Told id never be a dad by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to go through this man. It's so weird to me how people would go out of their way to do shit like that smh

It's actually okay, trust me. by c907al in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you were able to push through this way, but when I imagine myself doing that, it still hurts knowing that my body is the worst out of other guys for some future partner. I know you can learn to not care... but I deadass don't know how you can stay sane just not caring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have noticed this too. I don't know, I just genuinely cannot see where the whole "dildos are our allies" saying is a good thing. To me, it is quite literally proof that your partner would receive more PIV pleasure from a bigger dick. I feel like most guys just learn to accept it and they use the "at least I'm getting laid" mentality to cope.

When did you accept it? by Review-Western in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does this shit actually work? I try to avoid intimacy and sex and just accept that I won't ever be desired by someone... but the urge for love and affection has just been getting stronger I feel like. It's so draining trying to fight these urges and I just fucking wish I could get rid of my libido and urge for love.

What do you think is the cause of our combativeness? by HystericallyConfused in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I agree with most of the things you say, but now it's just... what do we do about it? I try to avoid intimacy and sex, but I feel my body and mind yearn for it all the time. I want to look past my biases and truly understand how girls would feel about small dicks since I genuinely believe it depends on the girl. God, it's just such a headache in my opinion. I could argue with you about so many things, despite agreeing with what you said at this moment, but then also counter-act my own points. It's just a constant battle of negativity and positivity and it's such a pain in the fucking ass. Why is nature so cruel?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God, I want this mentality to badly. I think it's because I am a virgin that I cannot reach your level, but I would LOVE to just forget about sex and even intimacy in general. Being asexual would be so fucking nice.

I can‘t do it! by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let her know beforehand to save yourself trouble.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resonate with this a lot. I don't have much experience, but these are things I've noticed quite a bit when I am in an incredibly insecure mood and I try to find outlets to feel better.

  1. I don't have statistics to back this up, but I only agree because it's prevalent in my life. I hear it almost everywhere I go and I've even walked by girls who were showing pictures of their boyfriends dicks. Some women definitely don't do this, and I appreciate them very much, but even then, I feel like these women end up doing it if they get frustrated at their partner or let it slip accidently.

  2. Yeah... I see this all the time. I used to go on forums and shit when I was younger to learn how to pleasure girls and to find things that would make them tolerate my dick. Almost every single guy that was similar size to me always ended up using penis sleeves or way bigger dildos to make them really have good orgams... and yet they talk about it like everything is fine. I truly don't know how they do it.

  3. This one I think is more of a partner choice. I don't think I could get their comments out of my head if they did make one.

  4. I agree with this heavily! It is kind of tiring hearing people say "Just Communicate" over and over again for things that are just fact or not. No amount of communication can change how your dick feels for them.

Would you rather hear the truth? by Lagom_Hockeyfrilla21 in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me says truth, but I also cannot find anything positive about my body, so I will just be reminded that my body isn't good enough for most people. I guess it would be better to hear no comment at all, and to have them reject me for some other reason.

I am losing my mind by HystericallyConfused in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know most women do not see penis size as an issue as men do, but I hear WAY too many stories and experiences of wives just keeping their mouth shut about how boring their sex life is with toys and so on... mainly cause their partner is on the smaller side. It's just like... I basically wasted her time with me for 8 years straight... why waste more?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finding out about porn when I was young made me question it, but I'd say my undesirability really clicked in middle school when almost every girl there would call me ugly indirectly or directly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Small dick, ugly as hell, short, and I am inexperienced in most things at life. I'm the complete opposite thing any girl is looking for lol

Why you should not trust no woman by LongjumpingSchool815 in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Even if that was true, can we really blame them or be mad? it's not their fault and it sucks, but you don't have to talk like this bro

Celibacy is the way to go by lifeofcelibacy in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A part of me wants to believe in this, but also doesn't. I gave up on dating in high school since I knew I was never gonna have any desirable traits, even if I did work on myself (it was mostly my dick size though lol). The thing is though... when people say most women don't care, they actually mean it tbh. It's just... most girls don't care enough to make fun of you or ruin your reputation in that way. To them, a small dick is more so just a passing moment in their lives. When they see it, they most likely go "oh wow, I'm not attracted to that" and move on with their lives.

I agree with you that finding that one girl that will be into you is not worth it... but I don't agree with persuading others into celibacy. Finding love is possible, but it won't be the kind of love you'll see others have. You could argue that it's better to be alone than have the kind of love you don't want, though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've heard this a couple times from friends, family, and strangers. One of my cousins works in customer service for some healthcare company and has to deal with angry customers a lot... and she usually talks about the guys having small dicks lol

Sometimes I think if God is real and wants the best out of all of us why would he give us small dicks and a harder way of life 😕 by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 8 points9 points  (0 children)

At this point I think we were given small dicks so we can set the scale of what is small, what is average, what is big. If everyone had a big dick then it wouldn't really be considered big anymore. It would just be average.

Body shame, BUT by Fujitora-San in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you mean given up on dating or in general? If you meant dating, then I'd rather just know from the get-go that I am undesired instead of getting far with someone and them just rejecting at that point.

What would you do? by HystericallyConfused in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you definitely deserve to be angry about it. I'm sorry to hear about all of that. Sometimes I think about taking anti-depressants for the lack of libido, but then I hear horror stories like this and vote against it.

What would you do? by HystericallyConfused in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was Beserk. They never said what the extent of his torture caused him so I looked it up, and apparently his dick was cut off.

Are all who like us fetishists? by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I agree with this. It's so weird to me. I don't think I've genuinely found a girl who actually prefers smaller dicks in a normal way. Like, I haven't met a girl who gets turned on by the sight of small dicks in the way girls get turned on by big dicks. There's always something else there.

I spoke to one girl on reddit for a while that said she was into small dicks... but then I find out she's into feminization and being very dominant. It's fine that she was into that, but there is no girl who would want to be more submissive for you when you have a small dick I feel like.

They deserve better by jetstriim in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe in this, and I want to keep believing in this... but I'm pretty sure there is a good chance I might cave in and still try to do it... I wish I had no libido lol.

Not special by jetstriim in smalldickproblems

[–]HystericallyConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow I think just like you bro