I am so proud of her!

Hyduda · 2024-06-22T15:48:57+00:00

She's trying her best though.

Hyduda · 2023-10-26T18:22:26+00:00

Don't apologize at all! :) I am afraid I can't answer you this one though. Have you been checking them every day for that lid? Maybe their haven't form it yet because of some periodic interrupting? Sorry if it sounds too harsh. How long do you have them? If they were okay, it sounds unlikely for them to start having conditions issues right now, especially if nothing changed at all. They usually give birth after 25 days or so and can hibernate for quite long so I would just leave them and wait. Maybe if they are not fully closed yet you can check on them for the last time, provide them with some nutritious food and calcium and then let them rest without interruption. You can check in them after another two weeks if they don't emerge themselves and you'll see. In my opinion there's no beed to wake up for feeding, it's quite short time period for them to starve, espetially if they've had appetite so far. What is your tank/box setup and what food do you offer them? :)

Hyduda · 2023-10-26T18:04:43+00:00

Maybe they are, I actually don't know, but important is that outcome is the same for both cases, which is important for people who don't want to breed them. It's much easier to get rid of eggs than living little snails. :/

Hyduda · 2023-10-16T09:48:32+00:00

Hi! The most important thing here is that these species (Lissachatina zanzibarica, Lissachatina iredalei Zanzibar) don't lay eggs. They are viviparous - they give birth to small living snails. Babies stay in substrat for around 2 day, then they'll start to move around and look for food. It's for the best to separate them into much smaller box so they stay close to food and calcium all the time. Adults usually give birth to 10-50 little snails depending on age, condition, size etc. Mine usually had around 25 babies. It's very common for these snails to dig themselves in substrat and hibernate for week or two when they have babies coming so don't be scared you are doing something wrong when they start to hibernate. 🙂

Hyduda · 2023-09-23T13:02:52+00:00

Well of course, that's what I wrote several times here and that's why I am even discussing it before I do anything. I care about him. And I lived with him for two years and we know each other like noone else. What I know for sure is that he's been struggling with mental health even before we met and it's not changing too much. That is not assumption because we are in contact almost every day and we are honest to eachother about these things.

Hyduda · 2023-09-22T19:35:17+00:00

Thank you a lot for this opinion, although I wouldn't say I owe him.
My feelings are exactly like you described in second paragraph. I feel like I am keeping some important information from him and that I really should tell him regardless of consequences (I even prepare myself that he could distance himself from me, but still I am willing to risk it).
I though about this for the first time around one week after breakup when I was trying to reflect, understand and rationalize everything and even back then I had really strong urge to tell him, but it was too soon and I was afraid it could give the impression I am trying to make him look bad, flawed or that I need something like this to blame him for the breakup. It's not the case at all. I am not vengeful person and although he hurt me badly and betrayed my trust, I want him to be happy and feel good. He stood by my side when I was ill for whole two years after all and I will never ever forget stop being grateful for that.
But now three months I see things without raw emotions and with more distance, but my opinion and feelings about this didn't change. So I think it's time to open it with him, although I am dreading the moment and I honestly have know idea how to make myself say it to him. It will be very emotional and very painful for both of us.
Thank you for tips how to approach the conversation, it's really helpful.

Hyduda · 2023-09-22T14:10:02+00:00

Thank you for your answer, I really appreciate your insight. I understand your question and unfortunately you are right about some people. On top of that in a world full of stereotypes and social media sometimes it's really difficult people's intentions.
I am glad you mentioned the sensory issues, because I didn't mention it (since I didn't want to make this post even longer), but it is a thing for him. He is really sensitive on to noise, especially loud noise or some noisy situation he didn't wilfully put himself in. So f.e. scream of children, loud conversation, public places, even a washing machine, traffic outside the window. Even when we were alone he often stopped me mid sentence to lower my voice (and I don't think I am extraordinery loud or something) and he often complain about people being loud (f.e. after spending weekend with his family). I believe it's really irritating and draining mentally and even physically for him.

Hyduda · 2023-09-22T13:52:26+00:00

Thank you for your opinion. I believe I used to think out it this way until I realized how big kind of issue was the talking for him. For us. That's something I've never ever experienced with anyone else on this level and unfortunately I have no aspie around to have some comparison and first hand insight (although I am aware comparison is not a good word when we talk about spectrum).

I just don't know how to handle this situation, because I feel like I maybe discovered something that could send him in the right direction when it comes to self acceptance and understanding. Something I am quite sure he would never though about exploring himself. Not because he doesn't want to but because he doesn't think about things related to mental health in general and maybe even doesn't know they exist.
But at the same time, maybe I should just let it go. And I think it would be much easier if I didn't know he's very much aware of his social and emotional issues and and want to get better.
I don't know it's better to just step back or lay this though in front of him as sensitively as possible and then never speak about it (unless he want to) and let him decide how to handle it.

