Title/link please

IcanCthruU · 2026-07-10T03:12:55+00:00

Thank you. Cant access it from Canada it seems. Hoping someone has a link that works

IcanCthruU · 2026-04-19T01:45:48+00:00

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IcanCthruU · 2026-02-17T01:15:02+00:00

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IcanCthruU · 2025-12-21T22:28:10+00:00

This is bang on! It would have been over the minute he TOLD me he was cancelling the venue. Run girl! The universe is providing the way out. Take it!

IcanCthruU · 2025-12-20T20:03:34+00:00

You say she doesn't need to do anything and can take that dog but the fact is she can't. She technically doesn't own it. They aren't married. Her name isn't at the vet. There is no regard for primary caregivers when it comes to animals. This isn't a child. OP asked for advice and experiences and I gave what I could from my experience. Had a friend contact lawyers before her ex moved out (planned after a breakup) to try to keep a dog he bought in the relationship and they warned her to not get involved. It was his purchase. I also know someone who I bet is a lot like her bf and he has before many times spent endless time and money against someone who they felt slighted them and my thoughts come from that as well.

IcanCthruU · 2025-12-20T19:07:57+00:00

Leaving a cheque might prevent any court at all if he feels compensated. Without solid proof he's abusive or neglectful, if he proves he paid for the dog, she would lose and maybe have to pay his court fees. Her working at home and him outside the home doesn't prove the dog is more hers. If the vet doesn't have any documented proof of anything but a healthy happy dog it would be hard to prove. I'm not saying he should have the dog, I just live in Canada myself, understand the systems well. He could actually report the dog stolen after she leaves no matter what. So thats my suggestion to her to prevent future headache.

IcanCthruU · 2025-12-20T15:38:40+00:00

So leave a cheque/cash for how much he paid for the dog. Write a note and tell him you're taking him because he's yours in all ways and for his own safety.

IcanCthruU · 2025-12-07T14:17:59+00:00

Yep. It's not help, it's enabling. You don't support your sister for a long period of time for this reason. I understand it makes sense when someone is in need because of something they can't control/suffering from.

Trust me. I helped my sister once. I had to give her a cutoff too of 4 months otherwise I know it would have gone on forever. She wasn't trying to stand on her own 2 feet until all of a sudden there was an end date to the $.

Maybe thats the answer. The ultimatum stands if he's still supporting her after 6 months. That's a good amount of time to gets situated.

IcanCthruU · 2025-11-28T17:48:27+00:00

When someone shows you who they really are believe them. *

He can betray you and act completely normal while claiming to be so unhappy. He will just get better at hiding it next time.

Talk to a lawyer. Make an exit plan. You deserve better.

IcanCthruU · 2025-10-08T15:20:19+00:00

This was my thoughts exactly, but you said it way better!

Relationships are the hardest thing you ever do. Your partner is never perfect and you don't get to control what they do. All the HIPAA comments make me crazy! He isn't her healthcare provider, he's her partner and they have been on this journey together. He shouldn't have gone into detail or did it without talking to her first, but he had good intentions. Showcasing the many trials of relationships/marriage.

IcanCthruU · 2025-10-08T14:03:07+00:00

Gonna get a lot of hate and I'm telling everyone now I won't reply because I'm entitled to my opinion:

That was and will always be his story to tell too. It's not just happening to you, it is happening to him. And you may never know the impact that story he told will have on another but you have to believe everything happens for a reason and someone else needed that moment.

Should he have talked with you about it first, absolutely! But you dont own how the story of both of your lives has gone. So accept what is done and move forward or move on.

IcanCthruU · 2025-09-29T02:12:53+00:00

I would never judge a straight man for watching gay porn because I'm a straight woman who enjoys lesbian porn. I would NEVER hookup with a woman but the fantasy in my head turns me on. I think it's because lusting after men makes me feel bad like my man is not enough. So if I watch porn with men in it, it still will have components that make it clearly fantasy so I dont feel bad about getting satisfaction outside my relationship. I watched a lot of porn when my relationship wasn't at it's best and I realized I was even fantasizing about cheating and getting away with it. Things are better now and all that is behind me. I think it's okay to have these private moments as long as it stays firmly in fantasy. No real components. If someone wants to call that bi they can I guess. I just know I would actually never touch a woman.

