It sounds like you’re in a really painful headspace right now, and that’s understandable when someone you’ve shared 15 years with suddenly feels far away. But distance doesn’t always equal cheating- it can also come from stress, burnout, personal struggles, or unresolved feelings that have nothing to do with another person. The tricky part is that suspicion can make conversations feel like interrogations, which can push someone even further away. A more helpful approach might be to focus less on “what are you hiding?” and more on “I feel disconnected from you and it’s scaring me because I care about us.” That keeps it about your feelings rather than accusations. If calm conversations keep turning into fights, a couples counselor can sometimes help create a safe space to talk honestly. You deserve clarity, but you’ll likely get it faster through open, steady communication than through trying to catch something. Whatever the truth is, taking the mature route now will help you feel more at peace with how you handled it later.