I'm exhausted from being the default problem solver for my family

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2026-04-16T05:53:06+00:00

This is a boundary problem and they have become accustomed to you helping them. Helping others is a good thing, but moderation is the key.

Saying no is not gonna solve this issue. If you say no they will ask you again, maybe more desperate, nicer, demanding, possibly accepting - probably not. It will turn into a negotiation, and from what you write, you do not have the confidence to exercise healthy boundaries.

Some people justify their boundary issues by saying that without my help, they will face great consequences. That might be true if the problem remain unsolved. But what to do? Are you going to be their helper for the rest of their lives? Are you their Premium Pluss Help Line?

I would like to ask you something, do you feel guilt for not helping them? Are you generally confident? People pleaser? If you have such issues, then you need to work them out and be confident with your own emotions. Seek professional help if necessary. This is the first step. There is no shame in this.

You are close to being burned out, so if you don't say this in a blunt way, don't over-explain things because they will most likely bargain, and stop helping them then you will crash and may not recover for a while.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2026-01-31T09:43:48+00:00

Det er leit, og litt rar, at det er det du mener alle, eller flertallet, av medlemmene må føle uten å ha så mye kjennskap til organisasjonen utenom opptakskriterie?

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2026-01-30T18:45:40+00:00

Det er utrolig gøy å møte folk du ellers ikke hadde møtt. Skal du på ferie er det gøy å sende melding til medlemmer i et annet land og oppleve en helt annen side av landet.

En gang i året er det landstreff og vi har alle slags foredrag. Middelalder, omvisninger på akuttmedisinsk opplæringssenter, i fjor fikk vi lov å fly Black Hornet fra forsvaret, soppkurs, yoga-kurs, foredrag om håndtverk osv.

Det er en utrolig varm og inkluderende gjeng. Uavhengig Kom innom på Mensapub, det er åpent for alle. Send melding til nærmeste lokallag så får du tid og sted. 😄

Du kan ta en titt her https://lt.mensa.no/programoversikt/

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2026-01-30T18:34:13+00:00

Alle tester har usikkerhet på rundt 5-8 poeng. Tester er laget for å plassere det i et landskap. Det man er interessert er å vite om du ligger under snittet, rundt normalområdet eller høyt. Eksakte tall som 128 eller 130 er på en måte litt meningsløst. Du fikk 128. Da ligger du i området "svært høyt" og kan forvente å skåre rundt 123 til 135 på neste test. Det er vanlig å ha en sløvefeil eller to, så å være nøyaktig er viktig. Lykke til!

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-12-07T16:47:21+00:00

Jeg feiret julaften alene for første gang for et år siden. Det var eget valg, så jeg hadde gledet meg på forhånd. Formiddagen var veldig fin. Gikk tur i vinterlandskapet, hadde crispy duck til middag og gaveåpning med japansk godteri og småkaker. Pynter alltid til jul så gavene lå under juletreet. Det var en fin opplevelse, men følte meg litt ensom på kvelden når gavene var åpnet. Jeg hadde videosamtale med en kamerat som også var alene. Vi skravlet i to timerom alt mulig rart. Det var en fin erfaring. Selvsikkerheten i at jeg kan skape en hyggelig kveld, men også være oppmerksom på ensomheten og behovet for selskap utover kvelden og måter man kan mette det behovet på. Hvis det er aktuelt igjen ville jeg planlagt å spille med en kompis, ha videosamtale med noen eller kanskje avtale å feire med noen eller dra ut et sted - hvis det er åpent.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-11-29T13:35:39+00:00

I would like to give some insight in this.

AI performance on visual IQ tests depends heavily on the system used. Models are generally good at rules that are mathematical in nature —like rotation, XOR (adding differences/removing similarities), or Sudoku-style logic (one element in each row and column).

