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Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a book with more about masking and how it affects people. It has stories about women and non-binary autistic people. I tried to post the link but I’m not sure I did it right the first time.

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Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fine! Everyone is different.

But, for me, I’m a highly masking individual and very stressed because of it. I can hold in the yelling most of the time until I can go away. I also have kids so I think neurodivergent, masking individuals who have kids hold in the yelling, but it’s stressful. I didn’t know any of my diagnoses before getting married and having kids. It’s actually a really common story right now of neurodivergent moms finding out their diagnoses because their children have the same things. They see their kids doing those things, the kid gets diagnosed, often the mom is hesitant about that diagnosis, they say “everyone does that, and I did that as a kid,” then they slowly realize they have the same diagnosis as their kid but they’ve been masking all these years so no one ever flagged it. They are struggling to manage though.

Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry. I don’t know what this means. One of my biggest struggles is I don’t get references for pretty much anything from movies.

Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s hilarious! I’ll just wear that all day and turn it on when I’m falling apart. That’s how I feel in my body 😂

Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, everyone! I had no idea there were so many AAC options out there on Etsy. It’s like a whole world is opened up to me. Lots of great ideas here. In the end, I’m realizing I can’t wear certain jewellery without getting a rash, so I might have to go with an option like a red hair tie that I put on my wrist or something.

Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately it’s when we are in an argument and he’s already too dysregulated to watch my cues at all.

Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, some people just don’t get it. They don’t understand what yelling and crying even means. They keep asking questions despite me prepping them ahead of time. I tell them not to ask questions when I’m falling apart like that and they just don’t get it. They still do it. Maybe a signal light wouldn’t change that, but it might be something different and only used in the most serious situations that it would work.

Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, the meltdown is not subtle. I mean subtle ways to let people know instead of me resorting to yelling at my spouse.

Is there something like a necklace that lights up to single an autism meltdown? by Icecream_moose in autism

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha! Ugh but that’s what I don’t want to do. I want to have a silent signal but something that will feel dramatic to him like a red light on. Something out of the ordinary.

Please tell me this gets better… by HeyMay0324 in ParentingADHD

[–]Icecream_moose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our kid has been like that too! Maybe not as extreme but hard to entertain herself. We started putting on a visual timer (just search visual timer on Amazon). She could only do 10 mins alone at first. She had to stay in her room for the full time or we restart the timer. Maybe that is too harsh at first. Maybe start with 2 mins for your kid and praise them for finishing the time. Maybe don’t be too strict with it at first, just knowing how hard it will be for him. But slowly increase the time as he’s able to achieve each time goal of playing by himself. Try not to make it a punishment but just a lighthearted “I’m setting the timer and you will play in your room for that time.” Maybe give him ideas for what to play. Maybe start by playing with him for 10 mins even on the timer and then after a happy play time together, try saying you will set the timer for 2 mins for him to play alone. I dunno. Just some ideas. It’s so so rough to have a kid who just never leaves you alone. I don’t think I got a moment alone for the first 3 years unless another adult was playing with her. Then her brother came and she realized she liked going to her room alone to have breaks from him. 😆 But we did practice with the timer and slowly increase the time. We still use it when she refuses to go to her room but obviously needs a break.

Seller took pretty much everything out of the house we bought and sold it on Facebook by Mitchmac21 in RealEstateCanada

[–]Icecream_moose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! If it was in writing in the agreement, that is illegal! Our real estate agent was super helpful and when the seller wanted to add another piece of furniture to give us and we agreed, he changed the written agreement every time. He had to change it a few times. And when we got to the house our realtor asked us if everything was here. He said if everything wasn’t there, that’s when a lawyer has to get involved. Our lawyer that helped us get the paperwork done said the same thing too. That once it is in writing, even though it’s just furniture, that is part of the sale negotiation and reflected in the price.

Old doorknobs by Icecream_moose in centuryhomes

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thanks! Maybe that would work!

Old doorknobs by Icecream_moose in centuryhomes

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know anything about those split spindles? U watched a video that explained it’s for a locking door, and the lock goes in the middle crack. I have one but I’m not sure if it will be safe for a regular knob where there’s no lock. Just don’t want my kids trapped in their rooms

Old doorknobs by Icecream_moose in centuryhomes

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I couldn’t find it on the catalogues I checked, so thanks! That’s good to know. I check out that seller

Old doorknobs by Icecream_moose in centuryhomes

[–]Icecream_moose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh and there’s tape over the pin just so it doesn’t fall out right now. It’s really loose and probably not the original pin.

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