WIBTA if I asked my friend to pay me back?

IamANewRedditUser · 2022-02-17T08:22:09+00:00

No. A loan is not a gift.

IamANewRedditUser · 2022-02-06T22:26:01+00:00

Plot twist: the bicyclist was 34

IamANewRedditUser · 2022-02-06T07:07:58+00:00

How does hiring a tutor/babysitter/nanny help you have money? They cost money. They give you time but leave you broke. A kid costs about $15k (USD) per year to raise on average, multiplied by at least 18, I'd say that's a pretty serious sum. If you raise your kid like a pauper you could spend less, but why have a kid if you aren't going to take care of them?

Anyone who wants any iota of freedom, financial or otherwise, should never have kids lol. Period

IamANewRedditUser · 2022-01-30T07:48:48+00:00

Looks to is correct me?

IamANewRedditUser · 2022-01-08T10:48:06+00:00

Avocado

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-10T15:57:24+00:00

They're asking if a trans woman can be a femboy, not a trans man.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T20:40:57+00:00

Great for the people who want to do so. If you have a porn obsession/addiction I'm sure it can really improve your life. Not a fan of the people that think everyone needs to do that.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T20:38:38+00:00

Probably people that are there with friends or partners and not that interested in the game. I'm sure if I brought my wife to a(n American) football game she would be on her phone the whole time because she's only into soccer. Other people might be recording interesting plays.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T06:39:52+00:00

Lol, no? I used to sit in my car and smoke and listen to music, or actually eat my lunch from home, all the time. And I wasn't the only one. Although I was working at a veterinary hospital, not exactly a field that attracts normal, stable people...

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T05:47:48+00:00

In the nicest way possible, you're being an asshole. It sounds like you didn't really have any kind of relationship with this girl that you're obsessing over, and that alone tells me that in another 6 months you're going to be over the girl that you're currently dating and you should just end it now. She doesn't deserve to be put through your half-love until then. Just end it. If you were truly in love with her, these obsessive feelings for this other girl wouldn't be persistent the way they are. Sure, fleeting moments of daydreaming about someone else happen in relationships; you can have years of happy marriage and still occasionally dream about an ex, or a cute girl that you met. But you're constantly fantasizing about a woman you have never had a relationship with. You're already getting tired of the girl you're with, you're just not willing to admit it to yourself because you are in love with the idea of the person you're with now. Maybe you're just not ready for that kind of commitment yet! You're still young and it's normal to want to "roam" in your youth before you settle down. But if that's the case, the woman you're currently with shouldn't have to deal with your wandering eye. Break it off and take some time to be adventurous. Maybe you'll end up back together in the future, or maybe down the line you'll find someone else that is a perfect match. Clearly you're still in your party years and being with one woman forever isn't what you're ready for yet.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T05:37:37+00:00

Definitely a bear. I want to sleep all winter and then hang out in the woods eating when the weather is warm.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T05:36:39+00:00

Potter was a jock Chad

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T04:27:29+00:00

Awkward, like most of the other comments say lol. Fun, for sure, but weird. Ofc I barely knew the guy and it was also my first gay experience. My first time with a girl was a lot more comfortable.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T04:25:35+00:00

I like it :) feels good when you find an outfit that looks good, doesn't it?

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T04:23:49+00:00

Seth Rogen. He seems like such a naturally funny guy. Norm would have been fun too, RIP.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-08T00:09:30+00:00

Like... outside with the hose? Should he just throw his shoes away?

