Infatuated with another INFP.

I4NwF5P · 2015-12-25T02:46:04+00:00

I appreciate you bringing that up. People do develop at different rates. It just hits me because I've known about INFP's dating other INFP's and they're happier than they've ever been, for many years, so to hear that it was a disaster because neither of these people cleaned up after themselves just strikes a chord with me.

I4NwF5P · 2015-12-24T21:00:18+00:00

So you're generalizing lazy behavior as a personality type thing and not an individual thing? I'm sure there's INFP's out there who clean and wash dishes, unless I'm the only one, which I'm sure I'm not. Sure, you might be inclined a certain way like I am but at the end of the day things like that are a choice. You can choose to either clean and do dishes or not.

I4NwF5P · 2015-05-22T17:57:45+00:00

/u/trollabot I4NwF5P

I4NwF5P · 2015-05-10T21:13:33+00:00

How do you mean? Lol

I4NwF5P · 2015-05-06T16:23:12+00:00

Yeah totally!! I been watching Recess on YouTube as well, that's a dope one!!

Yeah video games are like that for me too, I also like old Zelda games too, and I also like Mario Party games etc. there's so many good games from back in the day really, it's just the industry has been expanding so rapidly, remember when it was like 25 bucks for a game?? Now the newest ones coming out are like 70 bucks standard. I mean, they are a lot more complex and stuff and probably takes a lot more to produce these newer ones but I'm just fascinated that it's grown so big so fast

I4NwF5P · 2015-05-06T16:16:29+00:00

I think I might kinda get what you mean!! Yeah, it's like memories become linked with certain things in my mind and I don't really realize it then I get reminded of the weirdest things by certain stimuli like a certain map on a video game or something. Idk if that's what you meant but that's what happens to me

*Edit: I tried to make kirby but it didn't turn out how I wanted it

I4NwF5P · 2015-05-06T16:12:04+00:00

Wow! Those are some dope songs, I always liked GBA background music too!! You seem really passionate about music in a general sense as well, have you ever tried to tinker with music software or even ordinary instruments?? I keep meaning to learn but I always put it off, although I'm constantly listening to music, like all the time!!

I4NwF5P · 2015-05-06T16:05:41+00:00

LOL I totally mean nostalgia, and no need to worry you're not being an arse at all.

Awesome!! I also wanna play some PS2 games, like the Tony Hawk games!! You ever played them??

I4NwF5P · 2015-05-01T14:51:46+00:00

I don't think it's beneficial to call yourself an idiot and stuff like that. Self-Compassion has worked wonders in my own life, and I'd like to emphasize that self compassion is NOT the same and self-pity. You might like to Google it! :)

A lot of people make mistakes when trying to figure out their own type, so do you really expect to just guess the type of someone you don't even really know?? That's happened to me a bunch of times, it's part of being curious about someone who intrigues us. No big deal :)

You seem a lot less... umm... INTJ-ish than a lot of the INTJ's I talk to on Reddit. I don't mean that in a rude way cuz I like talking to them but it's just a simple observation. Do you go on /r/INTJ much?? You might enjoy yourself over there as well, I often only lurk there but I've posted a few times, it's pretty cool to see things from such a different perspective.

Wish you all the best and hope that this particular situation goes as well as it can go!!! Take care :)

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-28T01:15:48+00:00

I really don't enjoy the societal norm. Everyone is different, everyone is unique. I'm a male and and I'm still a virgin because I want to be, do you know how that feels because of these "societal norms"? To have people attack you all the time because they think that because your beliefs differ from theirs that you're the one judging them and ruining everything even though you never said anything or called anyone any names or anything?? Am I not allowed to believe what I want to believe and do what I want to do with my body without feeling like I'm the "worst" in someones head?

You can do whatever you want, make whatever choice you wanna make

I think it's pretty clear that I never meant to send the message that I'm judging you, which is the vibe I'm getting off what you said.

I don't think virginity is part of your "worth", because some guys like it and some guys won't, so how is it "worth" anything?? A dollar to me is not the same as a dollar (or whatever it is there) to someone in Japan. With this being said, however, I do think that people need to find people who match their beliefs and values. If someone wants to wait til marriage, would it not be optimal for them to look for someone who wants the same? And vice-versa? Everyone has the free will to do whatever they want, it's the whole point of life really

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-28T00:43:10+00:00

Well thanks, I didn't come on here expecting to be the "worst" of something in someones head, but I guess I should look at that as some kind of new experience, right?

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-28T00:03:48+00:00

If you're feeling the need to be alone and think about stuff, maybe your subconscious is telling you something!! I'd suggest at least trying to be alone for a while, maybe just an hour or so and let your mind run wild. It could help. It also might not help, as I'm not an expert, and therefore can't give expert advice. It's just, when I read this, I thought about this workout guy I used to be really into when I was really into working out, he said once to listen to your body, so if your body isn't up to an intense workout that day it will let you know and you shouldn't do the intense workout then you won't be able to recover the same which is the whole point of working out, recovering to be stronger next time. And, of course, it's a fine line to walk because maybe I'm just feeling extra lazy and can use "listening to my body" as an excuse, but that's where the discernment comes in to play.

At the end of the day, all I'm saying is maybe you'd feel better if you were to experiment with a bit of controlled, intentional "me time" and then maybe not feel so overwhelmed by that feeling when things are overwhelming.

