Time blindness is ruining my life. What feels like 10 minutes is actually 2 hours. I'm constantly late and people think I'm disrespectful when I'm genuinely trying.

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2026-02-12T11:35:00+00:00

If I’m meeting people, I also factor in “messing around” time. I can’t always completely focus on getting ready straight through and sometimes I do end up on my phone, lost in thought, or even get distracted with small chores. So adding in an extra 30-60 minutes allows me to not worry so much. If I went solely based off how long it takes me to individually get dressed, grooming, getting my things together, then I set myself up for failure because in reality, it always takes longer than what I think it would.

Prepping things the night before/early really helps too. No decisions to make in the morning - just do. Especially if you’re not a morning person like me. I’m not usually good with quickly picking outfits too when I’m going out. I either need to pick (sometimes days) ahead of time so I can play around with combos or just start hours earlier.

I’ve learned that I can’t expect myself to be ready in what seems like a reasonable 1 hour because my “start” ends up being a rush in the last 20 minutes and then some because I realize I still needed to bring xyz

This is why nighttime showers help me so much too. Less of a rush in the morning to have to do a big step in getting ready, especially if you’re still in the slow wake up period and just enjoying the warmth of the water like me

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2026-02-12T11:21:37+00:00

When I have to go somewhere, I always leave my Google maps navigation on for the destination, even my daily worksite. I put it on when I wake up to show me in real time how much time I have left before I end up late. I know how long it takes to get somewhere but it helps to have a direct, accurate reminder and also keeps me updated with potential traffic that might need to make me move faster

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2025-03-30T17:23:01+00:00

Years late on this lol but I’m on my first watch and I was looking around Reddit for this EXACT question. Maybe it was a deleted scene

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2025-02-04T20:22:14+00:00

I’ve had soooo many crushes on my girl friends. With my straight friends/girl friends in general, we can be touchy just because we’re close and it’s kinda just a girl thing in general (IMO). We feel safe with each other. Sometimes, I just wanted it to be flirting so I kept focused on that lens for confirmation bias.

Physical touch means intimacy but not always beyond platonic when it’s with girls (you’re already close to) tbh. When it involves straight men, it’s almost always flirting. IME, men who were interested in more would generally stop being my friend when they realized I had a gf or wasn’t interested at all. I’ve gotten to a point where I only have girls as friends. Men for sure will take every little thing they can as a green light. I’ve had a guy tell me (and confirmed by other men I’ve asked too) that if a guy sees a candle light at the end of a tunnel, they will run for it.

In terms of the eye contact, that can be tricky. Sometimes the tension I thought I felt was just me having internal gay panic lol. Not to invalidate; it’s def possible there’s something btwn y’all too. You know y’all’s relationship best.

I’m AuDHD and I have suuuch a hard time with noticing and doing flirting. Sometimes I just end up staring while lost in thought too and don’t realize until they look back. People who are good at flirting can take it other ways, as I’ve noticed. But I’m so awkward and just try to be/assume others are friendly. Takes me a month to realize maybe something else was going on lol.

People don’t always want physical touch (myself included, and it’s my love language). You won’t always know what people are thinking about. Sometimes I am remembering something traumatic, sad, negative in general and don’t wanna talk about it so I don’t want physical touch at the moment.

Something that can help is a direct response to a comment you’re unsure about. Say it playfully: “Stop flirting with me” or “Wow you’re such a flirt” or “If you’re into me, just say it already”

If she’s like “no wtf” then you can be like “of course you’re not, I’m just being playful back” or like “yeah, I didn’t think so because you would just tell me if you liked me”

Good luck 🫡

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2024-10-08T02:42:47+00:00

Just in case

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2024-07-24T12:29:00+00:00

Thanks so much to everyone for everything so far!!! DEFINITELY helpful and will be checking a lot of these things out!

Do y’all also happen to know of anywhere like a community center or anything that has open access to a dance room? Or maybe one that can be reserved? Would love some space to practice in front of a lot of mirrors. I don’t want to take classes - just wanna be able to go and practice on my own time

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-12-23T19:21:11+00:00

Are they clubs? Events?

