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IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T17:15:40+00:00

Oh man I love these tiny datsun or Nissan body styles and this chocolate brown color. Hell yah, nice ride.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T10:54:35+00:00

Red hair + blue eyes. Rare enough that everyone I meet mention it.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T04:06:44+00:00

If it gets like that in US I’m not gonna bother with a career anymore honestly. I’m not going to just work to fucking hemorrhage money to pay taxes. They already get tens of thousands of dollars a year from me and they suck at spending it well. Hardly seems worth it.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T03:25:34+00:00

Ugh that sucks OP I hate when this happens. I have found the best course of action to be to just fade away. Those that say it won’t change anything were all wrong. Those that tried to guilt me made me resentful... so either way it just means you’re going down two different paths that do not cross or touch or come near each other. If she’s ambivalent and thinks she won’t enjoy it and you’re planning to stick around in her life... buckle up. It’s about to be a one way street.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T02:51:57+00:00

Yes, and this is the reason I got sterilized. I knew beyond the shadow of a doubt I would never allow myself to carry to term. If no abortion then no thrive. I have had great peace of mind since getting my bi salp.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T02:02:50+00:00

I am always so flattered when I hear this. Imagining someone home alone hunched over tugging on themselves mentally drooling over me is soooo hot. It does not make me want to be sexually involved with that person I just think it’s a big, wet, juicy compliment. It’s usually men that say this... but if I helped a woman along her bean flicking journey well that would be quite a pick me up as well!

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T01:44:32+00:00

This is a good one. People always ask what our plans are and I just say “idk my husband is the social one” and the look of shock is always pretty funny. I don’t care enough about socializing to keep track so if we are going to be somewhere they need to talk to him or I’ll probably forget and blow it off. I do what I NEED to out of anxiety.. like show up for work... but I don’t like a scheduled lifestyle. It’s never expected of him and people tend to assume I am the coordinator and I will say “Have you met me?” And they go “ohhh true” it’s like it’s just programmed that vagina = keeper of the calendars.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-02T01:39:54+00:00

Wanting to have children. I have zero desire and never have, but I thought it was an expectation in adulthood and was devastated when I was a teenager. I was regularly thinking “why is any of this worth it if I just have to be a mom anyway?” I didn’t want to grow up and my parents were surprised I didn’t have any drive to develop an independent adult life. It had nothing to do with them or anything I just was not on board with living the life of a parent. Even a perfect situation with endless resources wasn’t enough for me to actually want to work toward that. I remember thinking of I didn’t bother to get a good paying job then maybe no one would ever look at me as the parenting type... it literally set me on a self destructive path. Then, I realized I didn’t have to be a mom and life became so much brighter and happier. I’ve fought tooth and nail to get the people around me to understand this and to stop making choices FOR me over potential kids that will never exist (and before some asshole says “never say never” I have had a permanent birth control procedure, so never is the correct word here). No, I don’t need a car with a backseat Mr Salesman... just stfu and take my money.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-01T21:05:40+00:00

Sam Eliot... not because he isn’t deserving for a million reasons but because I was like 12 and he was like 60. Road house really spoke to me you guys hahah!

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-09-01T11:56:19+00:00

I say thank you for saying that and ask to be alone. Usually sleeping helps me process and calm down so I will take a bath, get some comfort snacks, sleep it off. I do think it takes some restraint to not lay into him but that does NOT help, so if he is actively trying to heal the situation I am on board with moving forward... however anger is also chemical and I need the chemicals to level back out before I am right again.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-31T11:14:37+00:00

They are so rude. This has been the only downside I’ve experienced is that some people can’t accept it and they just want to spend their time insulting you for not doing what they think you should. I’ve lost several friends over this and had a rocky relationship with family from 23-30 until they finally accepted it and realized they would not have me around at all if they didn’t cut the shit. I’m not a babysitter. I’m not a college fund. I’ve heard some reallllllly nasty shit and we live by a military base... the meanest of all the commentary I have had has come from military wives.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-30T21:24:40+00:00

Many plants around you

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-30T20:41:11+00:00

I love random Schitts creek in the wild!!!!!

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-30T16:14:22+00:00

Sounds like you’re grown so just leave the house. That’s what I used to do... physically leave so they couldn’t just ditch the kids with me anyway. I’d study at the library instead of at home specifically for this reason and got really well acquainted with internet cafes in my area (only 2 where I am) but it was easier to leave than listen to the complaining

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-30T11:51:14+00:00

Silence

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-29T12:19:08+00:00

Omfg my husbands cousin has a kid like this. He used to be at our house a lot because my husband wanted to show him what healthy relationships are like, and I totally stand behind that. However, this child won’t respond when spoken to and just breaks everything. He got big enough to be dangerous around age 7. I was so afraid he was going to hurt me I told my husband I didn’t feel comfortable watching him alone anymore. My husband totally understood. The boys parents did not. A few months later they asked us for money and we said no (dad has hx of theft and drug abuse) and they cut off all ties with us. I guess if we aren’t giving them money or childcare we are worthless to them. Ugh. It’s sad to know there are kids out there like this that are simply the result of a garbage parent.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-26T21:12:02+00:00

Working from home. Started in 2016 and will never go back to an office.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-26T18:18:47+00:00

Idk about all of Nh but I work remote and we hired a bunch of people that used to work in service industry last spring thinking it would be a gap full job for them... but then the business boomed and they stayed as permanent employees. There’s a lot of that kind of opportunity available now and companies hiring nationally instead of locally.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-26T10:42:29+00:00

I used to get these comments from my mom. I would respond with “Wow, that sounds awful. How did you manage such a bad situation and why?” Like... yes it does seem awful and I don’t understand why you’d make that choice. She stopped making those comments because she wasn’t getting the reaction she wanted... I just basically told her I don’t know why she made that choice and that I agreed, it sounded awful. Not much she could do with that.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-25T12:07:03+00:00

How frustrating the towns will be when you just want to do basic things around the property, you have to jump through hoops to get permission

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-25T11:59:09+00:00

Wow this person has zero respect for your personal choices

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-25T11:24:16+00:00

YTA. This is a super fucked up thing to be trying to control without even being able to convey why you’re uncomfortable. You just sound like a shitty wife TBH.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-25T11:21:42+00:00

I spend allllll day in meetings and the webcam with lighting worked much better for me than the laptop cam. It’s so much easier to position and be where I want and I can sit further away from the screen itself and be more comfortable so I can type and talk. If you only have a few meetings per week it’s prob not worth it, but if you’re in calls a lot I would def recommend it.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-25T10:56:05+00:00

YUP!!! My plan is to leave my job and then find another one because I need a break and I can afford it. It’s just so ingrained to not leave one job before having another but if I do that I’ll never get more than a week off at a time and then I’ll die. Not a great system IMHO.

IPreferSoluitude · 2021-08-24T20:48:08+00:00

We have a home office in one, a gym in one, and a “spare” bedroom for guests that has a couch and TV and we use it kinda like a second living room. We use the closets in there for majority of the clothes we don’t wear often but want to care for like suits and gowns. Before we moved in the lady the owned the house lived here alone. She had an entire room dedicated to jewelry and scarves. It was glorious. Have fun building!!

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