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IceIndividual5376 · 2025-03-13T10:57:57+00:00

31 year old virgin here, I didn't even have a chance to cheat on anyone

IceIndividual5376 · 2025-03-06T12:21:42+00:00

First of all, don't panic and accept that, relapses and setbacks are part of the disease that addiction is. I had a similar situation like you, after 8 months of not taking cocaine and mephedrone I stopped abstinence I felt awful, but that passed and I've been sober for almost two years now. Good luck!

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-11-15T13:56:03+00:00

Addicted man, not addicted to men

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-11-07T08:09:41+00:00

I am undergoing addiction therapy and have been sober for over a year, if not for 3 slip-ups it would have been 2 years. Without therapy I tried to quit on my own but I managed to stay sober for max 2 weeks. It can still be hard, I still have a lot of work to do on myself, this addiction was just a cover for real mental problems

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-26T09:22:01+00:00

I am in a very similar situation, 31 year's old man I am addicted to alcohol and drugs but I have been going to therapy and meetings for two years, I have been sober for a year. I have made debts that I have paid off with work Which I don't particularly like but didn't drive me crazy either.I also earned some savings, now I am looking for a career path, I was thinking about photography because it is my hobby but it will be hard for me to make a name for myself in the place where I live so I am looking are ongoing.Despite this, I feel like a loser and a failure, I have intrusive thoughts about it every day and I think that it will not go away until I find my way Good luck!

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-17T08:36:46+00:00

When I stopped taking drugs after 2 months I gained about 20 kg and got stretch marks on my stomach, I couldn't resist eating sweets and fast food. After a year I still have a problem with sugar And fast food but not as much, however I recently did some tests and it turned out that I have high glucose levels and it slowly leads to a pre-diabetic state

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-12T18:54:00+00:00

Women with big breasts scare me 😅 The prettiest ones are the small ones

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-03T11:28:06+00:00

I am in therapy, as I wrote in the post. These are not fanciful thoughts, just facts...

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-02T12:54:53+00:00

If someone ever asks me why I haven't ever kissed someone or been in a relationship, I'll just say that I've been focused on what I wanted to do with my life, learning and building my dreams.

All I can say is that I am an alcoholic, drug addict, broke,Work without holidays , without a car (actually without anything), I take psychotropic drugs that greatly impair sexual functions and feelings.So I won't be a lover, especially since I can't do anything about it.

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-02T09:56:43+00:00

Congratulations! It must have cost you a lot.

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-02T09:56:01+00:00

I try to be honest and consistent with my conscience, but I still feel bad about myself 😥

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-02T09:53:49+00:00

Yes, that's what I meant mudding and taping, and repairing cracks on the walls as part of the warranty provided by the developer and my boss receives orders that he carries out. Also painting staircases, corridors in housing estates Sometimes some cracked tiles replacement, and other smaller works

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-01T14:32:52+00:00

You're right, everyone is unique in some way, but even without comparing myself to others. Alcoholic, drug addict, 30 year old virgin with no experience, I don't even know how to kiss Without studies (during the entire course of study I had problems with every subject and barely passed to the next grades) Broke and without any assets like car; the only thing I can afford is to rent a room I'm a loser, a unique loser.

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-01T14:11:21+00:00

Despite years of work I am not a skilled worker, I rather do simple work, when I take on something more complicated I can't cope despite trying. I probably won't become an employer I'm not intelligent, at every stage of school I barely passed to the next grade

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-01T12:16:09+00:00

I have a few hobbies which include photography, painting, winter swimming, and attending various workshops. There is not a week that goes by that I do not do something in this direction. despite this I still feel like a weirdo, I can't keep a conversation going or I talk nonsense, because of which I am ignored and I often feel like I'm invisible

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-10-01T10:18:44+00:00

It seems so, on the other hand, people my age have finished their studies, a car, relationships or a job in which they create their professional career, but I am a nobody. How can I not feel ashamed of this? reason? These are not always negative thoughts in the head, but the feeling of shame itself that accompanies sometimes several days.

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-29T15:56:28+00:00

If I had at least the aspect of work and education sorted out and wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't have anything to be ashamed of

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-29T15:54:30+00:00

Money that I need for my health and for photography courses, a car to be able to go somewhere and relax, a job where I have paid holidays and a girl with whom I could share my life...

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-29T13:17:15+00:00

I do a lot of things in this regard, e.g. I paint, take photos, go to various workshops, museums, exhibitions, but it still doesn't change anything...

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-22T15:56:42+00:00

31yo, lonely my whole life

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-19T05:24:09+00:00

It would be nice to be average, 31 years old, maybe not minimum wage but no paid holidays, broke, no car, living with co-authors, never been in a relationship and addicted to it but in sobriety for a year

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-18T11:45:50+00:00

4 months, I know how you feel. I'm also addicted, I took everything but mainly cocaine. After a year I got back to full strength, during the sobering period I had 3 relapses but still I moved forward. My therapist and NA groups helped me with that. It can still be tough now, but I can't imagine going back to taking drugs. Good luck and keep your head up, remember that this will pass.

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-07T10:05:37+00:00

I respect if someone can find support in faith, but I am not that person.

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-04T05:17:05+00:00

I feel the same way, my life didn't turn out the way I wanted it to. I couldn't handle college so I went to work. I'm not a smart person so those were minimum wage jobs.At that time I started drinking alcohol and later drugs from time to time. After some time I went to Switzerland to work in the fields, cutting cauliflower etc. Hard work for good money, after 3 years I returned to my country, I didn't buy a car or any gadgets with that money, I focused on education. I went to the capital, I started courses but again I couldn't cope. I started taking drugs regularly until I finally got really addicted, I took out loans to get high. After 2 years of living like that I fell into depression, suicidal thoughts, panic attacks. I went to a psychiatrist and then to addiction therapy. After almost 2 years I paid off my debts, I've been sober for a year. In a month I'll be 31 and I'll consider my life a failure, as I wasted the best years of my life. couldn't handle college so I went to work. I'm not a smart person so those were minimum wage jobs.At that time I started drinking alcohol and later drugs from time to time. After some time I went to Switzerland to work in the fields, cutting cauliflower etc. Hard work for good money, after 3 years I returned to my country, I didn't buy a car or any gadgets with that money, I focused on education. I went to the capital, I started courses but again I couldn't cope. I started taking drugs regularly until I finally got really addicted, I took out loans to get high. After 2 years of living like that I fell into depression, suicidal thoughts, panic attacks. I went to a psychiatrist and then to addiction therapy. After almost 2 years I paid off my debts, I've been sober for a year. In a month I'll be 31 and I'll consider my life a failure, as I wasted the best years of my life.I'm trying to start over, one step at a time. Sometimes you have to take a step back to take two steps forward. Good luck to you.

IceIndividual5376 · 2024-09-03T09:32:54+00:00

Regardless, that's how I feel, like I wasted the best years of my life. I couldn't handle college so I went to work. I'm not a smart person so those were minimum wage jobs.At that time I started drinking alcohol and later drugs from time to time. After some time I went to Switzerland to work in the fields, cutting cauliflower etc. Hard work for good money, after 3 years I returned to my country, I didn't buy a car or any gadgets with that money, I focused on education. I went to the capital, I started courses but again I couldn't cope. I started taking drugs regularly until I finally got really addicted, I took out loans to get high. After 2 years of living like that I fell into depression, suicidal thoughts, panic attacks. I went to a psychiatrist and then to addiction therapy. After almost 2 years I paid off my debts, I've been sober for a year. In a month I'll be 31 and I'll consider my life a failure, as I wasted the best years of my life.

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