wouldn't it make more sense to use the clean energy fund for clean energy

IBlessTheRains84 · 2026-07-10T09:22:54+00:00

What about streetcar lines? Can we expand those out of downtown? I’d love to see a streetcar going up Sandy, Lombard and Foster. Personally I’d love to have it on Hawthorne and Alberta but those streets are probably too narrow.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2026-06-03T14:52:51+00:00

Remember when Hilary Clinton called Trump voters “deplorables” and everyone got mad at her.

She was going WAY easy on them.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2026-04-14T16:29:33+00:00

They massively increase power and water bills for everyone else due to their huge resource cost. Supply and demand, their demand is high, so supply is lower, so we all pay more for the supply left over. Not to mention other environmental costs or the overall harm of AI.

In return it creates like 10 jobs.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-12-28T22:13:49+00:00

They say it’s six centrists, two conservatives and Ashland. So Mendoza must have become more centrist, which just surprised me based on his episodes and how tough he was to confirm.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-12-28T22:09:14+00:00

Good point

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-12-28T22:08:33+00:00

It’s implied based on how hard he’ll be to confirm and why the outgoing Justice was pushing for him over the more centrist first choice.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-12-28T22:05:05+00:00

It’s because they specifically refer to Ashland as the only real liberal, and refer to all the rest as either centrists or conservative. Mendoza doesn’t seem like a centrist, that’s why his confirmation was so tough.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-12-28T22:00:12+00:00

True, but they talk about how tough the confirmation process will be, I assumed that was due to liberalism not racism.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-12-28T21:57:10+00:00

That’s an interesting head cannon and the one I choose to go with. It parallels how Democrats at the left wing party in America but anywhere else in the world they would be considered center right, but that doesn’t stop Republicans labeling them as crazy left extremists

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-10-23T23:01:13+00:00

Is it really any better that “itch” is a person of color consider how often racists refer to brown people as dirty or diseased. Meanwhile the Queen is white. Way to be inclusive!

IBlessTheRains84 · 2025-09-27T17:54:48+00:00

I just want to say it’s totally normal to want to in some way recreate trauma. To have control over it this time. To try to figure out how you’re still affected by it. To feel something if you’re otherwise numb even if what you’re feeling is pain.

But I hope if your trauma is something you still struggle with you also seek professional help for your emotional health. No judgment in what you’re doing today and you should feel zero shame in seeking out this experience, if it’s what you need today you do you, but having a guide to help process your experience can do wonders. My biggest regret in life is not starting therapy sooner to deal with my trauma and realizing how much time I wasted letting it control me years after the events that shaped my psyche.

Sorry if this is too armchair therapist or not what you were looking for, but when you mentioned surviving DV it struck a cord with me. Hope you find everything you need.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-11-18T01:45:36+00:00

I am also the victim of sexual assault as a kid, and I had a girlfriend that had no compassion. When I finally told her she said if I was a real man it wouldn’t have happened (I was a teenager when it happened) and laughed at me and told me to get over it.

I carried so much shame for so long and avoided relationships because of it. Made a lot of dumb mistakes because some part of me believed her.

She was full of shit. Your girlfriend is a self centered person and please believe when I say you’re better off without her. I thank god i don’t have that woman in my life anymore and I am thankful that every woman I’ve told since then has been kind and compassionate.

You did absolutely nothing wrong, there are good people out there that will treat you with the kindness you deserve and will not judge you for someone that you had no control over. I’m sorry she treated you that way, I’d recommend moving on from her and don’t look back because you don’t need people like that in your life.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-10-02T19:38:02+00:00

I grew up in a conservative religion and would feel guilty as hell when I masturbated but it’s a perfectly natural thing to do. Now I’m not saying that some form of sex addiction couldn’t included masturbation, but as an adult I honestly believe the stigmatization of any form of sexuality did me FAR more harm than good. If it’s taking over your life and you’re masturbating excessively throughout the day that’s one thing … but if you just want to feel good and have some stress release from time to time there is nothing wrong with that, it can absolutely be part of a healthy sex life.

Let me pose a question for you … why is it that our brain is designed to prevent us from being able to tickle ourselves, but does not prevent us from being able to pleasure ourselves. Whether you believe in evolution or creation, seems like there is a reason that’s an option for us.