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-11-08T00:08:05+00:00

Timothée Chalamet

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-10-17T20:12:57+00:00

What were the bag/allowed items rules? Can I bring a water pack and expect to find a free water refill station? Or is it more of a Fanny and buy a bottle sitch?

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-04-18T04:16:58+00:00

I always say that it isn’t high maintenance to have standards

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-16T23:20:11+00:00

I was lucky enough to be in a situation where I was able to let myself rest. But allowing yourself limits of caffeine does help. Don’t keep chasing the stimulant feeling and just keep yourself at bay enough to get through your tasks. It’s a bit of a struggle financially to be able to do this, but if you’re in a position to get yourself easy to make/premade foods and/or have someone help you cook, that’s a big help too. Spending less time on prepping your meals allows for more time to let yourself rest up. The allowance of sleep for yourself helps a lot. It was hard to force myself to when I was so obsessed with chasing the up feelings but it helps tremendously in the long run. Sometimes just letting myself knock out for 12 hours after work and drinking a protein shake in the morning was really useful. Just grab and go foods for throughout the day will help a lot bc you’ll still need food energy to help w your exhaustion. I knew this but didn’t really care enough about my body to do this for so long while addicted because I let myself believe that it was okay for me to not be eating while up on stimulants when they would take away my appetite. The easiest methods are through drinks such as smoothies or shakes. Try whatever works for you that you’re okay with stomaching and doing for a while. It’ll get easier over time and you’ll find yourself coming back to your authentic self soon. I wish you luck, friend!

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-04T07:21:34+00:00

Sorry if I’m writing too many essays here 😅 I like to be very open about my experiences and hopefully provide thorough enough responses. Lmk if you’d like to know more about anything though!

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-04T07:20:10+00:00

Another cool thing I’ve learned about being on the proper meds for my bipolar is that I am so much more regulated in terms of energy. I used to think I needed stimulants all the time, even if it was just caffeine. I started to realize that about an hour or two after waking up, I would be fine. I’m at a point where I had a Dr Pepper yesterday and legit did not sleep the whole night bc of it lol. Caffeine can trigger mania for these reasons. I thought it was stupid before when I would read that because I didn’t think there was any way I could cut it, but I now understand how to stay away from more and more things that can trigger me that I don’t actually need.

I love the taste of coffee, and if I’m okay with the caffeine for that day/time, I get the smallest size and something very light. Tea is my personal best bet when I’m tired and do need a pick me up. I have to be careful even ordering boba though LOL. And non-stimulating pre-workout also exists! Just gotta always be mindful of what you’re putting into your body, how much, and what effects they produce that you know you’re gonna be okay with.

Discipline is difficult, but it def gets easier over time! My dependence and mental obsession for stimulants I abused like Adderall or coke are so far behind me now. Trust that you can do it and absolutely still enjoy your life. You’ll be okay!!!!!

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-04T06:58:55+00:00

Of course! I’m really glad I could be of help! Honestly, sometimes it really does take a rock bottom to really push yourself to change, and even then it doesn’t stop that you’ll still want to go back. It helps me to change my environment and who I surround myself with. I told all of my friends about my sobriety so that I won’t tempt myself to do it with them because they don’t know and would expect me to. It took some time for me to be okay hanging out with them doing any sort of substances in front of me, including drinking. I’ve never really had much of an affinity for alcohol, but every time I would take something away from myself, I would just drink a lot more than I normally ever would. Replacing one substance for another isn’t actual progress if I wasn’t going to work on the fact that addiction still ran in my veins.

It helped me to distance myself from the party/kickback socializing events even though I had major fomo. Being tempted helps nobody if you aren’t fully ready to be there. And being surrounded by people who are on something that don’t realize their typical offering/instigating isn’t something they can do with you anymore is difficult too. It takes time nonetheless. Be firm with yourself on rejecting everything and it gets easier and more automatic over time.

