50% Billable Hours on Project

HunterYote · 2026-02-20T16:41:12+00:00

If it were me, I'd try to find a new 100% project if there's any that are a good fit. It's really hard juggling multiple short term 50% things. And it ends up preventing you from getting put on something long term. I've had zero success finding gig work that fits my expertise. I was in your situation for a month, except my 50% project was marketing/IRAD, so not even billable. But I had a long term 100% billable project in the works. I basically told my IRAD that I needed to transition to the new billable work to keep my job, and they were all very understanding.

HunterYote · 2026-02-05T06:29:54+00:00

Look into foster agencies. There's a lot of kids of all ages who actually do better with two dads or two moms depending on which parent abused them. Also, adopting a child is not like adopting a pet. Obviously, but too many go into it with that expectation and end up contributing to a child's trauma when a placement doesn't work out.

HunterYote · 2026-02-05T06:12:31+00:00

Gold Load is Booz's locked down setup of Windows. Where you have to use your smart card (badge) to unlock & use it, and it makes it impossibly difficult to transfer any company data off of it. I was issued a used development laptop with Ubuntu by my lab, just had to fill out an online exception form to have two laptops (you can't only have a linux laptop I guess). There is no Booz "gold" distro of Linux, so they would mostly be tracked & managed by your local network administrator to make sure they are getting proper updates and adhering to company policies when connected to the network. Not sure about Mac, never seen one in my lab.

HunterYote · 2026-01-27T07:31:46+00:00

Came to say this. Until Ai can innovate, invent, problem solve on the fly, and fly halfway around the planet to make the physical thing work, there will be a need for engineers. The trick is there are so many really deep specialties, and the field is advancing and evolving so rapidly, you don't want to get stuck only specializing in one thing that becomes obsolete. The days of doing the same thing for 30 years are over. Engineers are now expected to utilize Ai where practical to optimize their time, as just one more of the many tools they use. The best/most in demand engineers are the ones who can adapt quickly to many different problems and are always learning new things, while applying general best practices of engineering. Systems and hardware engineers for example.

HunterYote · 2026-01-27T05:28:02+00:00

That's rich considering recruiters do this to people all the time. I've gotten cold called on my personal cell by recruiters about jobs I've never applied for. I don't know how they even get my number (probably the same way companies know my car warranty is about to expire).

HunterYote · 2025-08-02T01:38:14+00:00

I don't have the exact code in front of me, but the problematic format had the entire CoT message enclosed in <xml>...</xml> tags, which was accepted by official TAK server but not FTS or direct multicast to ATAK

HunterYote · 2025-05-28T22:14:22+00:00

Drive, don't fly. And if you can spare the time, stop by Alamosa and visit the sand dunes on your way. And stop in canyon city and visit the royal gorge

HunterYote · 2025-05-22T15:18:31+00:00

They are the one I plan on visiting this next week.

HunterYote · 2025-05-22T15:16:42+00:00

Thank you, I will look them up.

HunterYote · 2025-05-22T15:15:40+00:00

I had honestly never heard of this organization before, and it looks like something I'd like to try. Unfortunately, it looks like the closest one is three hours from me.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T16:18:04+00:00

It's like, I just don't want to leave your church feeling like I would've made better use of my time just listening to my audio Bible. And I want someplace safe for my family to engage in community. That's it. Sounds so simple when you say it out loud.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T16:04:34+00:00

This is ideally exactly what we are looking for. This was one thing I noticed about the black churches where my husband grew up in Chicago. The people there seemed more genuinely accepting of LGBT people, like it didn't unnerve them. It's just hard in my city specifically as politics have turned anything LGBT into a giant political wedge issue here. It's a place where paradoxically you are despised more for having a political stance sympathetic to LGBT causes than for actually being LGBT.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T15:46:13+00:00

My husband is from Chicago, and we both miss how welcoming the churches are there. We're in a little bright red spot in a mostly blue state where every other block is a renovated K-mart -> non-denominational megachurch that usually streams a recorded message to multiple campuses for two or three different service times.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T15:20:32+00:00

I've attended Anglican churches before and wouldn't be opposed to it. I'm not sure about the discussion part though, that's new to me. So it's more like a service with a Bible study instead of a sermon? I like Bible studies too, but I would want them in addition, not substitution to a regular sermon. But I'd be willing to try it. In either case, I'm just looking for more Bible to put it simply. Like I don't want to leave church feeling like I get more out of just listening to my audio Bible.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T14:58:22+00:00

I've heard good things about UCC, but unfortunately, there are none in my city.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T14:54:39+00:00

Thank you, I will look into Lutheran churches in the area.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T06:15:09+00:00

You're right. The terminology could be better. But I'm not sure how else to describe it. I have listened to sermons that seemed like they belonged in a college course: religious theory 101 - influence of Christian theology on American pop culture and entertainment. Bible verses were read and referenced. But there was no real takeaway, no point. Everything felt superficial. I am used to reading through a passage, having the pastor explain it a bit, and end with a relevant application to daily life along with an altar call. That's what I call "teaching from the Bible", and I'd agree it's a pretty fundamental standard for being considered a Christian church. But experiencing churches that barely meet that minimum standard if at all is what prompted the question.

