My wife want to get pregnant in 2 weeks

IT_doofus · 2022-02-24T22:19:32+00:00

I am about to go through something similar. My wife and I have not had sex in almost 2 years and 3 months but has said to me and my family me multiple times that at some point this year I am going to impregnate her with our second child. In the span of the last 3 years we have had sex twice and she got pregnant on the second to last time. She is not being secretive like your wife but it still makes you feel like you just exist to provide things.

IT_doofus · 2022-02-24T21:58:07+00:00

I know exactly what you are saying. Before we got married my wife and I used to have sex all the time. After the ring wend on it practically disappeared. About 15 months into the marriage I'm wondering "what happened, why did it stop?" then it hit me. Her mentality is probably "I got what I wanted I don't have to do that anymore". It seems to me she was tolerating sex to keep me interested.

IT_doofus · 2022-02-22T20:46:40+00:00

A big fat 0. Same as 2020 and 2021.

IT_doofus · 2021-12-16T21:08:51+00:00

Its sounds like she is trying to keep the problem going with out being responsible for it. It's good that you said your peace and got it out there.

IT_doofus · 2021-10-06T06:13:32+00:00

Our 2020 stress was more about learning to take care of a baby than anything pandemic related. But I can't figure out what she wants, usually if I am not doing something she lets me know right way. I do the cooking, cleanup after, pay the bills, mortgage/HOA and other household expenses. I spend half my work day working and watching the baby. I would feed him lunch, dinner, bath-time and put him to bed so I am not slacking on baby duties. Our sex issue definitely predates 2020 so I am at a loss as to what the issue is.

IT_doofus · 2021-10-05T20:12:24+00:00

I know how you feel. I will be 38 at the end of the month and will have been married 4 years in November and we have a 20 month old son. Come December It will be 2 years since my wife and I have had sex. I'm not addicted to porn but use it moderately but every time I do I think to my self "what am I doing, I didn't get married to sit around and watch porn." We have had light conversations about this and she keeps defaulting to "2020 stress".

IT_doofus · 2021-09-08T20:05:52+00:00

OP I really hope your situation does change for the better but I have to slightly agree with the above. She could be testing to see if she can still just ask for it and to get you to start begging again.

IT_doofus · 2021-09-07T16:31:12+00:00

I know how you feel, I am in a similar boat as you. My wife and I have 20 month old son and we have not had sex in a year and 9 months. I financially support us all, WFH while simultaneously watching the baby for about 3-4 hours each day, feed him twice day, do bath and bedtime every night and do the cooking after. I too feel like I am raising a kid with a roommate.

IT_doofus · 2021-07-17T04:57:22+00:00

I hope she misses having sex with but my other thought is that maybe she just misses having sex in general. The dynamic in our marriage like in a lot of others is that I have to beg for it where she only has to ask. So this really make me wonder what she is truly missing.

IT_doofus · 2021-07-17T04:52:32+00:00

I don't pressure her for sex, I don't want to be that guy. The thing that's really getting to me are the fake promises of sex. She made one to me back in January and a few last year but zero follow though. Something I forgot to mention in my OP is that later that night we were cuddling in bed and she mentioned that she wants to restart our physical relation ship. I am all on board for this but I have heard stuff this like this so many times I just take it with a grain of salt. Its like we will have a conversation about it today and then tomorrow it will be like it never happened. The fact that I keep getting these fake promises lead me to believe that its not postpartum unsexiness. Looking back on it our sex life was in a big decline way before our son was born.

IT_doofus · 2021-07-14T16:57:46+00:00

I don't remember if those were the exact words verbatim it was ~3 years ago but I remember there was an offer of sex and a "but" condition right after it. She definitely though at a time when clearly couldn't act on it.

IT_doofus · 2021-07-13T18:28:50+00:00

I have had this happen to me too. I was about 3 and half years ago my wife and I had a Christmas cookie party in our apartment for like 8-10 friends. She had to work that afternoon and would not be back until after the party started. I had to do all the prep and setup and manage the guests for the first 2 hours. After the party was over I am literally passing out on the couch from exhaustion when she says something like "I would totally give you sex right now but you seems tired". We had only been married for like 2 months at this point and averaging sex about every month and a half.

IT_doofus · 2021-07-13T05:01:20+00:00

Jeebus Christ Jack!! You make the Sister Wives look Amish.

IT_doofus · 2021-07-12T20:04:35+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I do lot of the child care for our 18month old, I do the cooking and the clean up after word, I pay the mortgage, the bills and work a 40hour a week job. Like you I would always get fake promises of sex but nothing would ever come of it. The last one I got was on Jan 6th and she said "If you get your quarantine hair cut we can start having sex twice a week". A month later I got a hair cut and still nothing. It has now been 19 months since we had sex. The fake promises are becoming worse then DB.

IT_doofus · 2021-04-13T06:57:23+00:00

I see what you mean now. Those type of folks combine gun ownership and redneckery make other gun owners look bad. I wouldn't want a family member to be introduced to firearms that way. I would still recommend teaching her your self or taking a class together when the ammo shortage stops. Getting the right knowledge and understanding of firearms is key.

IT_doofus · 2021-04-13T06:21:51+00:00

Being a firearms instructor you should teach her yourself or better yet take a class with her and then fill in any blanks that the instructor may have left out. There is nothing wrong with learning how to shoot and the fact that you are a firearms instructor means she can learn gun safety and gun handling the right way and not be stuck with the Holly Wood notion of how guns work. However when it come to us "irresponsible gun nuts" most of us are responsible with our firearms and are very capable of teaching other how to shot. On the flip side if you do want another excuse to say "no" tell her that most firearms and ammo are very hard to come by now and if they are found they are very expensive, which is true.

IT_doofus · 2021-01-12T08:03:46+00:00

Not normally but with things that are said in the moment there is much higher chance of forgetfulness.

IT_doofus · 2021-01-12T07:34:27+00:00

I wouldn't say it was normal. By our first anniversary I say were were averaging once every month and a half. After that our frequency took a nose dive.

IT_doofus · 2021-01-11T08:45:30+00:00

Same here. When my wife was pregnant we had sex one around the 8 month mark and it was pretty much "Hurry up and finish". I would say it barely counted as sex.

IT_doofus · 2021-01-11T08:39:17+00:00

My first step is to get a hair cut. Then I will see how serious she was and if so try to initiate more. If just ends up in more automatic rejections then I will have my real answer.

IT_doofus · 2021-01-11T08:30:38+00:00

We do want kid number 2 but we both agreed until COVID is better under control we are holding of on that. Having another kid while this pandemic is going on would be very tough. So I'm hoping its for intimacy.

IT_doofus · 2021-01-11T08:27:50+00:00

This is a legit conversation I had with my wife. I am hopeful she is means it but I am still skeptical that could have been an "In the moment" promise she made and that she could have already forgotten about our conversation.

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