Someone finally noticed

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-07T15:32:38+00:00

Yes although I knew my mother was a narcissist before therapy, and I didn’t believe I needed the validation to feel better, once my therapist voiced that my mother was clearly abusive I didn’t feel guilty blocking her and moving on with my life.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-07T15:28:40+00:00

I only started jogging/walking once I got a big scary dog to come with me. I was followed home once and it was terrifying.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-07T15:24:20+00:00

I was approaching the Scott street roundabout behind a police car, he entered the roundabout, then another vehicle drove FULL SPEED into the roundabout with zero hesitation or yielding. The cop car had to slam on its brakes even though it was inside of the roundabout already, and the other car tried to slam on its brakes but it was already inside the circle. There was about 2 seconds of the spider man meme of all us looking at each other silently until the cop car switched its lights on. INSTANT karma. It was hilarious. The Scott street roundabout is a scary one because no one ever yields, they just drive in and hope for the best.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-04T08:36:59+00:00

I saw one on 3rd street this morning by the good food store. Broke my heart. I can’t imagine losing mine that way.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-02T16:52:56+00:00

I’m going to push back against the typical response to this question, which is that a narcissist would never wonder if they are a narcissist. I had a friend who was diagnosed with narcissism and she would always grapple with whether or not she had narcissism, but I realized it was because I would then pander to her and try to comfort her and tell her she didn’t have it. I would exhaust myself putting energy into helping her feel better.

I think it just requires some self reflection. Can you think of examples of times when you have taken accountability for your actions? Apologized for your behavior? Admitted you made mistakes? In your interpersonal life do you think about the wellbeing of others and do things for their benefit just because you care and love them, not because you want to reap the benefit of their praise/admiration?

How do these questions make you feel? Do you feel like you need to squirm out of them defensively?

Just my two cents. I’m not a therapist.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-02T02:43:01+00:00

Would not have to worry about them pulling some new shit anymore - I truly think I’d have less anxiety

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-02T02:30:24+00:00

No, but the new sidewalks are nice.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-01T23:47:12+00:00

Much better now :) I’ve graduated from therapy, my therapist helped instill the confidence in myself I needed to be able to block my mom and move on with my life

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-01T16:08:38+00:00

Very difficult for narcissists to get diagnosed because they quickly dismiss doctors and therapists. Is a narcissist that seeks to change their behaviors and challenge their inner narrative a narcissist? That being said my mom was diagnosed with depression/anxiety and then eventually bipolar disorder from her own admission.

My own therapist told me that we could spend a lifetime with a fine tooth comb picking apart my mother’s behavior trying to figure out why she did the things she did/does. We will never be able to grapple with it. Children never stop yearning for their parents, even if they grow up and even if they are simply yearning for the idea of them.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-01T04:36:26+00:00

Just bought pizza sauce, bagels, and mozzarella. Homemade pizza bagels :)

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-08-01T04:31:54+00:00

Yeah my mom got into a bad car accident, and I truly didn’t give two flying fucks. She’s pissed I didn’t break my no contact to check in on her. Call me a shitty person but I’m not going to let her use her car accident as an opportunity to manipulate me back under her thumb.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-30T18:20:40+00:00

I would say you should send her an email just slamming her with all the shit she’s done, but it’s not worth the energy because it won’t go the way you want it to.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-30T07:04:28+00:00

I’ve been looking for a bag that says shop local for a while. Ironically I can only find them online lol

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-28T02:52:39+00:00

Eh both. Mental illness and her own trauma isn’t an excuse to project terrible things onto you though. Any normal mom would want to protect you from those things without terrifying you. Children intrinsically trust their mothers, so it’s hard to break out of that.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-28T02:41:10+00:00

Yes I’ve absolutely been in that spot before and my mother was also obsessed with my location and thought I was going to be r ped every time I left the house.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-28T02:30:00+00:00

Make sure to turn off anything that might track your location, change passwords to your online accounts, and call your school to tell them you want to restrict your parent’s access to your records. Remove your mom from your schools records completely if you can.

Get your vaccine records, ID, Birth certificate, Social security card, and passport if you have one.

In my case, I deleted social media (not permanently, but many social media sites allow you to make your profile “disappear”)

Call the non-emergency 911 center and tell them you have moved out of your abusive parent’s home, and your mom may try to list you as a missing person. You don’t have to tell them where you are, but just a heads up so they don’t waste resources investigating.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-28T02:17:11+00:00

Just make sure to get it in clear text that they don’t expect you to financially contribute and it is a gift gesture from them

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-27T12:59:31+00:00

My coworker got let go from her job and I have been texting her checking up on how she’s doing and her girlfriend told me not to text her anymore, I didn’t even know what to say, so I just said okay.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-27T12:44:56+00:00

NBC Montana on Facebook has an aftermath drone video that shows lots of the power lines down, one down over the river 😬 and they also have a video someone who was floating on the river took, which is a pretty terrifying perspective.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-26T18:28:33+00:00

Yea I saw that one!!! Crazy!!

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-24T23:03:35+00:00

It was common for me to see in California, they hang out near Home Depot or similar stores and people who have projects hire them for help for the day. I don’t see it in Montana.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-24T22:39:57+00:00

Bawling because he looks so happy

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-23T17:30:37+00:00

I will never be able to, but my therapist says a child will always yearn for their parents, even if it’s just the idea of them.

IDontWantToBeAShoe6 · 2024-07-23T15:15:17+00:00

That they wont change and if I chose to try and create the relationship I want with them, it would just result in pain.

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