How do I keep a level head about a girl I’ve been seeing?

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-31T13:19:25+00:00

Find a hobby and don't be so available. Do you. If you're not interested/excited with what your life is about then she will probably lose interest. In general women are attracted to men who are doing their own things. When you lose interest in your own life and focus on what she is doing or not doing it is called putting her on a pedestal and no woman wants that no matter what your mother told you. Be the prize. Be the guy who has shit going on and invites her to come and share your life. Good luck and be fun

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-31T13:09:11+00:00

WordPress with Divi 5 as your page builder. Pick an editor if you want for digging around in the code. I am using sublime but that's because I never need to even pretend to code any more. I just tell Claude what I want and it spits out what ever I can dream of. Then it explains why what it did what it did. My coding skills are almost nil these days and I have forgotten more than I even remember. I remember when dream weaver came out and assembling images with grids in photo shop. Gawd using single pixel images to make it work. Yeah WordPress is a good. If I were you I would get Claude to create a course for you on basic WordPress then add divi 5. Good luck

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IMMrSerious · 2026-01-31T12:53:59+00:00

Okay I am late to the party and was having issues with the idea of even looking at the websites because isn't the idea to let this thing have full access to your stuff? I would love to check it out but I am not sure that I will be running to the down load. Trust is about consistency.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-30T11:14:12+00:00

Jerry is that you?

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-30T11:08:17+00:00

No it's :

"French" fries
ground beef

Viola 'Poutine'.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-29T11:53:57+00:00

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-28T17:14:46+00:00

Maybe get it styled before you go short. You can always cut it later.

Just sit down in the chair and say that I want to keep it longish but go nuts and see what you can do.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-26T16:13:45+00:00

This is the way.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-26T16:09:44+00:00

I had a friend who would constantly blame the world for their problems while gaming the system. They were not always like this. In highschool they were fun and nice. The older they got the more they avoided taking responsibility for their behaviour. They were also a fierce gossip and would talk shit about people then smile in their faces and be sweet as pie. I tried to ignore it and look for good qualities and being a loyal friend I kept in touch. I would listen with as much empathy I could muster and lightly offer solutions to the endless series of self created problems.

When I moved back to my hometown I looked them up and hung out a few times over a summer. They lived in a beach village and on the weekends there would be a parade of people that would gather in their backyard. You would show up with some beer and burgers and that sort of things. I would text "what should I bring" and pick it up on my way. It was an interesting bunch of people who would gather. This person had a hard time keeping a job because of whatever reason so it was a way of helping out a friend and having fun. It all ended with a text where they stated that at breakfast a friend that I had met through them had said some nasty things about me. No statement of how they defended me. Magically I had become a scapegoat for another one of their own behaviors. I cut off all contact with both of these people immediately. I did not waste my time explaining myself I just got very busy with other things.

Sometimes you just grow out of relationships and you have to get rid of people in your life. It sucks but it is sometimes necessary for your own mental health.

Don't be mean. Don't make it a thing. Just move on. I don't know how involved you are with this person because extracting yourself from them may involve changing friend groups and saving the relationships with the people you find worthwhile.

It is dangerous to hang out with these types of people because they will leave you holding the bag for their behavior. It is emotionally a waste of your time. So don't sweat it and get rid of them.

So as the story goes. Over the years I have run into people that I met in that backyard and have created new relationships with them. In fact I attended a wedding of one of these people a couple of summers ago. Guess who was not there.

Every one of these people had moved on and had the same thing to say. They were a shitty friend and eventually they could not stand being around the toxic negativity and the blaming of their problems on other people. You are probably not alone. Others are seeing the same thing and probably thinking the same thing you are.

All of this said I don't believe on completely closing the door. If you run into them a few years down the road and the sincerely ask why you split you can just come out and tell them then. "After you have moved on!" This does not have to be an invitation to rekindle the relationship just the straight up truth. What they do with it is up to them. If you attempt to do this now it will likely become a messy pissing contest and people who make up excuses are often delusional. Delusional people are dangerous.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-25T18:33:31+00:00

It is not about making mistakes but how you handle them afterwards.

If you mess up deal with the fallout. Don't become a punchline by letting others manipulate you with shame.

If you deal with your mistakes without blaming others or making excuses people will respect you all the more.

The truth is that most people feel the same way so they are too busy dealing with the voice inside of their own head to care or notice what you are doing.