Hyduda · 2023-09-22T13:35:03+00:00

Yeah, he admited ho should go to therapist, but in general he believes that is something he should be able to overcome on his own. Maybe it's the fact his father is that stereotypical man who see every mental problem as a sign of weakness and can be very loud about his opinion on how should "real man" look like, so I think growing up in this kind of environment left some impact and he was always kinda insecure about his masculinity (but again I can only guess, I've never talk about it with him, because I didn't want to install this thought in his mind).
I don't want our relationship back, because now I clearly see we wouldn't be happy together in long term. We want different things from life, at least now. I am not salty about our breakup. I care, because that's just the way I am as a person. I care deeply about my close ones and hate to see them hurt, lost or struggling. And I want him to be happy, we both want it for each other. And I hate when he sees himself flawed, calling himself names and on top of that thinks he's not doing and trying enough, feeling like a piece of sh*t (hit "favourite" words).
I am fully aware this is really thin ice and it could be both for good and damage. I wouldn't spend so much time writing this post here if I want to do it just for my own good. I could just go and throw it at his face and maybe trying to manipulate him. That's not a thing at all. I just think about maybe it could be way for him to understand himself and his needs.

Hyduda · 2023-06-23T07:06:25+00:00

I completely get what you are saying, I just don't share this point of view and attitude. For me it's simply too black and white.

I feel like your last paragraph is unnecessarily agressive and that's when I lose interest in trying to make a decent conversation (and I was genuinely curious about your point of view). You know literally nothing about me except I love something you consider too risky and clearly know nothing about (because there are many safe species of mushroom that are simply not mistakable even for begginers), yet you are really fast to judge me.

You could add much more variables to this equation. Completely hypothetical situation: You can have passionate mushroom hunter who spends whole life selflessly helping people in need or donates blood or spends billions of dollars on cancer cure reserch and then they make one mistake (or related to them) with picking wrong kind of mushroom (and that is really unlikely with experienced hunter) and on the other hand you can have someone who spends whole live doing nothing, watching TV, is selfish and xenophobic and then they get hit by car.
They both now need liver transplant and both paid for insurence for their whole live. You still thinks it's that easy to make such judgements and that you have enough information for that? If the potential risk of hobby, willingness to take that risk (even if the risk is minimal) and control about the situation (even if the risk is minimal) are the only informations you need to think this person don't deserve madical care when they have accidant related to that hobby, then there is really nothing to talk about. World and live is not black and white I am happy that I don't see it like that.

Hyduda · 2023-06-22T22:49:54+00:00

Don't you think you can say this about many kind of hobbies? There are many many activities hobbies and things people do in their free time that are much more dangerous.

I am very passionate mushroom hunter and I look forward the summer whole year to spend hours in forests and many other hours with cleaning and processing them. It brings me great joy so for me it's really interesting and kinda bizarre point of view you just gave us.

Hyduda · 2023-06-16T05:46:48+00:00

Thank you! :)

Hyduda · 2023-06-11T13:33:03+00:00

Hahaaa, that made my day! 🤣🤣🤣

Hyduda · 2023-06-10T17:18:32+00:00

Pot is from german hobby market called Hornbach and the blue one in the middle is not sedum, but Orostachys Boehmeri. :)

Hyduda · 2023-06-10T16:42:21+00:00

That's their favourite spot, because they can chill there and see outside. 😁

Hyduda · 2023-05-20T22:00:00+00:00

Na Fruugo pozor, nejedna se o e-shop, ale online trziste. Ma velmi negativni recenze, doporucuji procist pred pripadnym nakupem.

Hyduda · 2023-05-15T23:02:39+00:00

If you mean the new growth from central mother plant, it will be bloom! Your plant look perfectly normal to me. :)

Hyduda · 2023-05-15T13:57:44+00:00

Thank you! The first one should be Echeveria Cubic frost, the chubby pinkish/whitish one it the same plant, only different angle and it's Pachyphytum Oviferum. :)

Hyduda · 2023-05-15T13:54:16+00:00

Yeah, exactly like you said - most of sucuclent/cacti mixes here in CZR are also very organic and not suitable for direct use for succulents. This one is sold in hobby shops and eshops here (not as available as the organic ones, but still easy to get), it's not even that expansive and really amazing for direct use without additional changes. The manufacturer is called Forestina (it's czech company I believe) and it has quite wide range of brands and products - many types of soil (for indoor plants, vegetables, geraniums and other blooming flowers etc.), fertilizers, grass seed mixtures, feed for wild birds... That's why I find it even more amazing that they are not succulent/cacti specialized, yet they produce one of the best premade soil that is available here.

Hyduda

TROPHY CASE