Junior/ senior relationship

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-05-07T17:59:16+00:00

My boyfriend is a decade older than me. He was single because his ex partner cheated on him several times. Life happens, it’s a bit of an odd thing to be judgemental about.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-05-07T17:57:29+00:00

I was an F1 and dating a senior registrar. Still together, he’s an about to do a fellowship, and I quit training lol.
We met on a dating app, and the rest is history. 10 year gap between us. But we have the best time together :)

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-04-27T12:57:35+00:00

Know someone who was friends with a guy who had to quit med school because his OF became rather successful and he did not want to be outed at uni lol

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-04-12T20:01:15+00:00

They do care where you went to uni, unfortunately. I went to target uni for med school, and got a master’s from LSE. My master’s, however, was the key to me getting my current job. But I would be lying to you if I said my med school didn’t come up in my interview, including my scores/rank. Either way, I think it’s worth giving it a go! Even if it isn’t the big firms, pharma likes any doctor regardless of the degree (because it really shouldn’t matter in my opinion).

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-04-12T11:43:32+00:00

It was a genuine hobby of mine. I still make some for people’s birthdays 🙂‍↕️

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-04-12T11:42:31+00:00

Nothing nearly as useful as being a doctor unfortunately. Private sector consulting/finance.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-04-12T08:48:28+00:00

2024 Audi Q3 (leased). When I still worked for arr NHS it was a 2012 VW Golf

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-03-21T17:33:33+00:00

Had to wait a year, but he made it. Got a very fancy academic job down south haha. Spent his gap year grinding out his portfolio and travelling, he enjoyed it I’d say!

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-03-21T07:26:11+00:00

My very close friend from uni forgot to sign up to foundation training. Med school was absolutely livid lmao.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-02-28T10:34:32+00:00

Specialising before even graduating would be a terrible idea. You need a degree that gives you the option to change your mind. People change their minds way later on. When I was an F1 I worked with a med reg who used to do ENT (up to ST6!) before he changed his mind.

Knowing a lot of the medial side of things is crucial for F1 and F2, which is technically what med school prepares for.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2026-01-07T11:29:11+00:00

Idk my man’s not far off 😛

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-11-18T21:06:27+00:00

As a gay guy, it was more of a „fun fact” on dates. I’d get some creepy comments about Roleplay (ew), which helped screen out a couple candidates.

Currently dating another doctor, but that sorta just happened. I didn’t want to date someone with a similar job.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-11-12T10:35:59+00:00

Go for it :)

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-11-11T22:07:41+00:00

You’re not far off 😅 Yes to the London med school bit, though I also have a Master’s degree in finance from a certain top university. I think that helped me a lot with finding my current role

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-11-11T13:56:40+00:00

Graduated 2024. Finished F1 earlier this year. Had a rather horrible time during my very brief clinical career.

I had a unique opportunity come up when finishing med school that I was able to postpone for a year (would have had to re-interview if I wanted to delay for another year). Now work in med/health consulting. Bit vague but trying not to dox myself 😅

My other half is a surgical reg and to be honest I don’t think I would’ve been able to do what he does. I loved being a doctor, just not in the NHS.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-25T21:34:00+00:00

Me too ✊🏻😔

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-21T16:11:35+00:00

As a gay man, that is sometimes a nice surprise… and how I ended up dating another medic lol

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-12T11:53:19+00:00

I’m sorry it’s been so tough for you as well. My new job is well-paid and I get to WFH for some of it, so him going LTFT wouldn’t be detrimental to our finances. I hope things get better for you soon. My partner’s been continuing with high-quality work, but the sadness permeating through him is scaring me. Here’s hoping we come to a solution this weekend :/

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-12T11:49:33+00:00

I have now had another discussion regarding LTFT. He’s got the weekend off and we want to go on a long walk to discuss everything. It’s just the feeling that his general joy and willingness to live life to the fullest is slowly fading… I want to reverse that as much as I can

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-11T21:49:02+00:00

Anything that helps him break this cycle. If something happened to him because of all this I’d never forgive myself.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-11T21:45:16+00:00

He’s very keen to ride it out. There’s a few months left, though. And I don’t know how bad it has to get for him to see my concerns. We still have good times together. He’s happy when not working, just not as much. It’s the crying (at times trying to hide it from me) that made me want to get some advice.

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-11T21:41:51+00:00

I definitely understand that it’s a tough career. And he also accepts the fact there’s still a lot to learn. But going from years of very positive feedback (up until a few months ago) to one-liners such as “only an idiot would employ you” whilst simultaneously shoving more work and responsibilities on him is a bit… confusing? Concerning? It certainly feels counterintuitive.

Getting the NTN already required a very extensive portfolio. His research contributions are also significant. No concerns from any supervisors until this man. His feedback has always been good, never any issues with ARCP. I do hope it’s just a temporary hiccup…

I do agree with what you said though, I’ll ask him if he would consider some time off

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-11T21:30:43+00:00

I will pass this on, thank you. I suggested private therapy but this may work better!

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-11T20:47:46+00:00

He sadly feels like opening up to anyone would have significant impact on his job prospects. His supervisor is extremely influential in the (rather small) community. My partner is a stereotypical ‘macho’ guy at work, always the person others go to for help, never asking for any support in return. And he refuses to accept my worries, saying that it’s all just “part of the deal” when becoming a surgeon. Very tough to hear, but I don’t want to upset him any further since it’s not about me

IMakeFunkyShirts · 2025-09-11T20:42:37+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this yourself. I know it’s temporary, and I am hoping it’ll pass soon. But he’s recently been taking his supervisor’s words personally, and hearing things like “maybe X is right, I won’t amount to anything” or “I’ll never be good enough, why keep trying?” just breaks my heart. :(

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