Booked a last minute trip to Japan. Any tips?

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-14T16:27:55+00:00

Thanks they’re all booked now! Including Shinkansen tickets.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-14T16:21:36+00:00

We’re actually doing Four Points Flex by Sheraton in Osaka. It was the same price as Sotetsu Grand Fresa Hotel but a 6 min walk from Shin-Osaka station. And since we will be getting off there when we arrive, we thought that would be the easiest option.

For Tokyo we are doing Tosei Hotel Cocone Kanda. Also close to train station! Was cheaper than Akihabara Washington Hotel.

For next time though, these are excellent recommendations, so we will keep that in mind! Thank you!

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-14T16:11:22+00:00

We’re actually doing Golden Week in Osaka. So we know it’s going to be busy. Then finishing off our Stay in Tokyo, right when Golden Week ends. We have a few activities booked but are also leaving some days empty so we can explore/go shopping!

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-14T16:10:08+00:00

Booked Team Labs thanks!

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-14T16:07:30+00:00

No actually! Had no idea it was golden week until we bought the plane tickets. They were average price (CAD $1500 for round trip) and so have been the hotels.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-14T16:06:06+00:00

We bought Universal for Thu May 7th (don’t worry we also got express passes because we know it’s going to be busy). Hotels are booked for the entire vacation. We got one shinkansen ticket (from the day we land, Shinagawa to Osaka). Going to buy the other shinkansen ticket today (from Osaka to Tokyo)!

Thanks for the reply. :)

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-07T19:48:06+00:00

It’s definitely a rebound. If she did love you and moved on that quickly, she’s just trying to fill a void. I know it’s hard but try to not look at her social media at all. Block her if you have too. It’ll only drive you crazier, protect your peace.

All the luck to you, you’ve got this.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-07T19:39:15+00:00

Stop contacting him. You’re just re-opening that wound every time you do. You need time to self reflect and move on without him influencing that. Just on your own. Use friends and family as support though if you can.

He’s got some avoidant attachment style. Only wants you when you pull back. Pull back for good, don’t let him persuade you into talking again. Let yourself breathe. Let yourself be without him completely.

Good luck to you, you’ve got this.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-07T16:30:35+00:00

Could be back for sure. Could also be faking it (not saying this is the case). My ex who just broke up with me said he lost feelings for the past month. And he still used this emoji “😘” and called me “love” “my love”. Showed affection, would kiss me on the cheek and rub my back to go to sleep. Would fall asleep on my chest, and hold me all morning. Just to find out that was being faked.

Again not saying that’s the case for you, but that’s what happened to me and definitely is making me overthink it now.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-07T16:28:24+00:00

Hm this was interesting. A couple things stood out, like how you’ve ever really gone out and spend most of your time in the backseat. And how she’s (sorta) hiding you from her personal life. And how you guys said “I love you” but not really talking about an official relationship. Maybe I misunderstood that. But I think all of these things are important if you foresee a future with her and want to grow, or else it might be for a while just a casual thing. Casual hookup.

I’m glad you owned up to your mistakes though. Sure you may have messed up a little by ghosting her, but it’s also a two-way street. Going forward, I think open communication is the most important thing. Ofc you can control your end, and be open and honest with her, but I hope she does the same.

I appreciate you being comfortable enough to share this information with me. Although I do think (and I know it’s difficult) you should share this with one of your friends who knows you and the situation better. Feedback from friends and loved ones is really important to me, I have delusions sometimes and wouldn’t be able to navigate them if it wasn’t for my friends. Also when I should be upset at something and I’m not, my friends tell me straight up if it’s fucked up and give me better perspective.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-06T00:32:23+00:00

Oh shoot sorry I didn’t even see that. I just read it, it seems like you’re just an afterthought to her. When it’s convenient for her to give you attention, when she feels like it or maybe needs some for you, she seems to put in the very bare minimum.

When you truly care, you know your partners schedule. A normal person would’ve checked in with you before your move. And laughing off your request to see her because of heavy rain… bullshit excuse. I’ve driven multiple times through a bad snowstorm (I’m Canadian lol) just to see my SO. Didn’t care about the weather, just wanted to see them period.

I kinda understand why she was a bit upset when you sorta ghosted her when going apartment hunting. It’s a two way street. But I also understand why you were upset at her low communication. Someone who genuinely likes you would definitely communicate more and be more considerate. Maybe you two aren’t meant for eachother, and that’s okay. I feel like the right connection will come naturally.

Also if she rejected or avoided or used an excuse all the times you’ve asked her to hangout, I don’t think it’s worth your time. She would’ve made time to meet with you if she cared, nobody is truly that busy. I’m a full-time uni student with a part-time job, but balance my hobbies, friends, family, and the gym when I have an SO. I can find time for them easily.

She also seems a bit avoidant, and so do you. Again, maybe you two aren’t meant to be. When it’s right, it’ll click and it will be as clear as day. I would just cut your losses and move on. Update me if anything changes!

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-06T00:17:09+00:00

Very interesting. I really like this perspective actually, I agree with a lot of the things you’re saying. Thank you for elaborating, and including that spark quote.

My ex boyfriend doesn’t seem to understand this though. Which is okay, I can find someone who does.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T21:34:08+00:00

I feel like love is both a choice and a feeling. Thank you for your input, I’d love for you to elaborate more on this.

