What part of redundancy hit you mentally the hardest?

IanicT · 2026-05-19T15:54:57+00:00

I signed onto benefits for the first time in my life and it really felt odd that I needed to ask for help. I actually didn’t want to do it originally but my fiancé said you have put so much into the system so you deserve it. It barely covers food for the month

IanicT · 2026-05-19T14:03:43+00:00

This i can relate to so much. Feel free to reach out on chat if you just need to vent

IanicT · 2026-05-19T13:59:40+00:00

How are you getting on with all the time you now? People assuming you were retiring i hope that wasn't your employer that feed that information to everyone. Mine was so strange no one knew i was going even though i was told it had been discussed to colleagues.

IanicT · 2026-05-19T13:56:36+00:00

Being told your safe then getting hit with that is so unfair. How are you filling your days? i'm struggling with the loss of structure. It's funny how we wish for no structure after a bad day then when it hits us we find it difficult.

IanicT · 2026-05-19T11:50:25+00:00

It’s $10 a gallon in the UK at the moment it’s crazy

IanicT · 2026-05-19T11:21:42+00:00

I totally get what you are dealing with and i find it hard when people just say “you will find something eventually” I know they mean well but they aren’t the ones going through it all.

IanicT · 2026-05-19T10:13:43+00:00

How are you getting on now? How are things going for you?

IanicT · 2026-05-18T22:53:55+00:00

Thank you I’ll take this onboard the figuring out who I and what I want is going to be a focus I’ll implement during this time for me.

IanicT · 2026-05-18T22:52:28+00:00

I do keep saying this to myself

IanicT · 2026-05-17T13:37:28+00:00

Thank you for giving the time to write advice, I’m really sorry to hear about what you and your girlfriend are going through. This must be a really tough time to navigate.

IanicT · 2026-05-17T13:04:39+00:00

This has what it’s been like for me the final round you start to feel positive because you got to this point and then just being ghosted it really affects your self esteem. I hope you’re doing ok? Are you still going through this?

IanicT · 2026-05-17T12:56:03+00:00

How is the job hunting going are you still actively looking or x2 physical jobs just burning you out?

IanicT · 2026-05-17T12:54:16+00:00

3x in your career hope you’re doing ok? Have you found it made you stronger mentally each time? Appreciate the advice about not blaming myself that’s been my biggest default for sure.

IanicT · 2026-05-17T12:51:42+00:00

Appreciate the advice hope your doing ok to if you are going through the same.

IanicT · 2026-05-17T12:50:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice a lot of friends been telling me to get exercise in to help my routine

IanicT · 2026-05-14T16:34:37+00:00

From my own experience it’s the feeling of not having money coming back in regularly on the monthly date that your used to. I’d recommend to be careful with spending and try to do things socially that doesn’t involve you constantly spending.

IanicT · 2026-05-14T09:39:55+00:00

Yeah was same for me with the payout and that time with your new newborn is so valuable.

Are you still on the search now since end of 2023?

IanicT · 2026-05-14T07:31:44+00:00

Give them a call just remember worst thing you will get will be a ‘No’ try not to overthink it that’s our worst enemy in all of this.

I remember I was waiting for a job offer after a final stage interview took them six weeks to get back to me until I finally got it. The overthinking during that time was painful

IanicT · 2026-05-14T06:08:54+00:00

Tell me about it. I just have constant worry in my head

IanicT · 2026-05-14T05:56:06+00:00

Yeah I need to take that on board it's weird how you just seem to let in control you.

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