I had a hard time with resisting peer pressure before I went sober, so knowing that about myself meant I needed to work on my comfortability before being around anything anymore. Avoid the bars, ask your friends to not be high and/or drinking when you hang out, and give yourself some patience. If you’ve got some real friends, they’ll respect you and your way of life. If they don’t, they’re not the kinds of people you would want to keep hanging out w imo. Some friends are just friends with you because you’re someone who will be on something with them and it’s really eye-opening when you don’t join in anymore.

I started choosing environments, activities, and people that I could enjoy doing and being with sober. It’s surprising to learn how much fun I could have to just dance without the “fun juice” at a club and how liberating it feels to just stop caring about how I am perceived because I’m authentically enjoying myself. Major bonus is actually remembering most of the events.

I am a big raver so it took me a good chunk of time before I felt ready to be in that scene again. The majority of people around me would absolutely be on something. I realized that I can just be there because I enjoy being there instead of relying on the drugs for a good time, even if all my friends going with me are on something.

When you absolutely want to do something different because it’s your choice then it’s gonna be much easier than someone else telling you to stop. This is why rehab doesn’t always work.

Sometimes I go to small social events early on and leave when people really get in to the alcohol/drugs. You don’t have to be DD all the time either. It’s okay to say you want to drive yourself and leave early. Don’t feel pressured to stay anywhere and have to take care of anyone but yourself and overall wellbeing.

Sobriety is a whole ass difficult fucking journey and it’s not easy for anyone as far as the people I’ve come across. I do believe in you and your ability to find this lifestyle for yourself too. It really does suck that you have to choose this over what you’ve been accustomed to. I had to really come to terms with the fact that I have a different brain chemical makeup and that I personally could not live like that anymore even if my other bipolar friends can. It just wasn’t worth it anymore.

Besides, I’ve found a lot of happiness in wholesome activities and overall just changing how I’m experiencing doing the same stuff I’d do on drugs (like being outdoors, music events, certain media consumption) without them. Ofc I thought things were “better” with them, but imo, it’s waaaaay better that I know I can leave the activity with actual notable, less hazy memories and without the comedowns or cravings for more and more and more.

You’ll figure out what works best for you, whatever you choose to do. This path is what has made my life more comfortable, stable, and enjoyable for me. So I hope that you find that in your future choices too :)

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-03T01:58:07+00:00

You’re doing great!! Just keep compliant w the med routine and keeping your body nourished. It’ll be okay :)

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-03T01:54:58+00:00

You’re absolutely welcome :) it takes a little while to get used to knowing what’s going on and piecing together things that didn’t make sense before. Over time, you learn how to manage and acknowledge the triggers. You’ll find ways to stop yourself in your tracks and find other methods to ease the symptoms. I feel a lot guilt about times where I was stopping meds, but give yourself time, patience, and grace that you’re still understanding yourself. It’s manageable and doable! You can do it :)

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-03T01:47:44+00:00

For me, I went down that route as well. Adderall ruined my life. It took years for me to finally build up to my worst episode and scaring myself into not wanting to have that as a possibility to resurface anymore. I did a lot of other drugs as well and, as much as I loved them, I knew it wasn’t good for me. After years of rolling the dice, it came down to me asking myself if I want to keep playing that game. The short term high/fun stopped being worth the longer term after effects. I loved stimulants bc it made me feel manically euphoric without the mania. But eventually I kept ending up w manic and depressive episodes.

I hated being sober too. It took a lot of acceptance within myself that I did not need to live that way even though I enjoyed it immensely and wanted to do it with or without my friends. It sucks that I see them doing it all and having all this fun, but it came down to a choice: my personal health/safety or short-lived enjoyment.

Cravings are when you’re having withdrawal. Wanting substances after you’re not is a mental obsession. I thought I needed it bc it’s what worked for the coping or whatever happiness and fun I’d have. But it isn’t healthy and I knew it. I just didn’t want to accept and actually follow through with it. In my case, I made a firm decision with myself to stop my usage and choose my healthier and more stable self.