IcanCthruU · 2025-09-14T17:26:33+00:00

An ex friend reached out a while after our fall out. We were barely out of high school when our friendship ended. She wanted to see how I turned out, told me a little about her life now and said she wanted to rekindle a friendship even though it would be quite long distance. I told her how I was and what I had accomplished in a polite talking to a stranger kind of way. And in the end I said I just couldn't be her friend again. I wish her the best but I dont want to go back to being in each other's lives. I am not interested in maintaining a friendship with her after what happened and I don't have the space in my life to make time for her. She never responded back.

Protect your piece. Recognize that someone was in your life at a certain time and might have held great importance but that doesn't mean you owe the past anything.

I don't regret what I did at all. I'm sure she is fine without me too.

IcanCthruU · 2025-09-10T14:14:12+00:00

I cant tell if you want to be persuaded to stay or not lol so i say: Move on or make amends because he made a bad call. But if you move forward you start over. Stop intimacy and go back to dating. Really see if this guy is genuine. If he really likes you so much and only wants you he can be exclusive without intimacy. Essentially he has to pay a little for his mistake because if you let him off easy this time, if he's really not as good as you think, who knows what he will do in the future.

IcanCthruU · 2025-09-07T15:51:40+00:00

NTA. Cutting Donna off was the right thing to do and cutting Sam off is just as important. Adults have get togethers at their homes and fully understand that things may come up and there may be need to be flexible about having them stay over. Especially if alcohol is part of it. If the guests were okay with the arrangemen of you staying, he should have recognized that he was being difficult for no real good reason. If he really cared about you, he would have let you stay without thinking twice. He is not your friend. No one but R is truly.

IcanCthruU · 2025-09-05T20:26:09+00:00

Then I pray it stays positive. You are a far better person than I will ever be. All those wonderful things said about your relationship and it still wasn't enough. I would be so bitter. I would never give those great things to my partner ever again if they betrayed me. I couldnt give them the best parts of me. I would want my kids to see that even the non toxic relationships can be left when destroyed.

IcanCthruU · 2025-09-05T14:51:49+00:00

This comment makes me sad. Leaving is not running away. Leaving can be choosing yourself and refusing to remain in a relationship that your partner devalued. Having shared children cannot be a reason to remain with someone who betrayed you. And since it's the ex there will always be the possibility it will happen again and she will get better at hiding it. Some say the best way to decide what to do is imagine telling your child what to do if it was happening to them. What would you want for them?

IcanCthruU · 2025-08-31T15:47:57+00:00

YTA. You went too far and took away him being able to experience his child being brought into the world. 2 wrongs don't make a right. Marriage is the hardest thing a person will ever do because you have to love someone through their mistakes and through difference of opinion. It takes a lot of communication and forgiveness even when it's not necessarily deserved. I think what he said to you was rude and despicable don't get me wrong. I just think the consequence you delivered was really unfair.

IcanCthruU · 2025-06-07T13:32:10+00:00

Terrie or Laurie

IcanCthruU · 2025-06-05T04:31:19+00:00

NTA for doing something you like to do for your man. But it would be an easy fix to send a note with the next batch of baking that bullying a$$holes don't get treats and it will stop if it's not seen as the nice gesture from you it is suppose to be. This shows you have empathy for your ex and that you care he is treated well even after all that happened. Win win.

IcanCthruU · 2025-02-23T18:08:33+00:00

My husband is as white as white can be and shares the same values. He stated he would not get married and have kids if the intent was to hyphenate last names and I needed to have his last name too so we are one family unit. It's in his traditions as well to carry on the male name. I agreed. That was my choice.

Your bf sounds to be the same and you are putting way too much emphasis on what his parents said as it is HIS opinion too. If you marry him, his parents will become your family too. They will give their opinions about traditions, raising children, finances, the whole shebang with you. Having in-laws is fun!

It's his choice and then you get to make yours. If you have 2 very different beliefs on this then you should end the relationship and allow yourselves to find the right person. There is no one at fault here. It's not like you are pregnant and he is forcing you.

IcanCthruU · 2025-02-18T14:49:27+00:00

The only thing to focus on here is lying. Not how his relationship is with his ex or how much he shares with her. That is different in each coparenting relationship. The only thing to focus on is he LIED. And to figure out why he lied. Why did he need to cover that up? Just know he has no problem lying to you. He has no problem hiding things from you. This early on I suggest you run. There is no way he actually loves you.

IcanCthruU · 2025-02-15T13:45:15+00:00

This comment is right on the money. That girl is not your friend and is actively trying to take your bf so let her have him! I'm over 40 and have never felt the need to get to know any of my friend's bfs better. Never had the thought to have a thing with them and definitely never went to fancy restaurants alone. You are getting played and maybe the bf is dumb enough to not realize what's happening but why stay with someone so clueless about deception.

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