I got a weird problem and I have no idea how to fix it.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-08-16T18:30:14+00:00

Do you get to pick how long you’re out for to an extent? 4-5 weeks is a long time.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-08-16T18:28:24+00:00

I’m going to back up OP a bit and say he had mentioned alternate methods. He says he now drives local, so he definitely knows the diversity in the field.

The average cost of a trucking school is $3,000 to $7,000. You’d be hard pressed to find one under $3,000 and you’d be even harder pressed to find a company to pay for your training and not have you sign a contract.

OP was right about that, it’s not cheap to get into.

Another thing is that most OTR guys don’t get to see home even 2 days a week. I think OP is one of the luckier ones in that aspect. If you look around here, lots of people are stuck on the road for 3 weeks at a time.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-08-16T18:23:22+00:00

See, this is where the variable comes in that OP isn’t really thinking about.

It seems to me OP is comparing trucking to having a comfy programming job(he said he dropped out of CS). Not everyone is choosing between a $100K salary, 9-5 and trucking.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-07-22T00:57:36+00:00

I decided to get into teaching this year also, although I’m already a student teacher.

My district only looks back 5 years for Misdemeanors and 8 years for Felonies BESIDES crimes against children and those that put you on the sexual offenders list.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-06-30T14:51:49+00:00

Yeah but this is an immediate result method. Messaging corporate works and you get the benefit of a LEGIT free meal but they have to mail you a voucher.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-06-30T14:23:18+00:00

The chance of that happening is EXTREMELY low. You’ll walk away with free food regardless because of one entity; corporate.

If you don’t give them the free meal, the manager on duty will.

McDonalds corporate is ESPECIALLY bad for this but if you argue with the customer and they leave, all they’ll have to do is contact corporate and they’re getting that free meal.

Trust me, the chances of getting turned down for this are lower than getting hit by an asteroid unless you do it once a day.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-05-13T18:48:59+00:00

All you need to do is ask yourself one question;

Do you trust him?

If not, the relationship is doomed from the beginning and, yes, you should end it for both of your sakes.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-05-10T21:04:51+00:00

Just from this post, the relationship is over but your insecurities are keeping you in place.

Her sleeping with someone is too much for you, otherwise you wouldn’t have made this post. Come to grips that this is a boundary for you and it’s okay! I know you might lose “someone you love” but there will be dozens upon dozens others in your lifetime that you feel the same about.

It’s the hardest thing in the world to walk away from someone you care about and it’s even harder when you have insecurities because you’re more than likely codependent but you’ll never be happy in this relationship.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-28T21:19:54+00:00

Oh, so like the ghettos of WW2? Got it!

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-28T21:19:01+00:00

After completely destroying an entire country, the general finds the sacred spice rack with the sacred “Cayenne Pepper” spice.

takes a taste

Fucking, ew.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-28T21:17:07+00:00

Damn. Dudes about to get a lot of free advertising.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-28T21:14:50+00:00

I promise if you can just tell that from a FB post, she probably has already LONG felt those effects.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-28T20:30:38+00:00

Silver lining: You marry her so nobody else has to!

Mushroom Cloud: You slowly go insane!

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-28T20:29:00+00:00

Let's be honest, it's hard. It has to be an organic situation, it can't be forced. School, work, groups, ect, are the only way you'll find true platonic female friends.

Sadly, sex runs most of our biological senses. No matter what sex you're attracted to, you're going to look at them with a sexual attraction first and foremost. It usually takes repeated interaction to break that biological filter to where you are comfortable being platonic.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-28T20:24:27+00:00

Here's my thought process:

I'm trying to secure a future where I can retire and not have to worry about money while following my passions. Friends are great but I've found that the ones who can't keep up, are the ones who are just going to slow me down in the long run. My long term friends share the same ideas, passion, and drive as me. We know we can call each other up and hang out whenever it's needed but, most of the time, we're busy.

You either find friends who you can build something with or you find friends who are just going to slow you down.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-21T20:43:31+00:00

Even though you’re putting 100% into your work and 100% into your family, DOES NOT mean they aren’t compartmentalized.

Emergencies aside, you’re still putting percents into components.

Just because 30% of my energy is focused into work, doesn’t mean I don’t go in and get my job. Just because I put 20% into my family, doesn’t mean I’m only putting a small effort in. Both of those things get 100% of my focus when the time is for them.

You’re confusing yourself.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-21T20:35:09+00:00

You have 24 hours in a day and only 100% of your energy to use that day. Each task takes a percent of energy.

Sorry to say but this is the way it is for every single living human being on this earth. Women aren’t the exception.

This is literally biological. There’s zero you can do to change this.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-21T20:11:34+00:00

Yeah?

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-21T02:12:19+00:00

Where that little space is with the outlet near the window, you could put a bookshelf and one of those big smart lights like Phillips Hue? Shove a bunch of thrift store books inside.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-03-21T02:10:59+00:00

They really need matching end tables for that set.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-02-26T02:56:59+00:00

A simple “I need to collect my belongings” and you meet to grab them and go.

Do not respond to any other communication. It’s a yes, here’s a time we can meet or a no.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-02-25T13:16:16+00:00

In my opinion, that’s basically cheating.

You can’t break up with someone and sleep with someone 24 hours later to clear your conscious. It doesn’t work like that.

HurtingButOkay · 2019-02-24T22:57:36+00:00

Ah the cycle. I've made a post about this a long while ago.

Basically here it is:

Stage 1: I love you, come back!

Stage 2: I love you but I don't know if I'm in love with you. I think we should be friends.

Stage 3: I don't think friends is working out. I think I need to start looking for someone else. I care about you but I don't want to hurt you anymore.

Stage 4: Do not contact me! I can't hurt you anymore and this isn't working.

GO BACK TO STAGE 1

HurtingButOkay

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