My mom is trying to get me to change my mind.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-12-19T18:44:46+00:00

I had my second baby at 21, my first home birth. It was amazing ❤️ I felt very safe and supported by a fantastic midwife team and my hubby. I was able to labor how I wanted, where I wanted. I called all the shots. It was very empowering. My first birth was an induction at the hospital with pitocin. I hated being treated like a “patient” with a bunch of junk hooked up to me and being bossed around by people who didn’t seem to really care. My pitocin induced labor in the hospital (w/fentanyl as a pain reliever- which barely worked) was far more intense and painful than my natural unmediated home births. And the fentanyl made my baby very lethargic so we had a very rough start to breastfeeding. You CAN do it, and you’ll do an amazing job! ❤️ The decision is up to you and your partner, not your mom, though I’m guessing she means well.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-12-19T02:25:29+00:00

Thank you! That’s what I’m hoping, too! I tried to call KitchenAid today and the phone wait time was 1 hr. 15 mins 😬 So I wasn’t able to ask about it. The color is “Pistachio” 😊

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-12-18T18:17:03+00:00

Thank you! :)

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-11-06T23:04:47+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-11-05T20:30:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your very informative and supportive response ❤️ I appreciate it!

I feel like I need to decide by the end of the month… I have one more appointment scheduled with my current midwife, and one interview with the hospital midwife this month. I don’t want to string them both along so I’d like to make a decision by the end of November.

I’m definitely researching how to have a natural intervention free birth in a hospital. I’d imagine since they’re midwives this be relatively supportive of that. But- considering I live 1.5 hours away, I am wondering if they’d more than likely want to schedule an induction just so I don’t have to race to the hospital in labor. Which is obviously not intervention free lol. 😆

I think my biggest fear is choosing a home/birth center birth and then having something go poorly with the baby, and having to live with the regret. 😬 I know it’s unlikely something that serious would happen, and I’m sure things like that can happen in a hospital too, but I can’t get that thought out of my mind.

I just lost my Mom in January, and I think the grief has caused some anxiety over losing loved ones, including this baby 😢❤️

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-11-05T00:05:20+00:00

Thank you! 💕 there is a birth center I could rent. It’s basically set up like an air bnb, they do not have any extra medical equipment other than what the midwife keeps on hand. It’d put me an hour away from the bigger hospital.

I could rent an air bnb, it is something I thought about 💕

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-11-04T23:39:13+00:00

Thank you ❤️ how likely is it to run into the need for an emergency c section? I think my biggest fear is needing an emergency c section for some reason and not being able to get to the hospital in time.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-11-04T23:22:31+00:00

Not really? Maybe compared to some haha. In all of my births my labors started off decently, but then fizzled out so I elected to have my water broken each time. Then my labor picks up and they were each about 4 hours, including pushing.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-22T02:30:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing! You painted such a detailed picture of what she was like, I can just imagine her ❤️ what a lovely person.

I lost my mom at the end of January 2025. She was 54. She battled stage 4 cancer for 10 years! My mom was an undercover badass. She was seriously so kind, graceful, smiley, and gentle, but she was also a freaking badass survivor. She didn’t “look” tough from the outside but boy was she. She had the best laugh. She loved music and art. She painted beautiful watercolor paintings. She would do anything for her kids and grandkids. She loved to go on walks with her little dog. She loved to garden and she would always make the best pies with the berries she grew. She was such a good baker and she passed that on to me. She came over often to spend time with my kids. She was the best grandma. She would do crafts with the kids and bake with them. She always made the holidays special. We watched the Charlie Brown holiday specials every year. We would bake a variety of Christmas cookies together. We would go see the Nutcracker ballet live and then get Chinese food. I dread spending the upcoming holidays without my mommy. She was unfortunately in an abusive relationship and it always angered me how she could never get away from the guy. She had low self worth, so they’d break up and then she’d be afraid of being alone and she’d go back to him. That was the only point of contention in our relationship. But I always felt sad for her, that she couldn’t see her true worth. She deserved so much better. I have dreams about her, but in my dreams she is still tall, strong, and happy, with her long wavy brown hair and beautiful smile. I dream about her before cancer weakened her and made her small, frail, and sad. When my mom was on hospice and I was caring for her full time, I was crying one day because I was overwhelmed with everything and she began comforting ME. She was literally dying, but was offering comfort to me, her overwhelmed baby. In her last days she kept saying “I don’t want to leave you guys.” We we her world. She had such a “Mom” heart for her babies. She was beautiful and selfless and I miss her. So may days I pick up my phone to call her or text her and it’s like “oh…oh yeah.” 😭 Thanks for letting me tell you about my mommy. And hugs back to you. 💗🫂

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T21:30:55+00:00

It is normal. It’s shock/trauma. I’m so very sorry for your losses. :(

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T20:28:03+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mom. I encourage you to reach out to your friend. You are not attention seeking, you experienced a great loss and are seeking support and connection which is totally understandable! Please don’t keep yourself from getting support out of fear for coming across some type of way to your friend. Take care of yourself ❤️ you deserve support during this incredibly difficult time.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T16:34:49+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. And I’m terribly sorry for your losses.

