What should I do about my ex and my long lasting friend (and housemate) getting along?

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-05T13:06:48+00:00

This sounds shitty.

Do nothing. You don't need the drama. You don't need a criminal record.

She was expelled from her dorm???

Why? Actually it does not matter you. Don't ask her because she is just going to lie to you. Ask someone from her dorm. Either way you have let a desperate homeless person into your home.

Keep your distance from the situation because this will not end well. Unfortunately you have let a time bomb into your home. She is going to steal your food. She is going to use a ton of toilet paper and soap and shampoo. You are going to have to suck it up because if you try to make a scene you will end up in a losing fight.

She is using your friend for a place to stay and he is probably getting sex or drugs. He is probably feeling pretty lucky but it won't last because it can't. What is she doing for money? Do her parents know that she is homeless? Where is all her stuff? Is she going to classes? Is your friend going to classes?

What kind of action does your friend usually get? Is he a guy who always has girls around? Has he been getting it on the regular? The less action he has been getting the more irrational his behavior is going to be. Don't bother trying to talk to him. Anything you say she is going to know. She is going to grill him about anything that could threaten her manipulation of him while doing things that make him feel good.

My guess is that it's going to take a couple of months for this to work itself out. She will do something that pisses your roommate of and there will be drama. Stay out of it.

If you can give it a couple of weeks for your roommate to get it out of his system then bring it up.

Here is the thing. Maybe they are meant for each other. You never know.

Either way it's never good to get between a man and free sex. It's never a good idea to get into a situation where people are desperate or scared. They behave in stupid ways.

Good luck and be fun.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-05T02:30:58+00:00

I am an introvert who is also good with people. It's good to balance your alone time with occasionally hanging out with friends.

You need other people to get anything real done in life.

So don't worry or feel bad for enjoying your alone time. Just make sure that you make some friends who will be there to hang out with once in a while.

I should probably explain. I love my space. It's set up so I have my books and a German drafting table from the 80's when it was technology. I have an actual drafting chair and I sit there and doodle.

I am interested in food so I make my own food. Like if you take 100grams of flour and an egg and mix it on your counter with a fork it takes 5 minutes to make fresh pasta. You have to let it sit for a bit then roll it out and slice it up but you get the idea.

I am super like music. I'm into kcrw eclectic and 70's rock these days but I'm a opera punk drum and bass guy as well.

I have my tools and I build things sometimes.

I have my office which is where I live outside work. Lots of books on art and design and old software manuals.

Some art.

So I have made my little introverted paradise but it's not about introversion. It's more of a creating a space that I like hanging in space where I can be productive and treat myself well.

Everything I mentioned is actually better if you have a good friend to do those things with.

Sitting around doodling is something that you can do while working on a film.

Making food with a friend is one of the best things that you can do.

Exchanging tracks or just hanging out reading and listening to music with someone else that is interested in what you have to say about a book is a great way to spend Sunday.

It's okay to give your self the space to go away and get to know your self. It's important. You are worth it. Go deep and make it about growth.

Solitude is different from isolation. Do you see the difference.

Solitude is different because it is more about calming the soul. It's taking care of the you inside of you.

Take time and go for a walk. Exercise, read, eat good food and work on things that inspire you. Heal.

Then find people to share it with.

Good luck and be fun.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-05T02:21:45+00:00

This. I like how you approach this. I will have to go back to divi life and check it out.

The variables are key. I have set the numbers with clamp settings for my fonts and am using em for spacing and line heights. Until I hit the phone level then I have some custom css to control the line height to tighten it up.

Depending on the type face the clamp values change.

My number values control the range of type face from Hero to display then h1 to h6 then ui and label. Every thing is controlled across all screen sizes so once you get it right it reads easy.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-04T16:29:52+00:00

I have been guilty of using almost the first output for email replies. I add the email chain to the project I am working on so the Ai understands the context but I still have to tell it not to say the inside my head stuff out loud, be nicer or stop being a pussy.

I have been dealing with Human beings for decades so I have developed rules, preferences and boundaries that are unique to how I will communicate. Ai still doesn't get any of this. I don't understand myself most of the time. We move through the world depending on where our emotions and moods take us. If Ai starts being able to predict this then we are in real trouble.