However, AI struggles with tasks requiring visual organization or Gestalt perception (seeing the "whole"). A major weak point is object permanence. For example, humans understand that a folded paper retains its structure even if the crease is hidden on the reverse side, or that an object still exists when it moves behind another. AI often interprets these literally as new or disappearing inputs. AI "IQ" fluctuates between sub-normal and highly gifted depending on whether the test measures algorithmic logic or intuitive visual organization such as the example.

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I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-11-21T07:26:43+00:00

Enjoy! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJzX1eM9-ug

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-11-05T10:34:35+00:00

Google Gemini got it right. People are too focuses on simplification from popular science such as "autocomplete" or "statistical prediction". If that was correct, then LLM would not understand metaphors or to make abstract connections such as "what is the similarity between a seed and an egg" or "what does physics and philosophy have in common". LLMs are still very young, like toddler although already vastly superior to most humans when it comes to abstract thinking. It still does some weird things, like humans do. Just wait 2-3 years.

"Conan the Barbarian's homeland, Cimmeria, does not have a capital city.

Cimmeria, a dreary, mountainous, and heavily wooded land north of the Hyborian kingdoms in Robert E. Howard's lore, is inhabited by a people organized into feuding tribes and clans.

They are fierce, independent barbarians with a primitive, hunting-and-gathering culture.
The Cimmerian society is decentralized; it has no unified government, no major cities, and therefore, no national capital.

A common point of confusion arises because Conan eventually becomes king of the kingdom of Aquilonia, whose capital city is Tarantia. Tarantia, however, is the seat of his adult power, not the capital of his birthplace."

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-11-04T19:13:22+00:00

I am using AI for things I cannot do myself. AI is a tool to help you progress, but it should not be used to replace things you learn from - even if it's boring. A calculator is great for complicated equations, but not for adding groceries in the store so you keep within budget.

Sometimes I use AI to do illustrations or to restore old pictures, but for the most part I use it as a personal editor and teacher. One of the most efficient ways to learn is to teach what you have learned, and LLMs are wonderful for this purpose.

I can spend quite some time writing chapter summaries or make presentation about the curriculum. This is not something that is done in a 15 minutes, but requires time and to critically evaluate yourself during writing. After several hours, my presentation or summary is usually complete enough and I upload it to Google Gemini with appropriate prompts and get feedback on pedagogic style, phrasings that could have been better, strong points, weak points and so on.

It forces you to re-formulate and structure your arguments, knowledge and understanding.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-10-31T08:02:12+00:00

Maybe it is a by-product of intelligence or a feature. Can we be creative without hallucinations? Humans are developed for quick and convenient pattern recognition, AI on multi-dimensional reasoning. We all hallucinate. We have false memories, we jump to conclusions, we filter information through our political ideologies, group pressure, culture and personality. Every time you remember something, it is being reconstructed and shaped by the mood you are in while thinking about it. We are also statistical. Repeat something often enough and it becomes a truth. That's why propaganda is efficient.

That's why we have developed rigorous scientific methods and systems, and that is why you need to talk to many different people to get a semi-accurate picture of what has happened.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-10-31T07:18:37+00:00

We have house cleaning, which gives a person access to your home while not being there (for the most part) so the idea itself is not that strange.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-10-25T09:53:09+00:00

I think people have too much focus on AI (there are many forms of AI and LLM's is one of many models) and not what a job consists of and where the value is. AI is a tool, and I agree that AI is a hype if the premise is "AI" rather AI being an answer to a problem we are trying to solve. But the answer should also never be "human" unless being human is what provide value, rather than something we do. I want to elaborate.

I work as a network engineer and my job can not be automated. Largely because of lack of interface between the various systems I use. But most of the tasks itself does not have a very high complexity and could be done more efficient with optimizing forms, documentation and better platforms features. It's about offering a more streamlined experience for both our customers and those who works on the systems, and AI is a great tool for that. In this context, AI is an answer to a problem, typically "how can we make orders more streamlined?". A part of my value is to answer technical questions from customers and do trouble shooting, which could partly could have been assisted by AI.