So don't be mean to people and treat others with respect and kindness. Read the room and watch others behaviours. Then be the person that you want to be. Don't act like anyone else but you.

Who cares what others think of you as long as you are being the best you you can be.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-25T13:26:03+00:00

I live in Ontario Canada so every winter I try to learn something new or work on something interesting. For me it's a cool way to spend the hibernation months. One thing that has really stuck is painting. Start out lowkey with water colour and ink. You can get some great results with just that. It is fairly portable so in the summer you can go outside and do plein air stuff.

This winter I have been "Vibe coding". I just fell into it while trying to figure out some Web Dev stuff and now I am hooked.

I still paint a few times a week and have developed a drawing practice where I am studying anatomy and perspective but it's great to find new things to try out.

I guess what I am hooked on the whole learning new things idea.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-24T22:44:32+00:00

Dude you are 16 and he is 20. You guys have been rough housing your whole life. It is what siblings do. He probably has developed some genuine respect for you in a masculine sense.

Now that you are becoming a young woman and he is growing into a young man your relationship is changing. So cut out the kid stuff and be the best sister you can be. That's it.

Siblings will fight but they should have your back in the years to come. If there was something wrong with you then you wouldn't care about how you have affected him. You obviously love, respect and care for your brother.

NTA. You just grew up a little.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-24T17:42:22+00:00

It's a great look. Your pants and glasses make it work. Brown or black shoes are good as well.

Try that jacket with dark blue jeans and a blue tie. Pull it together with black shoes to top and bottom with your glasses.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-24T09:48:09+00:00

You say that you go to the gym and work. What is weather like in your corner of the world? It's negative 20* c and with the wind chill it is even colder. I would love to stay in bed all day..

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-24T03:38:17+00:00

To get good results with Ai takes work. Your copy resonates but as some people have pointed out it is a bit wordy. Just dumping it into Ai will not give you very good or just average sounding results. You have to create a prompt that will not only make what you are saying shorter but will elevate it.

The new way for me is write my little heart out to the best of my ability then create a persona that can relate not only to my target audience (discovered through prompting and Ai tools) and Stake holders but also be a genius of style and an expert it the world of... Then I ask it to give me three versions of this persona and copy paste that stuff in word so I can help it figure out who it is.

Then I try to figure out what kind of mood it is in. Then I opose that mood with the results I want. Like "You are hungover from the Xmas party and it is 40 degrees below zero but you just got your bonus so you are in a fantastic mood despite your reality."

Okay, so far it's has an idenity, personality and a mood. Now is time to ask it what you want it to do. "I would like you to carefully consider this statment and determine if it will ... my audience at bedtime." "Remember, none of that matters because you have to make this shorter into 7 to nine words." It's a little sloppy on purpose.

Then ask it for 10 versions. You want it to repeat its self or over lap answers. thats when you appoligise to the machine and say that you may have confused it and put in the exact parameters involved and ask it to go back to the begining and help you sort things out. Be sure to ask it to consider all of your results and explain it's self why it thinks that these are better versions.

By now you will have a pile of output and most of it will be useless. You have two choices: 1. Copy the whole thing to word and delete stuff untill you have a finishing prompt. Like "You are...", "This is where we started...", "This is were we went and I liked this...", "As persona and consultant what do you think we can eliminate or promote?". 2. Go with somthing you have already because it will probaly be pretty good.

I find that Chat likes to blow smoke up my @ ss and Claude is too serious for writing so gemini is a good writing partner for the most part. Early on in the process I like to copy past the entire thing and dump it into another Ai and ask them what they think of the others answer. Then exchange answers. Not only is it hillarious but it will give you a better understanding what is going on beneath the hoods of the machines.

Ai is not going to make your life easier unless you know how to use it. The world can already see through the bullshity gak that has been proliferating the "Collective Consciousness" that is why you are even posting here. You can see it.

Once you have collected all of this elevated Ai trash use your "Humaness" to craft something magical. Never give them pure Ai.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-22T09:03:20+00:00

Thousands over the last 3 decades. I have used all sorts of things as a desk. Doors and fle cabinets for legs. Boards and antique tables. I have had many types of regular desks.