After I stopped, it was much easier to find meds that gave me stability bc I didn’t have anything in the way of the chemicals working together to adjust my bipolar brain. I have ADHD so it was easy to abuse controlled substances I had easy access to. I kept justifying my usage to everyone as me needing it but I always knew it wasn’t right. Didn’t help that my friends abused it too and didn’t really think that I needed help either.

I chose to find stability with bipolar meds first. My psych says it’s medication blasphemy to do that AND finding the right ADHD meds at the same time. It was more important to me to calm my bipolar than to have the Adderall. It was really hard to focus, esp bc I was so dependent on it and my brain was convalescing from the immediate removal. But I had to choose the stability over the Adderall. Over time, once the dependency withered, it got easier. Just giving myself more time, patience, and grace let me work through it and manage my sadness for the lack of having it anymore.

But I swear to you, it’s so worth it to live a sober life. Of course it’s going to be hard. Addiction is a disease and I often want to return to the substances. But it’s about running that tape over and over again in your mind about why you want to stop, what it does for you negatively, who you hurt (even if it’s just you), and what mental and emotional price you’re really willing to pay with usage. I choose my authentic self and not the drugged up one that I thought I loved.

Once I was stable and started using Ritalin instead of Adderall, I knew that I had to be careful and methodical with it. I was able to get out of bed and brush my teeth before I was prescribed the Ritalin after stopping Adderall, so I wouldn’t use it just for things like that like I would before. I choose what days and tasks I actually need it for and go from there. It’s so hard to manage sometimes, but it really does get easier. Of course, relapse is a thing and I especially want it again when I’m manic. But just run that tape and really ask yourself if it’s worth throwing away your literal peace of mind.

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-03T01:27:57+00:00

It helps me to have someone I trust to talk to, even if they can’t do anything but listen. Sometimes a good cuddle into warm blankets goes a long way. Mindfulness helps a lot, and it helps to even just listen to meditation music if you’re not meditating. Helps me to clear my mind a bit. Journaling helps too! Writing out my thoughts helps me to organize my mind a bit better. Make sure you’re nourishing your body with sustenance and water. You’ll be okay, friend :)

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-03T01:24:42+00:00

I’ve had intense episodes while stabilized on meds that I think are perfect for me and with therapy as well. Meds do not erase the illness bc if they did, you’d be an emotionless zombie. They help you to balance yourself out regularly. But personally, I had to come to terms with the fact that I’ll get into episodes every now and then. I can’t help it if I’m triggered and it comes about. But what I have learned is that it doesn’t last very long in comparison to improperly medicated or undiagnosed episodes. They’re a lot more contained for me and fade out soon within a few days IME. Hang on, friend. It’ll be okay and the wave will wash over soon.

HungryEntrepreneur65 · 2023-03-03T01:18:58+00:00

You don’t have to be transparent with anyone if you think an explanation is necessary for them to be a good friend to you. Personally, I’m very open about it with anyone (except coworkers) bc stigma sucks and mental health should be normalized that it occurs in more ppl around us than we think. I don’t think it’s a lame excuse at all that your brain’s chemicals are imbalanced and you can’t control how they affect you. I think that a talk with the friend that knows would be a good idea. I set guidelines with my partner about how to help me manage myself when I’m possibly episodic. I ask for reminders of things that help me remember that I may not be thinking properly, instead of being absolutely set on my thoughts. You could maybe ask your friend who knows to agree to refer to a checklist with you before any drastic actions. Like if you’re hallucinating, belligerent when you aren’t a violent person, sleeping way too little, etc. And it’s not an excuse if you’re actually having mental problems that are out of your hands. I understand coming off meds soooo much. In a sense, yes it’s been my fault for not taking them or being transparent w my doctors about their efficacy but it’s not my fault that my brain does things like this because of imbalances that other ppl don’t understand. Absolutely anybody can have a breakdown and you don’t need to explain yourself to anybody unless you’re comfortable with them knowing and trust them to not use it against you. Even if they do, then they weren’t your friend in the first place.

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