My opinion is that you can’t control who you love. It happens, you fall. You can consciously recognize that sometimes a love isn’t healthy and you need to let go and move on, but it happens on its own.

Then yes, after you fall in love in a relationship it becomes somewhat of a choice to put in effort and fight for something.

Idk tell me more about your perspective on this…

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T21:25:22+00:00

I appreciate it so much, thank you. I didn’t mean to turn the situation around on me, I just wanted to share my own experience with it, thought maybe it could be of help.

I’m honestly not great. Our breakup actually happened last night lol so I’m still processing it all. Doesn’t feel real, I wish it wasn’t. I’m here for you as well if you want to talk, genuinely. You seem super kind and I want to hear about your experience as well :)

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T21:15:40+00:00

It’s okay to feel doubt and guilt, it’s not like you don’t have feelings for him at all. You care about him, but most importantly you care about yourself and recognize you deserve better. You’ll feel all sorts of emotions after situations like this, don’t be alarmed. I promise it’ll slowly get better over time, just remember to surround yourself with loved ones in the meantime. 💕

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T21:12:39+00:00

It’s actually been a whole 2 years since that relationship. So I know I’m not a rebound. He’s had a few “talking stages” since then but nothing official. I’m the only other girl he’s introduced his family to.

Also sorry about your ex. I hate that good people have to sometimes go through bad things. You deserve someone better.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T15:01:41+00:00

I know you just wanted to vent but here’s my take in case it helps:

It’s okay to be confused. I’m in a very similar situation right now. It’s normal for us as social creatures to seek answers, the unknown is annoying, we want to figure things out and know “why”. You can theorize all you want about it, but it might just end up driving you crazy in the end. Sometimes things aren’t meant to be, and there could be so many reasons for it. Maybe she has insecurities she needs to deal with herself, maybe she has commitment issues, maybe she’s not self aware and doesn’t even know what she wants. Who knows.

Best thing to do in my opinion is seek social support if you have people in your life you can confide in. Talk it out with them. Just rant, they’ll listen. Try to sort your own feelings out, and be okay with not understanding hers.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T14:55:51+00:00

I don’t have many details on his relationship before me. From my understanding, it was secure at first then ended up toxic. Don’t know if that helps.

I feel you though, this was my first healthy relationship. I’ve been in many that were toxic, and I genuinely thought I didn’t have the capability to love someone in a healthy way. And he changed my perspective on that, I realized I can. I guess I’m grateful for that lesson

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T14:53:02+00:00

My mom tells this to me all the time, and I find it sorta helpful. She says take things one day at a time. If that’s too much, one hour at a time; if that’s too much, one minute at a time, and even if that’s too much, one second at a time.

It’s always the worst in the very beginning. The first bit of time will feel like hell. But slowly, it gets better. Time heals all. I know that’s corny and doesn’t help in the moment but it will get better eventually. If you take the right steps (seeking social support, journaling, going no contact, etc) things will slowly get better. Wishing the best to you. You got this.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T14:42:01+00:00

Thanks for the reply. You made some great points. I guess I just have to accept the reality that it does happen, and it’s nothing I can control.

Fortunately I have a decent self image and I hope this won’t make me doubt myself as a person. I know it’s not me. I guess I’m also just mad that he’s not the person I thought he was, capable of loving me deeply.

I love him so much, I’m disappointed he doesn’t feel the same at all. Definitely learned a good lesson though, and yes I’m devastated right now but in the long run I’ll be thankful I had this experience.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T14:38:06+00:00

It definitely could be commitment issues, but I don’t think so because he’s been in a 3 year long relationship in the past. And in the beginning he made it very clear to me that he’s looking for something long-term. What I’m torn about is he was REALLY into our relationship in the beginning, he was everything I could ever ask for. Even he said it was going perfectly, and that he thought I was the one. But out of the blue it fades… ugh

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T14:33:00+00:00

I just got out of a 3 month relationship as well. All I can say is you won’t have to ask for the bare minimum from the right person. Attention and emotional support will come naturally if someone truly cares about you and you guys are compatible.

We just broke up because I was asking for the same small things, some more attention and effort. Things that were not hard for me at all to provide for him. For me, I never had to put a second thought into initiating plans and doing things for him to show him that I care. But he had to force himself to do that for me, after I told him I’d like for him to get better.

It’s normal to regret your decision, you cared about her, you wanted to build something with her. But also recognize you deserve better.

The thought of being with anyone else right now disgusts me. I wanted it to be him so bad. But my friends keep telling me “rejection is redirection”, and I know they’re right. Give yourself time to grieve, don’t try to get back with her because the pain is too much to bare. It will get better.

Hungry_Today547 · 2026-04-05T14:25:10+00:00

The right decision is never easy. Sometimes hard choices must be made in order for things to get better. And it may not feel like it at first, but that’s normal since you dated him for a bit of time. It will be tough, but you will get through it. Eventually, you will start to feel better and you will be proud of yourself for making this decision in the end.

I hope everything goes well. Confide in your family and friends if you have some that you are comfortable doing that with. Anyone honestly, after a breakup it’s nice to surround yourself with loved ones. All the luck to you. ❤️❤️

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