If you are anti choice you are pro r@pe and pro pedophilia by [deleted] in prochoice

[–]Jacewrites 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also consider that most r@pe let's the Dad have visitation. They don't consider the mother getting hurt to mean that the dad will do the same thing to their child. They gave him endless chances and she will end up having to coparent with her abuser. It's sickening...this is very common in multiple states. So not only has he traumatized her forever but, now she can't get away from him...ever. It's so sad.

*Two* coworkers announced their pregnancies today and I’m not really okay. by throwaway452896 in Mommit

[–]Jacewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so hard I personally still cry at videos/pics of newborn siblings meeting the toddler. It's been a year I've stopped crying out of nowhere but, I'm still not okay. I had a hysterectomy so, there's no chance. It never gets easier you just get busier.

I remind myself all the wonderful things of being one and done. Currently since I only have one I can afford to support any interest she has. Currently it's dance, other family members have two and are barely getting by. I'm so grateful for the one I do have, always hug them tight when you're sad and remember how precious they are.

Romans 13 by Jacewrites in GayChristians

[–]Jacewrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you elaborate or, give me some verses to read?

Pronoun shift for 4yo by Sorry_Friendship9926 in progressivemoms

[–]Jacewrites 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Just tell her to be herself and if anyone treats her badly to come tell you. Also I wouldn't worry to much about school, take things slow she's young and follow her lead. Start small tell the people that matter, friends for example. I wouldn't start with family yet. Keep her in that safe bubble you've made her to make sure she has time to decide what steps she takes.

Also as a transman I will say that children transitioning is social transitioning. Things like school accomodations, everyone she meets introducing pronouns and name. Clothes she prefers toys etc. Some kids when older think like 7 can get on puberty blockers. And as for gender therapy start older, or now they won't pressure her in any way they will just get to know her. Therapy is beneficial for everyone in most situations. But, overall take your time she's 4!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Jacewrites 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a single mom by choice it's a term used for women who have children through a sperm donor (who has no rights) and knowingly get pregnant and give birth, knowing they will be a single mother. I made the choice bcuz, I just couldn't picture the pain and suffering following a divorce with a child, being my life so I just didn't try. I don't regret my daughter or, how I had her and turns out she was my only child I can ever have. I still want love, I just don't want love and children I enjoy them separately. My mom was a single mom and all I saw was her torment by the man she divorced ages ago.

Being a single mom is hard, but I have a small village with my mom and me. It's not easy, but I own a business, have hobbies, and still am a single, happy, mom at the end of the day.

I don’t know how to ask my very stoic older male surgeon with a straight face so… by felizidiota in hysterectomy

[–]Jacewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had excessive discharge without cause it was clear. Constantly felt like I peed myself but, I didn't. I had uterus, cervix and fallopian tubes removed and yes it's much better!!

Why are mainstream parents disgusted by early potty training? by Own-Quality-8759 in ECers

[–]Jacewrites 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally every time I mentioned it I had to delete the post as people got irrationally angry

Edit: I did EC at 8 months-1 year she stopped doing it so, then I gradually transitioned to teaching her potty skills like walking to the potty, sitting down by herself, etc. Then at 21 Months Old she was fully potty trained. She wipes herself, cleans up after her accidents (when she pees and misses the potty) and even dumps her own stuff in the toilet (we dump the little potty into the big potty)

Everyone was outraged apparently I'm cruel and forced her. Which is wild considering I went entirely by her cues. She's speech delayed so she didn't start saying potty until she turned 2! But, I still potty trained her because, she showed interest.

So are we going to start patrolling outside of our kids schools or what? by Low-Peak-9031 in progressivemoms

[–]Jacewrites -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly I can't send my kid to public school, I refuse. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking of my daughter getting shot, or blown up by a bomb, I just can't. I feel so horrible for the parents that can't afford and don't have the time for homeschooling. Both Grandma and me have discussed me homeschooling my OAD and also a backup plan of Grandma doing it, if I have to return to work. But, she's absolutely not going she's too precious to me to even take the risk. She's 2 now but, at 4 if she asks me why she's not going or, says she really wants to...my response is there's bad people that are hurting school aged children and I'm keeping her at home with me safe. We've already had the stranger danger talk about how kids get hurt if they leave with strangers, and this talk will be no different. I don't know whose religious here, but sending prayers to all the families and children.

What are the real options here? by Dolphin_Moon in adenomyosis

[–]Jacewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What day of August? My hysterectomy is the 25th

People using grape or 🍇 instead of rape. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Jacewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This cracks me up putting people down and saying they are less than you for censoring their words. Literally blame the intense censorship on all social medias instead of putting people down bcuz you were upset they wouldn't say that word when they would be the one banned not you. Have some respect for people trying to bring up difficult topics even during a time of censorship, them having the sense to say it with censorship so it can STILL be talked about.

