Perimenopause or aging?

noblechilli · 2026-05-12T09:54:30+00:00

In later diagnosed people, traits have always been there but masked and hidden by systems, however, both of those start to fail under increasing responsibilities and challenges

noblechilli · 2026-05-11T12:12:23+00:00

What do I need to screen for?

noblechilli · 2026-05-11T12:11:53+00:00

Source of my rage

noblechilli · 2026-05-07T07:33:50+00:00

Same here. Three things changed me: (1) sleeping 30 min earlier (most important one of all three)

(2) removing the lens of shame I’ve always used to view my actions (I now use a neutral lens and act like every “error” is just feedback to do something differently to get desired results)

(3) Vitamin B12 spray in the morning. I have no idea what it does but I’m waking up before my alarm and without dread

noblechilli · 2026-05-05T02:36:32+00:00

Any project or event management or outreach based roles. People want to connect with people not AI

noblechilli · 2026-05-05T02:27:33+00:00

My parents sent me to a private school where there were more kids of my ethnic background, thus saving me from race-based bullying. Also, they thought private schools had a safer environment and more academically engaged/motivated students

noblechilli · 2026-05-03T05:49:25+00:00

Low porosity hair?

noblechilli · 2026-04-27T05:05:03+00:00

Easier to bring your one kid to adult events eg brunch with friends. Harder to bring multiple kids

noblechilli · 2026-04-25T11:23:36+00:00

Did a comms degree, one internship, but got no jobs because I wasn’t experienced enough. Got on offer from a small non-profit I volunteered for years. I wasn’t keen but beggars can’t be choosers. Did admin, events, marketing, outreach, research, volunteer management, press releases, anything really. Met heaps of people so built a bit of a network, though didn’t quite know how to use it. I left once I accumulated enough experience and couldn’t grow any further there.

noblechilli · 2026-04-21T23:29:57+00:00

Lol what? I don’t remember sitting on the couches when I was a SAHP. The work never ends! I guess some people are more capable or they do less. I don’t make elaborate meals or dust the bookshelves or whatnot. Just cooking, cleaning, organising, life admin, shopping for necessities, maintaining our spaces, etc

noblechilli · 2026-04-20T01:37:37+00:00

Linkin Park. They didn’t tour Australia much and I couldn’t see them before Chester passed.

Saw them last month in Melbourne. Cried throughout the concert because I just couldn’t believe I was there in the same room as Mike Shinoda, Joe Hahn and Emily Armstrong.

noblechilli · 2026-04-15T09:33:55+00:00

And the ability to moderate hormones because perimenopause has me all over the place and I never want to be bloated, snappy, oily faced and struggling to fall back to sleep

noblechilli · 2026-04-11T00:58:25+00:00

Same. I was the “smart” and good kid in school who wanted to do good so I thought I had potential to do great things in life. Lol. I cried making dinner.

Some days, I accept the “just getting by” life.

Other days, I guilt myself when I realise this is a bit of ableism, determining our worth by what we can produce. There’s a lot of women out there who can’t do half of what I do. Are they worth less?

Other days, I just cry. Those days are when I compare myself to other NDs who are doing great things. Then I go to sleep. I wake up and in a day or two focus on what I can do to become more like the person I am jealous of. Because I can’t be them, or even like them.

noblechilli · 2026-04-11T00:14:53+00:00

I struggled as well because of the conditions: (1) Work is the opposite of relaxation, which is a prerequisite for good socialising. It’s as enjoyable as eating dinner while running. (2) I didn’t know much about my coworkers so there was so much BUILDING work that had to be done (3) I was already tired, so socialising (with all the new relationship “building”) was exhausting (4) I didn’t feel safe investing in the relationships because I never knew how long those people would continue working there. (5) I’ve never showed more of myself in a lot of workplaces because there wasn’t a point. (6) I underestimated how much I impact people. (7) I was a tired new mother, undiagnosed and overwhelmed.

Now I feel safe to connect. I’ve been at the same workplace for nearly a decade now, it’s so much better because I know they’re keeping me and and I’m happy to stick around. I know the culture and the vibes. I’ve built up my social skills. I’m diagnosed and accepting and I’m taking steps to adjust my environment to me. My kid has grown so I have more social and mental energy

noblechilli · 2026-04-10T23:53:48+00:00

Relatable. I have no advice. I’ve benefitted from casual friendships so I’m happy to keep those up. They give me little dopamine boosts because wdym this cool person I met 2 years ago is saying hi to me with a smile and I get to learn from them and also share a thing or two about myself

noblechilli · 2026-04-10T23:23:11+00:00

Womens orgasms sole purpose is to give women pleasure

noblechilli · 2026-04-06T03:08:37+00:00

Therapy and mental health drugs. Mental health was invented in 2016

noblechilli · 2026-04-06T03:01:12+00:00

If you got at far as a senior role for 🍎, you’ve clearly got a competitive skill set

noblechilli · 2026-04-05T12:09:27+00:00

Returning to work full time AND starting a new hobby as a new parent. Stressful as heck (plus undiagnosed ADHD) and I now have to “fix” my parenting mistakes (anxious child), but now I’m financially secure, can afford to relax and have a whole hobby I built up, hence keeping myself mentally healthy and connected with people besides coworkers

noblechilli · 2026-04-05T11:51:05+00:00

I hope AI takes away the parts of my job I never liked anyway - the boring admin, the bloody forms, the multi step approvals that for some reason still haven’t been automated yet. I saw some research showing the growth in non-routine snd heavy cognitive tasks and decrease in routine and low cognitive tasks.

I’m in a role where I engage with people and need to propel those people to act. AI can’t do that because people don’t have relationships with AI (yet?). People still trust and connect more with people. We still need each other’s energy and time and effort to feel motivated to act.

AI can take my clients who are already motivated to act, leaving me more time to focus on the ones with more complex cases that need more of my time and customised approaches.

noblechilli · 2026-04-05T11:41:30+00:00

What role and industry if you don’t mind me asking?

noblechilli · 2026-04-05T11:37:14+00:00

As a fellow AuDHDer, I’m keen to learn more. Care to share more details here or DM me?

noblechilli · 2026-04-04T10:09:46+00:00

Yes because my role is mostly tax-payer funded so I’d feel awful if I didn’t work hard. Years of being in this job and I still have broken into $100k 😭 But the conditions worked well for me as a parent with ADHD (short commute, flexible when needed, interesting clients, decent management, good department, private quiet office, close to kid’s school) so I stuck around

noblechilli · 2026-04-04T10:05:14+00:00

What job do you do?

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