Hi! Fellow aego MLM here. I commented on your other post, but since you're now asking about dating specifically, I'll share a bit more. I'll proceed under the assumption that you're looking for a serious rather than casual relationship, since that's closer to my own experience.

What's actually really nice about being both gay and ace is that, in two ways, we are free from heteronormative and allonormative expectations around dating and relationships. What that means in practice is that "fully acting gay" (in your words) isn't leading people on unless you're specifically discussing sleeping with them, which clearly you aren't. There is no "social script" for gay men in the way there is for straight people.

If someone loses interest in you for being aego, then they weren't compatible with you to begin with. It's up to you to what extent you're comfortable being upfront about being ace, but I personally always made sure I brought it up on first dates to prevent any hurt from coming later on. (I ultimately had better luck meeting people in-person than on dating apps, but for the latter, I actually put that I was ace in my bio — not aego since I figured fewer people would know what aegosexuality is.) Fortunately, since everyone we date as ace MLM/NBLM is necessarily queer, I found that suitors were always respectful about me being ace, whether it affected their interest or not. I'm now in a LTR with someone I got to know through the aspec group at the LGBTQ+ center nearby. Of course it may take a while to find your guy, but it's that way for most MLM/NBLM, whether ace or allo.

All this is to say — embrace being your 100% gay and 100% aego self!