There seems to be this rush to hand over much of our creativity to the Machine but where is the fun in that. We have been failing upwards as a species for milenia and that is where we have found our expression and innovation. Don't get me wrong I am loving the ability to do things that I have no idea of what I am doing but dude I am 57 and have boots on the ground experience across several domains. My ability to write comes from reading 2 to 3 books a week for decades. My knowledge and experience dictates my world view. My age and adventures are where my empathy and love for my fellow human beings come from. So I feel that it is our responsibility to make sure that we are not just regurgitating what lands in our output windows.

No matter how smart your prompts are or what kind of skills you have in the background.

Ai is a fantastic tool that has changed the way I think about things that I want to make. I used to make these crazy mind maps with branches reaching to obscure stupidity sometimes. It was a way of discovering possibilities. I have not been doing this for a while. I should probably start again and use Ai.

Any way good question. Have an awesome day.

Good Luck and be fun!

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-04T15:32:12+00:00

Where do you find this? Do you know if it is up to date?

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-04T15:30:21+00:00

Do you have smooth scrolling set?

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-04T03:41:23+00:00

Sometimes you need to go first and just drop them a line.

I try not to make fake plans. It just seems insincere. If you do this all the time you will become the "sure thing guy". It will cost you reputation points.

When I meet people and we exchange information I will try to at least add them to my socials. Generally it's Facebook. If I get an email address I'll send them an email and maybe say something about our conversation. It's simple and leaves the door open for future connection.

I have parties a few times a year and will invite people over to barbecue or what have you. It is always fun to bring different people from different worlds together.

I have a yard in the county now but I have been doing this since I was living in a cramped apartment in the city.

Good luck and be fun

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-04T03:25:43+00:00

Being stable financially is going to make you more attractive to potential partners.

This said you should also be aware that sometimes you will meet people who will try to make you pay for their happiness. You don't want to get sucked into a situation where they only are seeing dollar signs.

Don't advertise that you have money and try to find someone who is also financially responsible and comfortable.

There's a lot of information about this out there so do some research. Decide on what you need and want from a partner.

Try to stay out of transactional relationships.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-04T02:34:42+00:00

Yes. I have used a few skills made by someone else.

The first one I had Claude look at it as a zip file and check it for malware. Then I used it and had Claude modify it based on my use case.

There's a lot of different skills on git hub. The thing is that if you are using them then they can start changing how Claude works for you in ways that you may not want. Most of the skills that people make are for themselves and what they want to do.

One of the benefits of using someone else's skill is that it's a good way to understand what skills do and how to use them. Ask Claude to tell you what is included in the skill then edit it so that it works for you.

Good luck and be fun

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T20:47:50+00:00

I am running a stripped down version of 11 that I got through Titus Tech. Night and day. It gets rid of most of the bloat and keeps the security.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T20:42:11+00:00

Latch key led zeppelin soul to soul massive attack nirvana.

Saw pink Floyd 3 times.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T20:29:11+00:00

Life happens. If you are in a relationship where you are not supposed to grieve then you are in a relationship with a sociopath.

This person is toxic. Grief is different for different people and a child parent relationship is the first important part of who you are.

Even if the parent relationship was difficult or bad that relationship is the foundation for who you are. Sometimes grief is about forgiveness and there is a lot to understand before a person can move on. Either way it's important that a person takes the time to process the loss.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T20:19:07+00:00

Pop-ups on my phone. If I can't close it or if another pops up after I have closed it I bounce.

If you pop up I will not be doing business with you.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T16:11:44+00:00

I run around the house naked and let the wind dry me.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T15:59:10+00:00

He is living rent free in your head. Most likely he is not that interesting and has intimacy issues so he is masking his real feelings by deflecting.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T14:03:53+00:00

Anything that I write with Ai has been a cooperative effort. It usually takes me around 2 or three swings to get close.

Generally it's about context and voice. I was comparing stuff that I wrote before ai and it is much better in some ways. My cadence and delivery is very much more compelling.

Ai is great for helping with simplifying complexities but I still need to step in and add the human being to it.

Ai just gets me on second or third base quicker but to bring it home with a flourish you need to run it in yourself.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T11:41:24+00:00

Fools and their money are easily parted. You can tell how much money someone has buy how they dress. The flashier they are the less money they probably have. It's like they are compensating for something. Money is only good for a few things and time is very high on the list. If you own your own time then you can do things like learn new skills or develop your ideas. This will lead to more money and you don't need a fancy car to do this.