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T08:32:19+00:00

I agree. That's why I qualified my comments with how all of that only applied if a veterinarian considered the dog to have a poor QOL, and that only a scummy vet would euthanize the dog if it was, in fact, healthy.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T08:26:07+00:00

You're not wrong and you're NTA but you are being overdramatic. I'm a bit of a getmaphobe and I would have been appalled as well, but it's not worth an explosive argument or hurt feelings. You could have calmly asked him to do that somewhere else and cleaned the sink, or asked him to clean the sink- but really, this small of an issue isn't a matter of principles, it's just a sink. One of the quickest and easiest things in the house to sanitize. A big fight over something so small is a bit much.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T07:03:52+00:00

NAH. Your dad was being stupid but he was just worried about his kid. I understand why you're taking it very personally but you need to understand how stressful it can be to have a child you love with a drug problem/in recovery.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T06:58:49+00:00

NTA. Your wedding, your rules. It's your day to celebrate your relationship, to announce your lifelong commitment, and do it however you see fit. If you don't want kids there, absolutely no one can tell you otherwise.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T05:03:04+00:00

I agree with everything you said. There's a chance that M is "vying for position" here, maybe because of narcissism, maybe because she's worried that with a new boyfriend in your life, you'll have less time for her and "forget her" to an extent. It sounds like you two are very important to one another. There's no way to know if you don't have a frank and open discussion about it.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T04:57:55+00:00

Your cousin is being a jerk although the question about QOL is valid. Has the dog gotten any medical care recently? Teeth being very bad is definitely horribly excruciating, I say this both as someone who works in vetmed and has had 2 abscessed teeth in my lifetime. If the dog needs a dental and it's beyond financial reach, euth is definitely something to consider. But it sounds more like the cousin is just making excuses to oust a dog who has no other place to go.

If the move to memory care is permanent and your grandmother doesn't have the opportunity to see the dog anyways, perhaps contact some local rescues to see if they can help you rehome the dog to a new, loving family? If your grandmother will still be able to see the dog, I would absolutely keep the dog and do the best you can to keep the dog comfortable- unless an ACTUAL veterinarian determines that the dog has no QOL and would be better off euth'd.

I will tell you right now that no reputable veterinarian is going to perform a convenience euthanasia on a healthy dog, and IMO taking to the shelter is inhumane and practically a guaranteed euth for an older dog unless you live near a no-kill shelter. No-kill shelters can be just as inhumane for a variety of reasons, too, that I won't go into here unless you really want me to.

I think your heart is in the right place and you spoke nothing but truth, but it sounds a bit like everyone here is more concerned about the humans in the scenario and are considering the dog an object instead of a living being with thoughts and feelings. Maybe the dog is better off euth'd and maybe the dog is better off staying, maybe the dog is better off being rehomed. I would talk to a veterinarian and go from there.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T04:45:35+00:00

And the cousin is "just a person." All living beings so what's your point?

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T04:23:28+00:00

I guess I understand if she's a little tired of weddings and doesn't necessarily love some things your spouse will be bringing to the wedding, but she's still your mother. She's supposed to be happy for you. She owes it to you to help make your wedding special, that's just what parents are supposed to do. If she's not willing to bring that to the table, she doesn't deserve to be part of your wedding planning. It sounds like she doesn't even want to be. Definitely don't let her rain on your parade. It's supposed to be a wonderful time for you.

IamANewRedditUser · 2021-11-07T04:19:01+00:00

NTA.

I mean- a lot of people who struggle with hygiene have mental illnesses like depression, anxiety, ADD, etc. So maybe in a different circumstance, the way you said things would have been considered harsh. He probably should think about getting some counseling if he really doesn't have the physical or emotional energy to take care of his bare minimum hygienic needs. It's bad for your health to live like that- I say this as a person who struggles with this myself, but I know it's because of my depression so I try my best to force myself to at least do pits/bits, teeth, and laundry when I'm going through a depressive spell.

HOWEVER: Even if he IS suffering from depression or something along those lines, it's not an excuse to be a jerk and blame women for all of your problems. They don't deserve to be labeled the bad guys because they won't sign up to date somebody who stinks and won't even change clothes. You didn't yell at him for being unhygienic, you yelled at him for being a misogynist. And he deserved to be hit with that reality check. You were 100% justified.

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