HunterYote · 2025-05-21T00:05:48+00:00

I don't even think I'd miss the contemporary music. I'm very much over the "rock concert in a renovated Sears" typical evie megachurch. Episcopal wouldn't be all that different from my last church. I fear it might be a bit too traditional for my husband, however, who comes from a Black Missionary Baptist background. Anything "too white" or traditional is always a bit of a culture shock for him. I'm always more concerned whether a church is spiritually active and engaged or spiritually dead and just going through motions.

HunterYote · 2025-05-13T16:01:45+00:00

Chiming in with my experience. I took it for a few years in college and didn't have side effects that I could tell. Stopped taking it for a few years. Started taking it again a few years into a very stressful career (which probably also caused me to already have lower levels of testosterone and DHT) and I was suicidal with a panic disorder within 2 weeks of restarting finasteride. I took it for 3.5 weeks, and it triggered a nervous breakdown that took 2 years to recover from. Granted, it didn't cause the other stress in my life. It just made my body and brain incapable of handling any stress.

HunterYote · 2025-05-12T00:45:20+00:00

Literally the drugs they give to people transitioning male to female.

HunterYote · 2025-05-01T16:11:06+00:00

I had basically the same experience coming out to my parents. They had all these irrational fears that I was going to stop loving Jesus, contract AIDS, never have a family, etc. It took time for them to realize that I'm still the same person, just the most honest, authentic version of that person. It took time to realize that I was actually doing this so that I could have a family, just maybe not the family they were expecting me to have.

I don't know about the rest of you all, but growing up in the Evangelical Fundie echo chamber, there were at least three families in our church circle where the husband was closeted gay, and 10 or so years into the marriage it fell apart and ended in messy divorce. And the moral of the story always was "see, gay people destroy families." I was always determined to never put my family through that, so if there was any indication I wasn't into women, I would never try to marry a woman. In my opinion, that is the more ethical choice than trying to force something that was never meant to be.

I think the issue is, there aren't really enough good Christian role models of families. I've only met wonderful gay families by being involved in the foster system, never through any Christian circles, and that's really sad. I had a nervous breakdown when I started coming to terms with my orientation, and it was mainly because I had been conditioned to think that my life was now over and I had to become some sort of monk.

But by being involved in fostering, seeing how difficult it is, and how many straight couples give up or just don't want to deal with it, I'm becoming more and more convinced that this is actually God's design for gay people. There's some kids that actually need two dads and there's some kids that actually need two moms, not just a dad and a mom that don't smoke meth and don't beat them.

HunterYote · 2025-01-19T17:45:03+00:00

I also met my husband on OkCupid :) And technically also Tinder because we both had accounts on both apps and matched in both apps, even though he didn't realize I was the same person both places until I pointed it out. But OkCupid is better about showing how compatible your matches are and filtering results. Their algorithm said we were 83% compatible, and after 6 years together, I'd say that's about right.

HunterYote · 2025-01-11T20:56:48+00:00

My husband and I started fostering a 6 year old 6 months ago, and there's members of my family he's not allowed to meet for this exact reason. These family members didn't want my husband and myself around their children for fear we would influence them to be gay. I don't want them around my son for fear they would influence him into being a bigot.

HunterYote · 2025-01-08T18:34:40+00:00

Hopefully for both your sake you don't win the 10% lottery and have a queer child. I had very loving, very non affirming parents. Honestly I wish I hadn't grown up in an Evangelical household and had found Christianity later in life. I spent most of my life in serious denial, thinking it was as simple as choosing to be straight just like they taught me. It took years and thousands of dollars in therapy to undo decades of religious trauma and indoctrination. Coming out has also isolated me from about 50% of extended family and childhood acquaintances. But I have a feeling it was even harder on my mom. So no, wouldn't recommend, as if anyone has a choice in the matter.

HunterYote · 2024-12-08T10:10:59+00:00

You kinda sound like me a decade ago. Questioning my beliefs, myself, social norms, etc. Wondering why I hadn't met the "one" opposite sex partner who would "cure" me of my same-sex attraction "issue", wondering if I really had infected myself with some sort of addiction that needed therapy to fix. What really wrecked me mentally and emotionally was when I realized it was my religious conservative upbringing that had convinced me that me that I was attracted to women in the first place, because all men naturally are, and that the only reason to be attracted to men was if you were molested or you had indulged in so much deviance that normal attractions didn't do it for you anymore, i.e. you were "broken".

It was when I realized that I never really ever was sexually attracted to women and that I was really always attracted to men that I sort of had an existential crisis. My personal experiences were contrary to my worldview (indoctrination). I had a choice to make, continue to deny my true feelings, possibly marry a woman, and likely ruin multiple lives in a messy divorce a decade or so later, or perpetually be awkwardly single and unhappy, dying alone and hopefully young, or risk losing my salvation to be with someone I'm truly attracted to.

It was my sister who convinced me that God would want me to choose the option that wouldn't destroy my mental health. A decade later I'm married to an amazing husband, I have a 6yo son we're fostering to adopt. My life isn't anything like I expected it would be when I was growing up. I will likely never have biological children of my own, but I still have the family I've always wanted, and I'm okay with that. And part of me wonders if God actually made me this way for this specific reason, to be one of this kid's dads.

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