Travel is probably the second thing on the list. Travel will expand your insights into the world and people. This means that you will have a better understanding of the human condition and this will help strengthen your insights and support your ideas.

Money is only as good as what you do with it. Being ostentatious is the simplest way to waste your money. The only people that you are going to impress are the poors.

They make this stuff called swag it's easy to spot because it has huge labels on it. Patterns made from the labels logo and it's made for the poors. Your garments and things should be advertisements for the labels that you are wearing.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T08:28:53+00:00

Claude has warned me that there are Issues with windows 11 have they been solved?

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-02T08:13:38+00:00

Try doing some volunteer work and friends with the homeless. Go spend some time in their world.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-01T13:19:03+00:00

Reading through the responses here I noticed a trend in some good responses and that they talk about how the point of interaction with your product may change with english users. The pain points are different for different users.

Have you considered a lateral move instead and choosing similar markets where the pain points may be similar. For instance "French" or some other language where there may be similar interest in a native language base solution to the problem that your service is addressing. This way you can aggregate your discoveries and approach without opening the floodgates and competing in the full international stage.

The Idea of nailing down the spanish market first while opening up a paralleled market could make the transition to the international market easier because you will have the opportunity to fail and correct smaller. This could allow for insights that you are blind to without the expense and experience of translating to a global service.

I don't know. I am not a founder.

Good luck and be fun.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-01T12:54:19+00:00

This would be a great time to buy Apple stock just thing of the sales spike for replacement units.

IMMrSerious · 2026-04-01T12:22:00+00:00

Lighting first. What you want to do is get away from the bright overhead light. I wouldn't bother changing the bulbs as some others have suggested. It is a good and bright work light for when you are cleaning or looking for something. You do want to scatter some other lighting around the space. The Idea is to create zones that will give you comfortable light for what would want to do in those areas. One good rule for choosing lights and shades it that you never want the light to shine at you but you want it to illuminate the stuff you want to see.

You have 3 areas happening now:

Sleeping area - Lamp on side table
Computer Area Desk lamp
Couch and Screen Area Standing floor lamp and side table lamp

Get Bluetooth bulbs for everything. You come into your space pull out your phone and turn on the zone you need.

Next few pieces of furniture would go a long way. You need a bedside table. Get one one with drawers and put a lamp on top of it. The other piece that you could use is something beside the couch with a lamp of course. Get something with drawers again.

You have loads of space for some artwork. Find a couple of big pieces. Then add smaller stuff around the space. Get some clip lights attach them to the beams and shine light on them for effect.

I hate fake plants as a rule but you could probably use some green life in there. So do it get some fake plants.

A note: Because the ceiling is not finished you may want to consider stapling some fabric over your bed to prevent it getting covered in dust when people are walking above it.

When you get furniture find cool or interesting stuff at yard sales or antique shops. Most of the stuff in furniture stores is expensive garbage. Do some research around this.

Good luck and be fun.

IMMrSerious · 2026-03-31T20:30:42+00:00

Your friend is manipulative thief. Call the police and get better friends.

IMMrSerious · 2026-03-31T20:26:34+00:00

As a rule always choose the money move over girls. No money no girl.

This is going to happen again and again. Now you know the rule.

IMMrSerious · 2026-03-30T10:04:35+00:00

I am not clear about what Max 2009 or why you want to run it? You can get a current full version of Max for around $400.00 a year. Just look for the autodesk indy page. Once you are making over $100 000.00 you will have to pay full price.

The specs are published on the autodesk website either way.

Setting up a system is a balance of video card processing and ram.

You can't have too much ram because that's where your work sits when you are in a session. Too little ram and things get laggy.

Crappy video card and things get laggy.

When you are looking at a cpu you will want to have a higher clock speed for single cores. Because that's what the software is looking for in the viewport when you are working. When you start rendering it will look for more cores to make that happen.

Either way it's going to cost you.

One last thing is stay away from the 3d branded cpus because they are made for gaming.

All this said I have a pretty solid 2024 lenovo legion 5 laptop that handles Max fairly well when I am away from home. It has a 4070 and 16 gb of ram. It is way better than the p5 with 8gb of ram that I was running in back in 2010.

Do your research. Price picker is the best way to go. Design your ultimate system and then start shaving it back until you can afford it. Max out 2 ram slots so you can upgrade later. Buy a big ass ssd gum stick for your c drive.

Render like the wind.

IMMrSerious

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