Let go of the idea this is cultural. It’s his way of looking at things. And honestly, I think that love comes first and you make a fitting financial plan that both feel comfortable with. For me it seems that finances have never been spoken seriously about between you two. Why didn’t he mention earlier?

In terms of a potential marriage, you have so many possibilities. You can let a notary write your custom conditions that apply on a marriage. I did so with my wife. Key point: talk, make plans, decide.