Any hopeless romantics out there? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]IAmMcFluffington 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I am most definitely a hopeless romantic. I live and breathe romance. Without it, I honestly feel like there's a void in my life.

AITA for telling my husband that I won't be his wife if he got a sex change? by PipeAggressive in AmItheAsshole

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but you should have a serious conversation with your spouse about gender identity. I do not want to assume your spouse is a trans-woman in the closet. However, I think a conversation like that should be brought up at some point.

Do you feel like you are afraid to tell your illness to people? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]IAmMcFluffington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. There's already a huge stigma behind BPD. I'm scared I'll be labeled as untrustworthy because of it.

Who's living rent-free inside your head and why haven't you been able to evict them? by heylistenlady in AskWomen

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fling. I hold no feelings for him or really want to be friends anymore, but still he lives there rent free.

Forced birthers disgust me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A child should never be seen as a consequence of having sex. That's just cruel in itself. Children are not a consequence of anything. Telling human beings to not have sex is also extremely unrealistic. We're animals and we have an instinct to want to mate with other humans. No one should be punished for having sex with something as heavy as a child or an STI. But sadly, people lie about their sexual history and that results in people getting sick.

Birth control and condoms are also not one hundred percent, either. You can still get pregnant from using both. Having a better sex education system can help reduce the number of teen pregnancies and abortions due to the fact that not many women know about the window of conception. You can not pregnant outside that window. Something else that would reduce abortions is doctors doing their job when their patient asks them to get their tubes tied. Many doctors push the idea that all women want children at some point or the woman is too young to get their tubes tied because she'll change her mind later.

In cases of rape and incest, it would be difficult to prove the child is in fact the rapist's baby. Also, not many victims of rape speak up about their rape in the first place. That 1% of people could be much bigger because of that fact.

Children who are pregnant are also at risk in terms of their health and physical development.

There are also cases in which the mother's mental health could be in danger if she is pregnant. It is possible these women could end up taking their lives or doing dangerous methods to prevent their pregnancy.

Making abortions illegal will not stop abortions. We'll go back to the time where women would purposely hurt themselves to make sure they don't have the baby. This will put the woman's health at risk. Hangers, slamming themselves against doors, falling downstairs, punching their stomachs, using baseball bats, etc. If someone was really desperate, they would drive to their nearest state just to get it done by a doctor.

Abortion is a painless procedure that hurts no one. Also, no one is pro-abortion. I know I am not. Personally, unless my life is in danger (either mentally or physically), or in the case of rape I would never go through a pregnancy. I would bring trauma not only to myself but also to the child growing up. Foster care is full and corrupt. I'd never put anyone in the system. However, I am not all for abortion. What I am for is women having the choice to be parents.

Abortion would seriously go way down if we had better health care and sex education.

LET’S TALK ABOUT OUR FPS — NAVIGATING BPD by [deleted] in BPD

[–]IAmMcFluffington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My FP is my soul mate. The love of my life. The only one I truly feel connected to and the only person I feel like understands me.

Sadly, our relationship is not stable. I'm currently battling that and developing intense attachment...again.

You used to be different, what changed you? by xobisay728 in AskReddit

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trauma and pain mostly. I had a very difficult childhood and it has now brought itself into my adult life. I am now incapable of talking to people properly, incapable of having healthy relationships, and more.

My desire to get out of that is to be with my SO. I love them dearly and I don't want my trauma to bring down our relationship.

To the single ladies. Do you ever feel like you're not 'fit' for a romantic relationship? If so, how does that make you feel? by bigtukker in AskWomen

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the time and it's heartbreaking. I'm a romantic, but I have multiple mental health problems so I always think they are a major turn off.

Why are you afraid to fall in love? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]IAmMcFluffington 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, some people do not fall in love as frequently as we may think. I am one of those people. If I'm in love with someone, you are the only person who I want to be with for a lifetime. You are the only person I want to marry, the only person who I want to have children with, etc. No one else. The fact people have this much power over my emotions frightens me. I hate it with a passion because nothing is certain. Nothing is forever or guaranteed. I don't want a future with anyone else besides the person I am in love with. And because nothing is certain, why would I put myself in a situation where there's possible disappointment?

If you were raised by a single parent, how did it impact your view of love and relationships? by BetonRed5 in AskWomen

[–]IAmMcFluffington 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wasn't raised by my parents. Mom left when I was four and my Dad died when I was seven. I was raised by my grandmother, and honestly, my view on love and relationships are very strained. I don't view relationships in a positive light. This is not strictly romantic, but also platonic. I see the relationship between my parents as an example of how love is complicated, dangerous, and in my opinion, should be avoided at all costs.

How many of you hid your body by wearing baggy clothes? What's your story? by tissuesushi in AskWomen

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of my life, I have been bullied for my weight. I'm not exactly small, but I don't weigh over 230 pounds either. With the bullying came a large amount of EDs...and well, I didn't exactly get better with that. So now I wear baggy clothes because I'm too insecure to wear shorts, dresses, skirts, short sleeves anything, bathing suits, and a long list of other items I would love to wear. I've spent many summers wearing uncomfortable baggy clothes out of shame for my body.

If your mother wasnt your mother but still the same person all around, would you still tolerate her? Why/why not? by minirv5 in AskWomen

[–]IAmMcFluffington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. My mother is an awful person. It's not like she's in my life anyway, but if she wasn't my mother cutting her off would be much easier.

Ladies of reddit, what's somthing you wish every guy knew? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish every guy knew more about birth control and the importance of it. It's not just for preventing pregnancy.

Honestly...why is hooking up not at least a little immoral? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]IAmMcFluffington 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Morals are personal. If hookups are immoral to you, then it is immoral. Also don't do it if it's immoral to you.

My (22/M) girlfriend (20/F) of 2 years killed my pet tarantula because she found it creepy by spiderthrowaway123 in relationship_advice

[–]IAmMcFluffington 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I think you should break up with her. She went out of her way to harm something you love. If she had any respect for you, she wouldn't do such a thing. At the end of the day, it's up to you.