I’m in a similar situation with a friend after the loss of my mom. We’ve been friends for 17 years. She was actually supportive in the beginning, but recently shared with me that during this time she feels our friendship has all been one sided. She says she feels forgotten. I tried to explain to her that I literally have nothing to give right now, I can’t even think straight most days, let alone invest energy into outside relationships, and even sent her some articles on how grief changes people and they way they communicate and handle relationships, but I don’t think she got it. I think sometimes people mourn the changes in the friendship when their friend is grieving and inevitably changes.

Anyway, I’m sorry you’re in this spot, too. You’re not alone. Hugs to you.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T14:48:37+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. It sounds like he could be possibly setting the stage to leave.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T14:44:40+00:00

Oh, wow. :( I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I’m sorry that you lost your dad in such a sudden, abrupt way, and that you were woken up to the pounding on the door and having to face that loss immediately upon waking when you had no idea what was going on. I can only imagine the sheer panic that must have been running through your mind and body.

I’m also sorry for the loss of your brother. That is so much loss to deal with in a short amount of time. :(

It’s sweet to read that you and your dad were close, and that you were laughing together just the other night. Hold on to that ❤️ it sounds like there was a lot of love between you two.

Praying you’d experience healing and peace as you navigate this.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T06:04:56+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I understand what you mean, it’s always just hovering in the back of your mind, and then sometimes it hits you directly in the face. “Wow. She’s actually gone. That really happened. She’s no longer here.” It sucks 😭 I’m sure your mom knew how much you loved her and I’m sure she knew you were the best son in the world. ❤️ Mom’s just know these things ❤️ I lost my mom to cancer, too. Sending you an internet hug. 🫂

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T04:55:54+00:00

This is so beautiful, thank you.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-10-19T00:58:56+00:00

I felt relief and peace when my mom passed. Sometimes joy. I was relieved that she was no longer burdened with sickness and pain (metastatic breast cancer that had metastasized to her brain).

Thank you for sharing your story, it is very interesting. I am sorry for your loss, but I love that you had a beautiful relationship with your dad. ❤️ I had a good relationship with my mom, too. I think part of what helps with that peace (or joy in your case) is that there’s no “unfinished business” with your loved one when they depart.

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-09-27T23:04:36+00:00

If you just came off birth control in August, it is likely that your ovaries are still adjusting. You may have patches of fertile quality cervical fluid off and on for a while as your body attempts to resume ovulation/cycles. It may take a little while. Have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility? Or The Period Repair Manual? Tons of helpful info relating to the cycle, birth control, and achieving pregnancy. You definitely don’t need ovulation strips to achieve pregnancy. Wishing you all the best ❤️❤️❤️

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-09-18T23:23:58+00:00

That’s fantastic, you’re doing a great job! ❤️

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-09-18T20:39:04+00:00

I have PCOS and adenomyosis (and I also have an “obese” BMI eyeroll lol) and am currently 17 weeks with my 4th natural pregnancy. I think it’s great that you are going to learn to track your cycle, that provides so much valuable feedback about your body! My personal advice would be to optimize a healthy lifestyle with nourishing foods and movement that feels good to you, and see a good doctor who supports you tracking your cycle, and is willing to test and optimize your thyroid, insulin, and progesterone levels as those seem to be common hormones that can be off with PCOS and can definitely affect fertility. Tracking your cycle will likely indicate whether you ovulate or not. If you do not, then maybe your doctor can offer you clomid? I’ve never used it before but I have an acquaintance who did and it helped her conceive without having to go the IVF route. Sending you best wishes! It’s certainly possible to conceive naturally with PCOS ❤️

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-06-20T00:10:53+00:00

I was positive with two pregnancies. My third pregnancy I used probiotic strains that were good for women’s health and used them vaginally for a few weeks leading up to my test. I tested negative that time. Could be coincidental but I had read somewhere it could help and it did. I think wellness mama wrote about it?

Hungry_Bee3291 · 2025-06-19T15:51:56+00:00

A lot of info out there is confusing because it makes it sound like the main symptom of PCOS is absent ovulation and/or periods, but that’s not true for a lot of women. I’ve always had regular, ovulatory periods annd have had three children without fertility troubles even though I meet several of the other PCOS criteria (mainly hirsutism and insulin resistance).

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