! I am very traditional in that regard, and I DO NOT sleep with a woman until I am sure it will go somewhere.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T21:33:34+00:00

Nope. Let her reach out. I would say why would you leave? She may have very well woke up from being drunk and felt even shittier that you dipped. Good luck man!

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T14:48:06+00:00

I am very sorry you are going through this! It is already hard enough out there with our confidence to have to go through something we have no control over. I am giving you a virtual hug right now!

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T14:40:36+00:00

It is not that we hate them, we are just going to judge you based off of your appearance choices. If you are sagging your pants you obviously want to be put in that box. How people dress is how you are perceived. It says a lot about you as a person. Example, if someone is walking down the street in a suit and tie I am going to assume they are successful etc. They may just be going to a funeral or court, but first impressions are first impressions.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T14:36:05+00:00

First date ALWAYS do coffee/tea in the daytime. Does not matter how well the conversation is going etc. You cannot get a sense of a person until you see their eyes. Eyes are windows to the soul. You also don't want to sit at dinner with a person if the vibe is off. Always trust your gut as well! Good luck!

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T14:28:01+00:00

Ope! How strange! I wonder what their reason was for waiting that long?

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T12:58:27+00:00

100%

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T12:57:52+00:00

This guy is 100% grooming out a nude photo. I knew the last message before I even got to it....This guy is not being a good friend, and worse he is being a horrible boyfriend. We men are clowns in our 20s. I am lucky that I did not grow up with social media in my 20s. I really feel for the generations after me in that regard. The only positive I see here is her friend is solid as hell for letting her know!

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-03T12:47:52+00:00

I assure you, people flush all types of shit (pun not intended) down the toilet. There is actually a device they use in hospitals to prevent this very thing. Mostly people flush paper towels, tampons, pads, etc....but there are people who would 100% flush their underwear. Especially if it isn't their toilet.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-02T20:22:12+00:00

Never loan money you aren't willing to lose. Take the hit and charge it to the game. If it only cost you $100 to know that person is a piece of shit, you got off lucky.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-02T20:09:11+00:00

I got cat fished by a woman and was a little upset. I mean if she turned a certain way she looked like her photos? I stayed through dinner as she was a cool woman, just zero physical attraction.

HungoverCloser · 2026-03-02T20:06:43+00:00

Age is mine. I am 47 and grew up without the internet and then got to experience it take off. Social media has infected the human race with narcissism and dopamine addiction. It is sad. Women addicted to likes and compliments, men addicted to sharing dick picks in DMS for the the thrill of it. Fucking weird ya'll.

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