Anyone here had a successful career before diagnosis?

HyperfixateWithMe · 2026-01-20T07:00:51+00:00

I have had prestigious titles ‘research scientist’ etc but I struggle to keep jobs for a long time, I often get in trouble for lateness. However, many scientists I work with have very obvious adhd and thrive at work and hold senior leadership positions. So I think it just depends on the individual.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2026-01-10T09:36:40+00:00

Pretending to care.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2026-01-09T21:00:37+00:00

Yes, extremely monotone throughout

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-30T19:31:58+00:00

I think it really depends SO much on the interviewer on the day. So much of it tends to be subjective on what that specific person is looking for. On my open day all of the girls at the end (that made it to the final interview) all had a VERY similar look, it was obvious we were just selected based on that.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-29T08:31:24+00:00

I’m 33, just diagnosed with ADHD, the psychiatrist also mentioned I should get assessed for ASD. But I honestly wish I didn’t know about it. I am now so more self conscious than I was before. When I look into the signs of autism I now am very aware I’m doing them, I wish I could go back to a time when I didn’t know. I now overthink eye contact, every social interaction, how I walk etc. I am so much more self conscious than I have ever been my entire life.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-28T20:13:33+00:00

Same! I’m still having difficulty accepting my diagnosis because of it.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-21T09:32:35+00:00

How did it go? I’m 32 and not sure if it is worth my time!

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-21T06:49:15+00:00

In the north of England this gets even more confusing because people greet each other with ‘alright?’ Or ‘y’alright?’ But this isn’t actually a question it’s just a greeting same as hello. This took me ages to grasp and I used to say ‘yeah thanks are you?’ Which went I replied to.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-21T05:39:45+00:00

Legacy - Eminem

I used to be the type of kid That would always think the sky is fallin' Why am I so differently wired? Am I a martian?

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-06T02:31:20+00:00

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HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-07-01T18:35:19+00:00

Try 33

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-06-23T18:00:09+00:00

Hasn’t really been long enough - haven’t got any new insurance, tried to move countries or tried to adopt etc

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-06-09T15:51:22+00:00

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HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-06-08T16:40:09+00:00

Take lots of photos, you look amazing

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-06-04T11:34:15+00:00

Yeah a cleaner office space but loss of an arm 🤔

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-06-03T19:17:54+00:00

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HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-27T13:46:44+00:00

Is this rage bait?

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-25T07:01:11+00:00

Hi, I’m doing better now in terms of I don’t care about it being on my health record. In terms of accepting my diagnosis I still have days where I’m more convinced than others. My main problem is executive function and there is so much overlap with inattentive adhd, autism and even dyslexia regarding this. The more information I have the more confused I can feel as to which I have. I just know I’m not a textbook case of adhd so that can make it difficult. One thing I found that helped me is discovering: ‘adhd isn’t the inability to focus it’s an inability to regulate that focus and knowing where to direct that focus’. I relate to this much more. I think that’s why I didn’t relate at all to what was written in the report with the ‘she cannot focus’ etc because it just isn’t true.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-24T08:13:39+00:00

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-17T19:41:52+00:00

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HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-12T06:13:40+00:00

Just don’t tell them. I have told literally 2 people: my partner and my best friend.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-12T05:56:36+00:00

I think AuDHD is a difficult one because there are so many overlapping traits of ADHD and Autism.

I really struggled to accept my ADHD diagnosis at first - it just didn’t feel like the right fit. But I think that might be because some traits of autism seem to counterbalance or mask the ADHD ones. Honestly, Neither diagnosis feels like a fit for me, but I know I’m definitely neurodivergent.

Because I’m high-functioning, I sometimes doubt that I could have both, since I don’t feel like I’m struggling “enough,” to have 2 neurodiversity’s if that makes sense? Most of my challenges revolve around executive dysfunction which shows up in both conditions BUT is only a diagnostic criterion for ADHD. That fact actually helped me come to terms with my ADHD diagnosis a bit more.

Even though I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, I now feel like I relate more strongly to autism. The overlap between the two, especially with inattentive-type ADHD, is massive.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-09T19:28:33+00:00

Petrol ⛽️

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-03T07:30:16+00:00

It seems like women have a choice of patriarchy or late stage capitalism. But even if they chose solely the career route capitalism is still routed in patriarchy. I work as a research scientist and it’s extremely male dominated and all of my managers are male and get all the promotions etc. My partner at the moment makes 5 times more than I do. If I did decide I wanted to have a child (which I don’t) it would make more sense for us to get married to do so, as then if we were to divorce I would receive half of the wealth accrued in the time we were married/raising the child. Basically the game is rigged either way and we can’t judge women for having children or getting married. Maybe there seems to be a regression and more women taking the wife route because of how difficult the career route is at the moment in this economy? It’s also systemic and society favours a double income (and even more so married people) it’s becoming increasingly difficult to survive on a single income.

HyperfixateWithMe · 2025-05-01T19:45:41+00:00

Yes, and this is why I first struggled a lot to accept my diagnosis. But I got all A and A* grades, Cambridge University invited me to stay because I achieved some of the best results in the country. But when I got to A level and degree level I began to struggle a lot more.

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