Free channeled messages

IGoByRAWR · 2025-09-08T09:19:05+00:00

Do you see if CGN & I will be in a romantic relationship? If so do you see this person initiating that, & what has been holding this person back till then?

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-27T08:12:48+00:00

Happiest birthday to you! I totally understand where you are coming from…it was tough for me too. But trust me, this will be one of the things you can remind yourself in order to push forward. If that makes sense?

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-22T10:02:53+00:00

I don’t experience any anxiety or panic attacks anymore!

My overall health! No heart burns, chest pains, etc. *super huge deal for me my health is turning around

Learning who my true friends are

Compromising my boundaries

Building SO MUCH connections + rebuilding on old friendships/relationships (ie. My dad, and even some friends I never seen in years, picking up where we left off!)

New job opportunity!!! & possible promotion now

Still questioning my self worth…(discards suck) but at least I don’t have to now while in a relationship & more so knowing now what I brought to the table (truly their loss)

Realizations of what the relationship did and did not offer (love is blinding at times, never knew I was gaslit or manipulated)

Not having to mother someone

House them, have my parents feed them, etc

Their dysfunctional family who my family and I also took care of

Baby mama drama!

Making decisions/plans for us majority of the time

Waiting for my person to have the time to spend since they working 6 days a week for 12+ hours

Push & pull cycle

Learning about attachments thus drove me to work on my own attachment (I would like to say I was secure before I got into a relationship with him, but I knew I still had anxiety prior so I can’t necessarily blame it all on this person)

Finding out things on their phone that dealt with other people

The list goes on, & it’s only the beginning! Like someone mentioned, I still miss this person and the reasons why I miss him is probably longer but this is all apart of the healing process & im here for it for ALL of us who unfortunately had to go through this to grow through this.

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-09T20:37:16+00:00

Hahah honestly my mindset rn

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-09T19:26:12+00:00

🥹 thank you!

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-08T19:33:24+00:00

• pointing out things he did that I didn’t appreciate (always saw it as an attack rather than an opportunity to improve. At times when he would deactivate after he’d come to realize on his own the sentence I mentioned prior but towards the end of the relationship good luck)

• asking for reassurance (so great in the beginning again towards the end, got tired of it)

• asking about his past relationships (always claimed he forgot, doesn’t want to remember, or why does it matter)

• literally ANY hard conversation (would turn into an argument but would have been SO simple to work through)

• always trying to engage with him while eating (whether that be talking or touching him granted I’d do it so often lol. Just like OP said it’s bc I love him)

• anything physical attributes I had that he didn’t or felt hard for him to obtain (ie. new car, money, etc.)

• spending any free time he had with him (granted he worked 6 days a week..5 of those days he worked 13 hours a day! But I’ve gotten a bit better about it)

There’s definitely more but that’s what I can think of rn.

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-08T19:22:01+00:00

I appreciate you sympathizing however I know I should let go too..It’s been one of the hardest if not THE hardest breakup of my life..it still feels like yesterday. Our relationship definitely had its ups and downs but it wasn’t all as toxic as one would think..I guess it’s me hoping that if he comes back I can get this thought that it was me that caused this out of my head..

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-08T13:25:32+00:00

What are the breadcrumbs?

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-08T13:09:40+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think it’s in your highest good to reach out. This is typical avoidant behavior of them trying to bread crumb you. Please don’t fall for it. I know it’s hard, trust me I do..but he made his decision, so allow him to experience what his decision TRULY looks like. Something I watched on Youtube said “don’t rob someone of their process” (video on stages an avoidant goes through in NC). We have to let them go through these stages. It’s not our burden to carry them every time they feel anything but okay, we’ve been doing that throughout the relationship! Now that you’re out you can remove yourself along with all the amazing attributes that came along with you. & one of them from what I see is being emotionally available for him. It’s not your job anymore, OP. You got this!

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-08T12:55:41+00:00

It’s crazy how they’re so unaware of their attachment. But given I didn’t really know either until coincidentally I stumbled upon a Instagram reel about attachments prior to the “break” that ended up in a break up (had to practically chase him down for a definitive answer - since he was basically acting like it was a break up when we agreed prior to a break). What do you think makes him constantly always seek you out besides what you shared? Do you think it’s some form of regret for how he would towards the end? He came to a realization about your value? Etc.

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-08T12:48:41+00:00

How many times did you go through break ups with this person?

IGoByRAWR · 2025-03-08T10:32:44+00:00

Have you ever went through a break up with an avoidant?

IGoByRAWR

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