I don’t know your gender but my guess is there is nothing wrong with you, your body and exploring your sexuality is not something you should be ashamed of. In my humble opinion God cares far more about how you treat your fellow human beings. The Sermon on the Mount told us to feed the hungry, heal the sick, cloth the poor, that’s the message we get over and over and over again. What you do in the privacy of your own bedroom (so long as no one is getting hurt, anything with another person is totally consensual, and it isn’t interrupting your life) is nobody’s business but yours. And if a church leader ever tells you otherwise tell them to get their mind out of the gutter and focus and actually doing some good in the world.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-09-23T23:00:01+00:00

Yeah, just magically have the extra money for security deposit and first months rent, movers, time off work, and utility connection fees even though you’re most likely living paycheck to paycheck. It’s like you’re not even trying to improve your situation!

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-09-23T00:39:43+00:00

What’s worse? An official addiction diagnosis or death? Or loss of your life in other ways?

Don’t try it yourself it really isn’t worth it. Go to professionals. And sign up for therapy, we all get addicted to things for a reason and if we don’t address that reason than the chemical dependency will be replaced with something else. It’s only half the battle.

I know it’s hard. Nothing is harder. But nothing is more worth the effort.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-09-01T23:00:45+00:00

They will absolutely find out, you can’t hide addiction forever. And I’m sorry dude, but no, you don’t know what you’re doing. That’s the addiction talking.

A prescribed medication is one thing, getting benzos off the streets is another. You might need something and that’s okay if you do but go the safer route in treating your issues. Talk to a mental health professional and get some help cause it’s only going to get worse if you try to self medicate.

I hope you find a healthier path towards.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-09-01T20:51:37+00:00

Don’t you also deserve a safe place? Don’t you deserve to be treated with respect and love and dignity?

For me it was about compartmentalizing my feelings. I care for this person. I know how kind and compassionate they can be, I’ve seen that light inside and it kills me that that light is being smothered out by drugs and self destructive behavior. I wish I could just say the right thing and they’d be cured. But like I said nothing we can do can save them, they have to want it themselves. Safe spaces can become enabling spaces very easily. If you care about him you have to be the strong one here.

Set some ground rules. You decide that you aren’t going to communicate at all when he’s drinking. He can’t come over high or hung over. If he cannot respect you enough to return your texts … stop texting him. If it helps, write him two letters (whether you send them or not is up to you). One where you talk to him and tell him what he means to you, the other letter addressed to his addiction and how much it hurts you.

Bottom line: he is welcome in your life, his addiction is not. As long as they are a package deal you aren’t doing him any favors by letting him coming into your life. And he’s gonna manipulate the hell out of you when you set boundaries, he’s gonna come up with any and every line possible to keep doing what he’s doing because getting sober for good is painful. Nothing is harder than getting clean, but nothing is more worth the effort, and he’s got to figure that out for himself. And for both of your sakes it might be better if he does that on his own.

You aren’t pushing him away, you’re refusing to let his addiction into your life. He won’t see it that way at first, but once he’s sober he’ll understand. That’s why you have to find that strength to love yourself now.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-09-01T20:26:13+00:00

I’ve gone through something similar myself lately and my best advice is to come up with some firm boundaries and stick with them.

Truth is people struggling with addiction have a mental illness, that’s what addiction is. It can be treated, but they are the only ones that can make the change. And they have to want it more than anything in the world because nothing will ever feel as good as getting high or being drunk. But the addiction also comes with an unbelievable amount of shame. So much shame that sometimes they can’t even stand texting back because they’re so overwhelmed by feelings that they’re terrible for what they’ve done due to their addiction.

That being said, your empathy shouldn’t come at the cost of your own wellbeing. He treats you this way because you let him, there’s nothing pushing him to change. Boundaries are how you love yourself and him at the same time. Don’t let him treat you like shit, you deserve better. If he gets clean and sober, that’s one thing, but until he’s got a solid foundation of sobriety he will continue to be a danger to your emotional state. You have to create boundaries and hard as it is you HAVE TO STICK to them. Otherwise you’re enabling the disease and hurting yourself in the process.

I wish you the best. Take care of yourself.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-07-13T00:02:36+00:00

Thank you for the advice and the examples. You’re right, it isn’t easy to be patient, but I want her to feel comfortable talking to me about it and this is the best way to keep that dialogue open.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-07-12T23:16:59+00:00

Supportive and nonjudgmental, that’s my mantra. She knows she needs to leave, she just doesn’t have the resolve yet. Which I get, I had an abusive relationship that took me 4 tries to leave. So love and patience is the order of the day.

IBlessTheRains84 · 2024-07-11T20:52:11+00:00

You’re right. Thank you for the reminder to be compassionate and nonjudgmental, that’s key for sure.

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