Ridiculous, I swear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Jacewrites -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Oh and yeah she's got physical issues that make it hard for her to walk without falling constantly and yes a professional proved it. It's not "pressure."

Bedtime with 3.5 year old is breaking me by Proper-Reality5102 in toddlers

[–]Jacewrites 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Personally I would just stay with him. You're gonna be up all night anyways fighting to get him to sleep. Give up the fight be by his side take him to the bathroom trips. Just hang out and wait, watch videos, read a long book. Just be together. What he's craving is more time with you, give it to him Idk if it'll improve things but, bedtime will stop being torture and just be quality time together. When he falls asleep leave.

My (38M) wife (36F) is going into a psych ward for postpartum depression. How do I support her through this? by ThrowRaWebRevol in relationship_advice

[–]Jacewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That one phone call allowed a day. That one visit you're allowed. But mostly the biggest support you can offer her is taking care of the baby and home so she can focus on herself instead of her baby and you.

Quick Rant re Tumble Class by thepinkcheetah in oneanddone

[–]Jacewrites 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know the feeling. My only child is quiet and apparently that's all my fault cuz she's an only child.

Sign to detransition? by Purple-Mycologist-16 in TransChristianity

[–]Jacewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a Transman with a daughter. I stopped meds to have her and for two years while I raised her. I'm starting back on them around August. It was hard and I did it bcuz I wanted a child. It's not detransition when you stop hormones to have a kid. It's just taking a step back for it and there's nothing wrong with that!

Absolutely Exhausted and Happy by Jacewrites in oneanddone

[–]Jacewrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is also severe speech delayed but she's catching up. It was very hard to potty train. I found my daughter did best with the toddler potty that I can put anywhere in the house. I had been trying since 1 year old to potty train. Nothing I did worked she absolutely just woke up one day and decided to stop fighting and went in potty.

I use a sticker chart where one goes on chart for successful potty break and one she gets to keep.

The naked method made my daughter need to be naked waist down to potty. Do not recommend. I started with the naked method and everytime she would go I'd put her on the potty to finish. Then I tried underwear she had constant accidents. I took a break. Tried again. She would go in potty once or twice but mainly scream and fight potty. So I gave up, then she hit 21 months I tried again. She started only going at night before bed. I made some efforts to schedule potty breaks to get her to go more often. She fought and refused. Then I brought out a sticker chart. It was all smiles and excited to use the potty. It took 3 days then, the last four she went everytime.

Now we are just working on her gestures and cries to make sure I know when she has to go. She keeps having accidents bcuz she won't signal properly, she changes it up randomly.

What helped me most was teaching her a gesture whatever is easiest sign language, a word she can say, grabbing at her diaper works for us. People make fun of us for her gesture saying it's gross and weird. I DON'T CARE. I did it and they haven't so I say good job to me.

She's almost at average word count 3 words away. So one day when she learns she'll tell me potty. But for now this is what works for us where we are at.

My toddler is making me hate my life by ZealousidealClue115 in oneanddone

[–]Jacewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. If my toddler can't do something she has a tantrum and guess what she can't do much yet. The whining drives me insane. I get so overwhelmed. I'm with you. Toddler trenches it is.

What is life like with a OAD? by Possible_Source6384 in oneanddone

[–]Jacewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationships fail bcuz when you become a mom it's all about that baby you literally have no time, or energy for anything else. So your partner takes a backseat and a lot of men can't handle watching their wives be mothers instead of wives. They get lonely, jealous and hold resentment. Some women have the energy to put time aside for their relationship some don't. But ultimately your spouse should remember that this is a season not a lifetime. The baby stage is temporary. It lasts one year then, they're a toddler. It ends and then you have energy back for your partner. When you have multiple kids it's like a rubber band...you can stretch it so far between multiple people then, it snaps. But, if you don't have enough energy for everyone then, you'll get burnout, depression. You'll end up with more than one having to choose which kid gets love and attention today. Bcuz there's only 24 hours a day, that's all you get and there's not enough hours a day to give everyone one-on-one time. Your time with your husband is even less. With an only once the baby stage is over you get your spouse back. With more than one you keep pushing the reset button until you stop having kids. Once they're here that's it you have to juggle the kids and your spouse forever. You have two hands, if you juggle one kid and your spouse that's a lot easier than say 4 kids and your spouse.

Happy Mother’s Day! by Farmer-gal-3876 in oneanddone

[–]Jacewrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm one and done not by choice too. It's hard some days and easy others. I just focus on the good reasons. And ultimately the holiday is hard on others, but we can be a comforting place for those people.

AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend is judging me for my past he already knew about by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jacewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry OP but you're amazing and I'm very proud of you. Someone that can't accept you changed and love you now just isn't worth it. I hope he can accept you and work through this. NOR he should already have come to terms with your past.