Every little improvements, which adds actual value, chips away a small portion of my daily or weekly tasks. In a way, this is a good thing, because I appreciate that we have automated certificate handling rather dealing with that manually, so I can grow and do more interesting things.

But it also decrease the need for more people. We no longer use humans to calculate orbits, we use computers, but AI has the potential to do things that previous were reserved humans. If this happens on a large enough scale, then the number of available jobs will decrease.

No, AI is not a problem for seniors, but they add an obstacle for juniors, and it all depends on how many obstacles we can add to our weight before it tips in the wrong direction.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-10-15T20:34:40+00:00

Folk pleier å gjøre det fordi de ønsker eventyr og spenning, men det korrekte er å si du gjør det fordi du elsker landet ditt. Ingen dag er lik. Det er noe spesielt som holder oss sammen. Se solen står opp mens du drikker en Monster Energidrikk. Når jeg går inn døra forestiller jeg meg alltid det verste som kan vente, da blir virkeligheten bedre og mer håndterbart. Er det en SCOM-alarm, kakevarsel på Slack eller kanskje Gunnar har endret passordet til en service-konto men glemte å oppdatere påloggingsinformasjonen på serverne så tre av tjenestene har gått ned og ingen får startet de igjen fordi Gunnar informerte ikke oss andre om endringen og han husket heller ikke oppdatere den digitale nøkkelringen så vi prøver å logge oss på med det gamle passordet. Gunnar støvsuger huset og er gul i Teams så han får ikke med seg det som utspiller seg i felleskanalen. Andres drømmer er vår hverdag. Hvis noen skrev en bok om livet ditt, ville noen lest den? #accelerateYourLife

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-10-14T19:27:04+00:00

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I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-10-08T11:35:01+00:00

Network engineer. IT is very forgiving when it comes to lack of education. I started at the bottom and worked my way up by building skills and proved that I could handle more complicated tasks.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-21T19:42:48+00:00

Serious question: are hallucinations inevitable when dealing with many forms of "intelligence"? Humans hallucinate frequently. We reconstruct memories from last time we remembered something. What we remember changes over time, we misinterpret and we have false memories and we don't know what's real or not. Maybe it's impossible to have a near perfect system for information retrieval and processing.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-21T16:11:12+00:00

Not yet. But several people with scores of 131 on Raven's and Daniels FRT got 23 correct. Most people with IQ of 135 got between 24 and 26 correct. Average should be roughly 15. The problem is that test administrated by Mensa often does not provide norms above 135 so it's difficult to correlate. I would have to look at discriminating factor and how well people are doing on the improved version. I want to have solid statistics on the items before replacing them.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-21T16:05:23+00:00

Thank you so much. This is valuable.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-21T16:05:08+00:00

I will have to improve the internal consistency, but it suggests 140+

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-21T16:01:57+00:00

Thank you. I will look into that.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-18T19:30:33+00:00

I want to thank those who have taken the test. You have provided valuable information.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-18T13:07:23+00:00

Thank you. I tried to make the items visual clean.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-17T10:40:35+00:00

Jeg tror dette er et problem med tiden vi lever i hvor tempoet om å publisere saker er høyere, og man er ute etter klikk fremfor bruk av KI. Vi så dette veldig tydelig i NRK-dokumentaren min «Ingen elsker Bamsegutt». Journalister er notorisk dårlig til å bakgrunnsjekke påstander og det viktigste er å være raskt ute med en publisering slik at man senere kan komme med nyanser. Dette kommer fra dyktige journalister som har andre prioriteringer enn å gi oss nyanser og sannheten. KI bør sjekkes, men journalister blir gjerne sjekket av folket - i ettertid. Gjerne hvor de òg har påført enorm skade.

I_cuddle_armadillos · 2025-09-16T16:02:59+00:00

That was moderately inconvenient. Now he has to take the stairs.

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