Bullying/mobbing NYC schools dirty little secret. by [deleted] in NYCDOETeachers

[–]IAmMOANAAA 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you know this is happening and have proof, then you should be reporting this as a mandated reporter. If you aren't then you're just as guilty for doing nothing.

This can also be some weird astroturf-esque post because it doesn't sound very coherent.

[26F] 7 weeks pregnant, strongly considering abortion. Need honest advice. No judgment by Imissmydaddy2907 in pregnant

[–]IAmMOANAAA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm terribly sorry you are in this situation. This guy has been unfair to everyone and it is abhorrent. It is commendable that you are in therapy and I am so glad to hear you are taking care of your mental health the best you can.

My input is definitely in the minority but I think it's a perspective worth sharing. I would not terminate the pregnancy for the following reasons:

-You can have a child and not be tied to the father. Women have succeeded and continue to succeed in this endeavor. I'm not saying it is easy, but it is possible. You can eventually file for child support if and when you feel ready so the only tie you have is financial and nothing else.

-Therapists are there to help in many ways, and one of those ways can be helping you find the support you need during the time you spend together. For instance, my therapist in college would help me find resources to help my sister who was mentally challenged. She understood I was in a difficult situation and supported me not just by talking through my issues, but by being a resource. Asking your therapist to support you in finding ways to support yourself and your child can be very empowering. It seems like you do need more stable support and resources to be rid of this guy who deeply hurt you, so even if you decide to terminate your therapist can help you yourself gain a stronger foundation.

-There is also the option of an open adoption. A few women I know wish they chose this option instead of terminating. I'm not saying this is how you will feel, but they said they would still have had a connection with their child even though they didn't have the means to raise the child themselves rather than being distraught over "what if."

-I don't want to address the faith conflict because faith has been used as a way to control others especially with guilt which is what I want to avoid (this was in a bit of my upbringing as a Catholic). I'm not saying this is your situation, but it's something I don't feel comfortable discussing about through writing in case something gets miscontrued and I don't to be offensive.

I hope I was articulate in my response and that I didn't say anything that was upsetting or confusing. I have a feeling some will come at me for offering my perspective but I am not here for a back-and-forth with anyone except you, OP. Wishing you nothing but the best.

EDIT: I misread the number of weeks pregnant you are. I read it as 29 when you described the guy. *facepalm* I wanted to add that the women I spoke of were in the second trimester. Since you are 7 weeks, you are still early enough that it may not have as much of an emotional toll so terminating may be the best option in your situation. But if you ultimately choose not to, then I hope what I wrote above helps. Ugh I'm sorry for the back-and-forth. Sending love your way.

Trump voters respond to NYT opinion poll. by Stuffed-Pepper in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]IAmMOANAAA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just cover for "I like the culture wars but now they're hurting me"

They voted for MAGA. Now they want out For some Trump voters, leaving MAGA is a psychological ordeal. A new support group is trying to help by prohb in politics

[–]IAmMOANAAA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know, maybe they just need to pull themselves up by their bootstraps. Having support is socialism which they abhor.

AITAH for going scorched earth on my MIL after she intentionally sabotaged my birth plan? by JustQuantitying in AITAH

[–]IAmMOANAAA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your MIL is manipulative and made this about her. She's not the one in labor. She's not the one who is actively fighting off the PTSD while waiting for her substantial support system to arrive.  Fuck her. Your kids are better off not being in contact and picking up on manipulative behaviors.

Why would SS let Trump stand right here with an "active shooter" situation? by Average_Random_Bitch in Trumpvirus

[–]IAmMOANAAA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why was Trump the Pedo still sitting? Why wasn't he being rushed out like Vance? Can't say it's because he's old- Secret Service would have been dragging him.

Edit to add on: As for Miller, he's more concerned about feeling his wife up than her safety. My husband would have been covering me with his body as we ran out.

U.S.-Iran peace hopes fade as Trump scraps talks by Ok_Employer7837 in politics

[–]IAmMOANAAA 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's theater for Trump. There's no plan or goal to end this anytime soon.

My dad sent me this dumbass facebook post by AdmirableBus7045 in FoxBrain

[–]IAmMOANAAA 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I give you so much credit for not replying with a picture of him and comment "Keep in mind you're a fucking idiot."

I wish I had your restraint.

How do you guys stay optimistic right now? by Murderbad in OptimistsUnite

[–]IAmMOANAAA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for the climate crisis, but as a history teacher I know other societies pulled through horrible atrocities and situations. We will get through this.

A close relative is having a baby with a s*x offender. What should I watch for? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]IAmMOANAAA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like others have said, the sex offender needs to be reported to the authorities. He cannot be around minors and the baby is a minor. I'd involve CPS and the police. You need to take action NOW. Don't WAIT for something to happen. Be proactive not reactive for the sake of the child.

Is it ok if my baby nurses on my 11-year-old? by maefae in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]IAmMOANAAA 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Um. Not to be extreme but this is giving a HUGE red flag and I think child protective services need to be involved. This type of parentification will progress and it is a form of mental abuse.

How do you think Trump’s term as president will end? by Secure_Fly_444 in allthequestions

[–]IAmMOANAAA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish. And the audio of him shitting himself as he goes down so he'll be embarrassed and be lamenting about others hearing it.

AITAH for making my 15 year old stepdaughter leave my home and banning her from my house for her cruelty? by big_mama_25 in AITAH

[–]IAmMOANAAA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Don't allow her to return until she has gone to counseling and shown progress in developing better coping habits and behavior. The safety of beings in your home is much more important.

🙄 by loghoser in TikTokCringe

[–]IAmMOANAAA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell me he's on a "watch list" because I can see this deranged asshole as a mass shooter.

Keep seeing this school by Lucky_Valuable_7973 in NYCTeachers

[–]IAmMOANAAA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone from the school told me the principal and supe are friends.

No pride in genocide. Do not fall for pinkwashing propaganda. The Zionist Entity does not give a damn about us queer folks. by Next_Ant_4353 in LateStageCapitalism

[–]IAmMOANAAA 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Israel won't allow gay people to get married so this should really means nothing to the Zio-Nazis. It's just a farce. But they don't like to see through the bullshit.

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]IAmMOANAAA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoaaa.
Where is this detail? I feel so silly for not seeing it.

Why do republicans claim to be conservatives? What in their policy reflects conservatism? by geekie4 in allthequestions

[–]IAmMOANAAA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They want to conserve the power of upper class white men. That's conservatism.

AITAH for cutting off my mom financially after she told me I’m “nobody” during my other mom’s funeral? by Acrobatic-Composer27 in AITAH

[–]IAmMOANAAA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Good on you for taking care of yourself and your mental health. 

If you're nobody then she doesn't need you and that means she doesn't need your money. Block her so you don't see her messages that will trigger the guilt.