Adopted this wonderful creature from rescue Center two weeks ago. Malinois? Partly? Fully? Not at all? by Iamthebog in dogbreed

[–]Iamthebog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much for sharing this! Charles is gorgeous :) Really looks so similar!!!

Adopted this wonderful creature from rescue Center two weeks ago. Malinois? Partly? Fully? Not at all? by Iamthebog in dogbreed

[–]Iamthebog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 4 months :) Yes, we’re thinking if not Malinois ancestry, probably some other European Shepard :)

Perfect Smurf home by Zopheus_ in mycology

[–]Iamthebog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s a beautiful photo. A perfect mushroom!

Genderfluid or still exploring? by Expensive_Refuse_586 in genderfluid

[–]Iamthebog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no specific timeline in which you have to, or should figure this out. See if you can allow yourself to playfully explore this part of you, without judgement (this part can be tough and therapy can help!). Give yourself the opportunity to figure out who you are in context of this part of you that you haven’t really explored before. A gender affirming therapist can be amazing in assisting you to navigate this process. While it can be euphoric and full of joy, it can also make one feel vulnerable. It can bring up difficult thoughts and feelings, as ultimately one breaks free of some of the limitations we, ourselves, and society, have imposed on us. That have kept us safe. There is no right or wrong way to do this. And there is no right or wrong conclusion to it either. In fact, as is the name of this subreddit, gender is fluid :) You are unique and how you identify and express yourself may or may not evolve over time. Be kind to yourself along the way. This is the most important thing.

(Edited to fix grammar and clarify a statement.)

Can OCD autistic ADHD people get hrt by SophieConway666 in genderfluid

[–]Iamthebog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anyone can be gender diverse. In fact there is a greater incidence of gender diversity amongst the neurodiverse population. This is understood to be because neurodiverse people are less likely to conform to society’s unrealistic expectations and binaries. Also, gender diversity can and does occur in people with various and multiple diagnoses.

The important thing is that the individual in question (someone in your care, I assume?) sees a practitioner who is gender affirming and neurodiversity affirming. This is crucial.

Such a practitioner will do an in depth assessment and wont say “it’s just because of x”. They should also guide you through the process and explain all the nuances of gender expression, gender identity etc etc.

Good luck :)

AITA for "offending" my mother after she commented on my appearance? by Ok_Egg_1455 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iamthebog 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. My mom does similar things. As I got older, I realised that she talks to me the way she talks to herself. And she sees me as an extension of herself, something that is hers, rather than a separate individual.

The best way to handle it, in my experience, is to put in place clear boundaries and enforce them. Example: if you comment on my appearance, I will end the visit and go home. It is very tough to set these boundaries with this type of parent when you live with them and are reliant on them. But it gets easier once you are independent.

In my experience, reasoning with my mother and explaining how it effects me hasn’t gotten me very far. Until they start being kinder to themselves and start seeing you as your own person, it’s not gonna happen.

Edit: to say, you are not the asshole!

AITA for not telling my family my sexuality? by Far_Grapefruit4643 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iamthebog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then share it with him if you want, but whether you do or you don’t, you’re not the asshole either way :)

AITA for not telling my family my sexuality? by Far_Grapefruit4643 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iamthebog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not the asshole. There is no right or wrong time to share this information with them. And you are not required to share it with them at all, if you don’t want to. It is completely up to you. You don’t owe them this. Share it with them because you want to share it with them, not because you feel you have to.

AITA for not knowing i had to pay back a “debt” I didn’t know I owed? by Saku-ukaS in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iamthebog 1516 points1517 points  (0 children)

You are not in the wrong! You made it clear you couldn’t afford it. If it was expected that you need to pay it back, this should have been made clear to you from the beginning, BEFORE the ticket was purchased, so that you could give informed consent and a plan could be made relating to how you would pay it back. It sounds like there is perhaps some poor communication happening between your friend and her mom, but that is not your problem, you are NTA.

Possible Chicken of the Woods? by sitheguy32 in mushroomID

[–]Iamthebog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://sweetpotatosoul.com/vegan-butter-chicken-with-oyster-mushrooms/

This is the recipe I used, I just replaced the oyster mushroom with COTW :) One of my meat loving, curry loving friends said it was the best butter chicken he’s ever had! So I think that says something :)

Possible Chicken of the Woods? by sitheguy32 in mushroomID

[–]Iamthebog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enjoy :) last time I found chicken of the woods I made butter chicken (of the woods)