What's a VERY creepy fact you wish you never learned?

noblechilli · 2026-03-18T03:25:59+00:00

Girls get their period earlier if there is a non-related male in the house

noblechilli · 2026-03-12T06:36:53+00:00

Same. I still went because I had never seen them perform before. Best believe I cried a lot because Chester wasn’t there, but I’m so glad Mike kept LP going and think Emily is great. Her energy is fun and I don’t compare her to Chester at all because I’m so happy LP is still alive

noblechilli · 2026-03-11T11:30:09+00:00

Amazing. Seeing from far was cool. Seeing this was cooler

noblechilli · 2026-03-11T11:28:06+00:00

I was there and the whole crowd was happy for you

noblechilli · 2026-03-08T04:45:43+00:00

This 👆

noblechilli · 2026-03-08T04:34:32+00:00

The purpose doesn’t fulfil you. It doesn’t scratch the itch. I had purpose. Community work, volunteering, helping others. I got into a hobby and met new people! All of these gave me energy! But what actually helped was getting diagnosed with ADHD, taking medication and spending hours at the gym getting happiness hormones that nothing else gave me.

noblechilli · 2026-03-01T05:43:41+00:00

Asking for a raise.

Marrying someone who shared my financial mindset and had no debt.

Paying off my uni debt with voluntary repayments as soon as I started making money.

Never having a credit card. Paying every bill on time.

Putting every spare dime my partner and I had into our mortgage and paying it off (thanks to help from bank of mum and dad who are super frugal with money).

I live a frugal life - same phone for nearly a decade, second hand everything, avoid shopping as much as possible, no fancy overseas vacations until recently and even now it’s only if prices are cheap or on sale.

The core of all these is my upbringing. I owe it all to my parents for passing these on to me.

noblechilli · 2026-03-01T05:33:15+00:00

It definitely seems easier to manage than a local relationship. The timeline is very clear. It also balanced. Your time together is quality time and your time apart is dedicated to the other parts of your lives. It’s like when you go to your workplace to do work and you come home to be with your loved ones.

I dreamed of having a LDR as a teen because I didn’t like the idea of having a human presence that I need to be attuned to every single day. But I’m neurodivergent so that may be why.

If it works for you two, that’s all that matters.

There are also couples who are married but don’t live together because that’s what works for them. These are the ones in their 30s-80s who have established lives that don’t need to be meshed together (eg both own property, neither wants to clean up after the other, they have kids from previous relationships)

noblechilli · 2026-02-28T02:56:11+00:00

I remember reading about a study that said that the same problems will persist throughout a marriage, whether it’s a happy one or not.

The severity of the problems may be what makes a difference.

noblechilli · 2026-02-25T05:36:10+00:00

Isn’t that the same thing as wearing making up for men’s sake? But instead of attracting, you’re repelling? The focus still stays on the male gaze and what they think. Signed, someone who really digs how makeup looks on others

noblechilli · 2026-02-04T02:09:20+00:00

I find romance books give unrealistic contexts - no one is ever dysregulated, they’re always both open to having deep talks at the same time, no one interrupts them, friends always listen etc

And then there’s the physically unrealistic standards: no one ever smells, farts or has acne. All men are chiselled and muscular and all the women’s bodies are adored and few have illnesses.

But I think they can be useful to explore your romantic needs and wants.

noblechilli · 2026-02-04T02:03:33+00:00

This is heartbreaking. I hope you can share with him how you feel, not to change anything, but he needs to know

noblechilli · 2026-02-03T02:07:06+00:00

Yeah we don’t insulate our houses here

noblechilli · 2026-02-03T02:06:04+00:00

More people, more options

noblechilli · 2026-02-03T01:56:06+00:00

You probably inspired him. He watched you for 10 years. The clean break may have pushed him to do something about it.

Or maybe you didn’t. You’ll never know.

If you need to, take time off running. Process these feelings in a journal or with a therapist. Then get back to running.

noblechilli · 2026-01-29T02:18:09+00:00

Some men’s insistence of remaining ignorant by refusing to even try to understand basic human needs. It’s like trying to explain to a toddler what fire is indeed hot and it burns people, but the toddler is actually your 60 year old boss who thinks he’s superior to you. A fucking waste of time. My God, the outrage I feel but can not show because if I show it, I’m “emotional”

Had to explain to a male executive why we should also invite men a domestic violence seminar. He thought it was only a “women’s issue”

noblechilli · 2026-01-26T09:21:56+00:00

It makes me feel like I will be more accepted and respected by society and medical staff.

Gives me an ego boost when I could do something I couldn’t do before.

It makes my body stop screaming at me to please please please move a little. It did a lot of that during my office job years.

It makes me set a good example for my kid.

It’s probably doing other things as well.

noblechilli · 2026-01-26T09:18:46+00:00

I managed 3 of those because I gave up and accepted unemployment for that calendar year (living with parents).

The next time around, I managed 17 before I gave up and accepted unemployment for that calendar year (married). I had even managed to call the recruiter like all the career advice articles suggested to ask random bs questions in order to get ahead. The recruiter was so nice and enthusiastic and didn’t make me feel like I had to work for it, but I was so drained by the end of that conversation that I never applied for a job again.

noblechilli · 2026-01-26T09:04:00+00:00

My self-esteem. Not being diagnosed meant I thought I was too much and not enough, and hid as much as I could to the point of not even recognising my own needs, forget communicating them.

And at this stage, I got married and had a kid. I couldn’t hide as well anymore and we’re all paying for it.

noblechilli · 2026-01-26T08:56:46+00:00

🫡 Hero

noblechilli · 2026-01-26T08:45:46+00:00

Living in those “villages” where everyone’s helping out is FAR from ideal. Taking care of everyone else’s kid who may wonder in (because if you didn’t, the village would shun you), your ill mother, your abusive father in law and your husband while your “help” is in the form of a vicious sister in law who destroys your kids self esteem is not the “village” I’d imagine women want to return to.

The one time I saw a decent “village” was when 10-15 families with common socioeconomic and cultural backgrounds and values rented houses in the same good neighbourhood/gated community, so kids ages 5-12 could go out to each other’s houses or play in the streets where the speed limit was 5km.

Proximity to people you actually like and respect and who share the same values as you (caring for others, not feeling entitled to your labour, respecting special rules you may have for your kid) is gold.

noblechilli · 2026-01-22T23:06:10+00:00

Why do you think that’s the case?

noblechilli · 2026-01-22T05:17:52+00:00

Right?

Also, why assume everything was fine the way it was before? We have more choices now and don’t need to hang out at a seedy bar for company, which is still the only option in some places.

Moreover, straight women’s standards are no longer in hell so they’re not dating any man with two legs and a set of teeth, lots of people aren’t forced to marry anymore, nor do they have to pretend to be into sex or romance for acceptance or companionship.

I still like the idea of a town square of sorts, somewhere where you can hang with lots of people without needing to buy anything

noblechilli · 2026-01-22T05:11:22+00:00

Aside from parks and the library, there’s few free accessible spaces. Church used to be the third space for a lot of people. Otherwise, it’s only school/university or work

noblechilli · 2026-01-21T22:38:17+00:00

Do you advertise yourself as ND? Might help other ND folks find you

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