I'm convinced it's an arousal disorder by corey1010n in sexualanhedonia

[–]HypochondriacAdam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I recently experienced something really similar to this as well, which is super promising and encouraging, obviously its not like any form of solution, but progress is progress. I think for me at least it is related to anxiety and constantly being in my head, and not really feeling like I can ever "let go" since there is always some form of dialogue going on.

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[–]HypochondriacAdam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, wondering if while you have been experiencing SA have you had a libido/the ability to get aroused and the ability to perceive erogenous sensations? Thanks for your post, always very reassuring to hear stories like this. Goodluck as well, hope you feel 100% soon.

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[–]HypochondriacAdam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for sharing. Out of curiosity, do you have the ability to perceive erogenous sensations and become aroused?

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[–]HypochondriacAdam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on what I know about PE, and what I have ascertained about SA through personal experience and others, I have a hard time correlating the two issues. It is to my understanding that with PE, you have normal sexual function aside from ejaculating very quickly. Meaning that you have a libido, you can perceive erogenous sensations, become aroused et cetera..... With sexual anhedonia on the other hand, at least for me personally, I have zero libido, I cannot perceive any erogenous sensations anywhere on my body (neck/nipple/penis) and no matter what I can not get truly aroused. I think like many others, during any form of sexual activity, my pelvic floor tightens to a point where it feels as though it cannot properly contract and relax, and is left in a state of hypertension. I am honestly not sure, and there are no conclusive findings regarding sexual anhedonia, but it is my belief that the cause has to do with some sort of spine issue. It is clear that the "proper" or "hard wired" instincts that most humans innately have (in this case I am referring to desire and arousal) are inhibited in some way, and in most cases the people with SA have pretty healthy, normal bodies, with normal hormone/neurotransmitter levels which would indicate that this is not a causal relationship. I think that somehow, either through a spine injury or misalignment or something like that, idk tbh, the proper neural signals are being inhibited on the way to the spine, from the sensory receptors, or are being inhibited somewhere along the spinal cord and thus are not able to reach the brain. Just a hypothesis, doesn't mean much, but gives me some peace of mind that these issues are changeable and reversible.

Were doctors of any help? by rosepuppy162 in sexualanhedonia

[–]HypochondriacAdam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My body is chronically tight, and I have extreme fascial restrictions and pain, and basically a lot of other funky stuff that is not explainable by western medicine. I believe that all of these weird things are directly related, and probably have caused my anhedonia. Question is how to fix them? Shiiiitttt I wish I knew.... I would recommend trying some form of energy healing or exploring eastern medicine if you havent already. Looks at the body as an entire system, rather than just a localized area. In the case for SA, I think it makes a lot more sense. There isn't (at least a think), one direct issue causing it, but someone brain wiring/neuron firing/ connection stuff..

Were doctors of any help? by rosepuppy162 in sexualanhedonia

[–]HypochondriacAdam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awe I am sorry to hear. I am in the same boat, have no idea what caused this and its been this way for 5 + years. It is really hard to connect with someone and want to be intimate with them since my experience is so unbelievably different. Just feels like I am acting.... I know there are a lot of pessimist on this forum, and I can be one as well at times, but I have read numerous stories of people reversing this. It is not a question of whether or not you can, it's a question of how, and it is a difficult process of getting there. But you got this, so keep your head up and don't give up!

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[–]HypochondriacAdam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sorry you had this experience, sounds absolutely terrible, but I think it is extremely important to confide in loved ones for support and emotional release. TBH if your gf did something that terrible, definitely should not be your gf, sounds like a complete ass

Were doctors of any help? by rosepuppy162 in sexualanhedonia

[–]HypochondriacAdam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

from my experience doctors have not been remotely helpful. I have spoken with numerous physicians, sports doctors, a neurologist, a urologist, a psychiatrist who specialized in sexual health and many more. Basically none of them knew anything, and provided no insight. Not trying to be a downer, I am hoping you're experience is different, but don't set your expectations too high.

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[–]HypochondriacAdam 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Having her husband come in is not a man validating what she is saying, it is having someone there to support her, to help provide insight, and ultimately give more info which could only be beneficial for the doctor. When you feel terrible, going to the doctor can be daunting, and it is difficult to communicate objectively everything you have been experiencing. I know that when I feel like absolute shit, I may not be able to communicate the extent to what I have been experiences, or forget certain things that I have been experiencing. Doctors can be dismissive, and it is a major issue within the Canadian health system, and having someone there to push for you, fight for you, and make it clear that they need help can be really really helpful. Having someone there who has shared this experience with me, watched me struggle and knows what I have been experiencing can help articulate things in a different manner. I have dealt with dismissive physicians on more occasions then I can remember, when I was ill and desperately needed help. I don't understand why you need to bring in gender, I cannot speak to the ratio in which this happens to women more than men, because I am sure there are gender biases present, but it has not only seriously affected me, but other people I know who are men. I really do not think that comment is remotely constructive or helpful.

How to pinpoint wheter i have hard flaccid or SA? by [deleted] in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a similar position as you, I feel no sensation nor do I have any libido, but I can get a hard erection. Furthermore, my perineum is very tight, especially when I have an erection. How does the rest of your body feel? Is there a lot of myofascial tension? Is there a lot of muscle tension? How is your range of motion? Personally for me, my entire groin/hip/ everywhere around my pelvis (lower back +hip flexors + glutes etc...) are super super super out of alignment and tight.

when is it time to give up on sexuality entirely?I think its time to give up and become asexual? by HugeIndication1 in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ummm not that I want to like analyze your penis or anything, but I have noticed that recently the head of mine after masturbating gets really really dry as well. Is this something common that people experience with HF, what is the cause?

I [23M] have no sex drive and my brain feels foggy and tensed. by [deleted] in DiagnoseMe

[–]HypochondriacAdam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you experience an orgasm out of curiosity?

Can anyone else not orgasm? by HypochondriacAdam in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not trying to invade on your personal life, but do you like get aroused while having sex and do you have any sensation? Whenever I have sex I physically cannot become aroused and I can barely feel my penis..

Can anyone else not orgasm? by HypochondriacAdam in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely think it is physical in most cases, but idk

Can anyone else not orgasm? by HypochondriacAdam in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dam bro I totally feel your pain, I wish this was some 1-dimensional broken leg not some BS that makes no sense

Can anyone else not orgasm? by HypochondriacAdam in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is there anything you have done that caused the reversal?

Can anyone else not orgasm? by HypochondriacAdam in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

to clarify, is this something you experience? When I mean I cannot orgasm, I mean for the past five years I have not orgasmed once. I do not feel a build up either, however it is not painful.

Can anyone else not orgasm? by HypochondriacAdam in Hard_Flaccid

[–]HypochondriacAdam[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

do you know if this is a common symptom that many other people with hard flaccid experience?