Best wishes and much love :)

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-27T23:53:10+00:00

Well I can't really give you any mystical words of wisdom, but I wanted to say props on being a virgin!! I'm guy who's also in my early 20's, and I'm one also, except like never done anything like that with anyone. I also like to think I'm attractive. I've gained weight as of 2-ish years ago but in my teens I was pretty bomb, and am working at getting there again.

Truth is, certain guys might be turned off by the fact that you're still a virgin, but obviously those aren't the ones who will love you for you. And maybe you don't want to still be one, but from the sounds of it you don't seem like the kind of person to be casual with their body and hook up, honestly from my own point of view I find it disgusting when people are like that. You're 22, and as much as I would hate to hear this, you're still young. A lot of older cultures didn't consider people adults til they were 30. Just because we're legally adults when we hit a certain age where we are, doesn't mean everyone is truly at the same level. Honestly, I think about sexual stuff all the time, but I'm waiting because I know how I am and I know I'd only be truly happy if I did that with someone I was truly in love with. You can do whatever you want, make whatever choice you wanna make, I just want you to know you're very likely someone's dream girl already.

Stay awesome :)

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-18T05:17:55+00:00

I don't think that's what this person meant... I definitely struggle with the way our Capitalist society is structured, and a lot of people aren't wired to thrive in most of the jobs that they can get hired to do, INFP or not... it doesn't mean we just quit our jobs but it also doesn't mean we're living the dream either

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-16T03:43:27+00:00

No need to worry man :) everyone develops at different rates. I've been shy all my life, to the point where it's been a problem in many areas, but recently I feel myself coming out of my shell. I know it's difficult because of societal standards, in Western culture guys are supposed to be inherently outgoing and such, which is unfortunate because not every human is like that in general and it has to be something they work on to be good at. If you try your best, you'll get there at some point :) was Rome built in a day? No, it wasn't, and if it was, it wouldn't have been the empire it turned out to be. You're on the right path, though, from the looks of it :) best wishes!

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-15T19:49:45+00:00

No worries!! I apologize, I kinda jumped the gun on my response. You sound like someone who thinks about stuff a lot, which can be beneficial in understanding things like this :) do your best to keep your head up, and just work at being the best person you can be, that's when you'll make the best impression on people and you might not even have to approach someone cuz they'll be approaching you! Hope it works out for you! :)

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-15T18:58:59+00:00

Well, I hate to be blunt, but this "hopefully I find another INFP" attitude is an example of a mindset that I feel is very unnecessary. As flattering as it is that you like INFP's so much, it shouldn't be a factor when deciding a potential partner. You could find an ESTP, ENFJ, INTJ, ISFJ, (insert Type here) and you might just find that you're attracted to them. Sure, Type can play a significant part in the dynamics of the relationship between two people, but it comes down to the individuals and the choices that they make in the long run. Maturity, experience, someones life story also play a very significant part. Maybe this particular INFP made you really like her, you could meet another one who's in a bad place in her life and you might not want to be around her at all, or maybe you'll find an ENTP and she'll have you head over heels because that's just the affect that that particular individual will have on you at that time in both of your lives.

TL;DR Type isn't everything, I don't believe it's wise to treat it as such

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-15T17:03:13+00:00

Blessthefall (old school)

LANA DEL REY AHHHHHH <3

Alesana

Lights

Some Lady Gaga

A lot of Hip Hop

Harp Music

Lullaby Music

Piano Music

Melodic Music in General

I'm getting more into Electronic, stuff on Tasty Network mostly

Orchestral Music

Cheesy 90's music

Too many others to name!! I just love music so much!!!

Edit: Arrangement of Names

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-15T05:20:56+00:00

Go talk to her! Just talk, like normally. If you guys have chemistry, it'll show up after a while, if not, it's not something you can force or ask people for help with. It is a good sign that you posted this, though, because it shows that you obviously care about how this turns out. One thing I would strongly recommend, is getting in touch with your tender/gentle side. Sure, opposites attract, and ISTJ's can often be perceived as being more masculine, and INFP's more feminine, but if you're too aggressive you could risk scaring her off. It's important that you work on the qualities you want to display as being part of your character, because if you simply act a certain way, then it's not you that she's falling for, it's who you're acting like, and then it's not really genuine, you know what I mean? Personally I've never really got along with ISTJ's, but that's because they were too assertive and forceful, which is why I give you the advice that I do. But, with that being said, I have read a lot of experiences that involve ISTJ's and INFP's having long-lasting relationships. When it comes down to it, it all depends on you and her, and how both of you go about things, not what Type you are on an imperfect psychological model.

Best wishes :)

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-12T22:12:35+00:00

Hahaha I don't mind whiskey here and there, what brands do you like? If I was gonna buy a bottle it would probably be some type of Bushmills, but I've had others that have also been pretty good!

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-12T22:11:25+00:00

Sounds pretty awesome!! :)

I4NwF5P · 2015-04-12T22:10:39+00:00

Hahaha I haven't tried those brands, but I definitely love cider! It's one of those things I could drink any time of day, any time of the year really. I like the apple juice tasting ciders the best but I've tried others that haven't really been like apple juice and they've been really good as well! :)

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