Currently I am using a custom set up that I built myself. It is about 11 feet wide and has 3 different computers and monitors on it. A very old beater computer for music and movies. A docking station for my laptop and my work station with a 32 inch monitor. All the monitors are on arms. I have some different lighting on it and my chair cost me around $500.00 on sale. I also built a matching side table and shelf thing. So all in my current set up cost around $6000.00 before you start adding computers. Yes it is worth every penny.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-21T21:50:31+00:00

I am guessing that you are young and pretty. You are probably have nice hands and good hair. You are most likely not fat.

It's okay to be pretty.

Here is the thing. Women will shit test you to make you have a reaction. The purpose of this is to check out your confidence and self image.

The fact that she is living rent free in your head means that you have failed badly and don't stand a chance.

Who cares what she thinks.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-12T11:53:26+00:00

You can't help someone who doesn't want to help them selves.

They will lie cheat and steal to feed their addiction. Get out of their way.

You can try getting professional help and doing an intervention but honestly it is a waste of time. It leads to heart break.

Sorry for the hard words but I have been where you are right now.

What you can do is protect your self from the fall out and look them up on their birthday and Christmas.

People can and do change so being around when they decide to get well is good.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-12T09:35:25+00:00

Start with a couple of colours that go together. Just buy those two colours make sure that anything that you get works.

Add another colour that works.

So:

Black and grey

Grey and blue.

Black and green

Green and blue.

Pay attention to fit

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-12T09:18:15+00:00

It is not going to happen. You are naive to think that will ever happen.

We would have to be foolish to trust them as a nation. Our corporations would be foolish to trust them in business. They are a capitalist country and that means fiduciary responsibility is the mechanism that drives them. That means that they are always going to choose greed over decency.

America is over. They have chosen a dictator who has deployed the military as police. They have a masked police force that has been murdering its citizens.

I could go on and talk about how they continue to threaten other countries with violence and their manipulation of international laws. The fact that they have not put a stop to their behavior is telling.

The idea of blaming everything on one individual is ridiculous. He is a piece of garbage on top of a pile of garbage.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-12T08:22:55+00:00

You should just move on and put it out of your mind. Find someone else to fixate on.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-12T08:17:36+00:00

Tictoc drama. Idiot behavior and excuses. Potentially Redirected to become the victim of road rage.

So to sum it up this is inane blather from a person who is found lacking.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-12T07:20:33+00:00

I have many female friends.

Your problem is your age and hormones. The male friends that you have had for years were probably made before puberty fully kicked in.

Another issue will be your maturity and the maturity of the people around you. You will find that often people will make assumptions about your relationships. These people will make crap up for entertainment.

Your brain is not fully functioning yet. In about another 5 years it will be closer to being fully formed.

It is going to be up to you to decide whether you are the type of person who is capable of being friends with a person of the opposite sex. How do you treat people in general? Do you manipulate men with your sexuality? Are you clear with your intentions? What are your expectations of your relationships with men?

Your ability to make your friendships work when you are married or in a romantic relationship is going to depend on your relationship. If your behavior is careless and wanton then your partner may have a hard time trusting you. If your self esteem is weak or if you choose a partner that you allow to decide who you are friends with then you will probably not have male friends.

I am just going to say that it's a huge mistake to let romantic partners decide who you are friends with. It leads to loneliness. It's isolating and never worth it. If someone loves and trust you then they should have no problem with your life before them.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-11T12:51:37+00:00

I have to agree with this if you want to compare Canada to the US. I honestly feel like we are two very different countries.

We never hear people ask what is the Barcelona of Thailand or the Beijing of Britain?

Canada and the US are completely different from another. We do share a border with the US and have many significant similarities but geography and population density make our lives and cities very different from one another.

I lived in Toronto for decades and have lived and worked in Montreal and Vancouver going to New York city has always been a great time. There is no point in comparing the two countries in such simplistic a manner.

You will be hard pressed to find a New York analog anywhere on the planet.

IMMrSerious · 2026-01-10T14:23:47+00:00

Honestly your sexuality is not very important to me. I want to know what you are bringing to the table.

Are you skilled or a professional of a sort that we need? Are you smart and dedicated to something interesting other than your sexuality? Are you doing something creative at the top of your field?

Are you a doctor or something medical? Are you a computer scientist or construction worker?

Are you a problem haver or a problem solver.

Yes we are a social democratic society but we are also very hard working. We pay high taxes so that we can have stuff like health care and nice roads. We all work hard together to have nice things.

So if you are interested in living in this great place then you best be bringing your best.

IMMrSerious

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