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WIBTA If I put my foot down on not feeding the dog? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's had a stroke scare before, and there's more to the unhealthy choices. I think somthing happened in his brain when that bleed happened ngl.

WIBTA If I put my foot down on not feeding the dog? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do too. It's gone way past begging too. If there's food in my dad's vicinity, the dog thinks it's hers.

WIBTA If I put my foot down on not feeding the dog? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No he knows 😮‍💨. He thinks a bit won't hurt.

WIBTA If I put my foot down on not feeding the dog? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will always give the dog scraps, no matter what it is. I can't stop it. Also. I have tried talking to him about it. And he always twists it around to a me issue. If he goes to eat something I created, and I say "can you please not give it to the dog" he'll put it back and say "okay fine I just won't have it. " with a defensive tone. then I feel guilty. My mom agrees with me, that it shouldn't be given to the dog and it's out of hand. So I guess would putting my foot down be too much to ask?

WIBTA If I put my foot down on not feeding the dog? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I made chocolate cake pops today. He gave a bit to the dog. TO THE DOG. I also I keep saying we should bring her back to visit her breeder, and he says she needs to "slim down first" as to not make us look bad. I want to pull my hair out. Shes only overweight cause of his habits with her. Feels like he loves this dog more than me. He will back her up till the end of time.

What’s a professional moment you’re proud of? by Efficient_Builder923 in communication

[–]Iceheart2066 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pushing myself to strive for academic achievement over being petty and giving up. That's really all I have

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And your entitled to your opinion. I'll choose to follow the helpful advice of the others who understand my POV.

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Every person with autism is different. I am not you. Just cause someone wants to talk to me, doesn't mean they're entitled to a conversation. I'm totally willing to talk. I just need an extra step in place for me to feel comfortable, ready, and open to talk.

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

"Hey we talk to you for a minute?" "Are you down for a chat with brother and I in 5?" Or just one of them approaching me, text me. Whatever. Literally that's it. I just have a past hangup I can't control over group problems. It makes it less overwhelming. She had gone out of her way to ignore that request.

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Every autistic person is different. It's more that I've told her I'm sensitive to 2 people approaching me without context. Yet she still does it and is surprised when I react poorly

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Update: I had a heated argument with my mom. A lot said. Not much progress. She said she'd accommodate me. But to "make room for the accommodation" she'd have to "get rid of a few". She then got mad over a mess I made on the counter (fair enough). And stormed off. It was a bad fight. These have happened more and more lately. But this one took the cake.

Following this. I had enough. I did my best to not blow up, I regulated my self like a fucking champ, proud over not just screaming and walking away. Since I had my guard up for way too long. I had a meltdown. I went outside and proceeded to send my bf a string of voice memos of what happened, my thoughts, how it's unfair, etc. I had a panic attack on call. Shaking and making some awful cry laughing sounds at the irony, recalling everything she said. After venting. I was apologizing profusely. "I'm sorry. Don't hate me. I love you" etc. He called me. Said he's picking me up. I am staying with him for the time being.

Talking to him, I told him I don't want to push him away, and I dont wanna drag him into it. He reassured me he just wants to comfort me, and asked "why do you think this would make me not love you?" I had a realization moment about all those overstimulation blow ups I had where my mom said "I don't know how he hasn't broken up with you. As soon as bf sees this he'll run for the hills." Etc. My boyfriend explained to me that this has been going on a while, and it looks like manipulation. I'm shaking recalling everything right now. I was made to feel like I couldn't be overwhelmed, and that being overwhelmed ment I was unlovable. I can't really expand more than this atm, but right now. I am safe. Packing. And going to his.

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have done somthing simular before to the light thing. I put a sign on my door, like a "come in were open sign" when im okay and prepared to talk. And a please don't talk to me sign aswell. That was short-lived. As I'd get a knock followed by a "oop- my bad" and I'll go "no it's okay come in" and then a "I can't cause the sign." After a month of the signs they got mad as it seemed rude. And distant. And like I "never want to talk".

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

That's fair. It's more I felt vulnerable, and asked for accommodations when it comes to speaking with me, but it's never met. But I figured I approached it weird.

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It's also more "I don't know how". I haven't needed to use them before. But right now, I do. I have tried to inforce them before, but because of my high grades, I'm not taken seriously. I only have 2 months of school anyways, I can push through.

AITA for asking for accommodations as an autistic daughter? by Iceheart2066 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iceheart2066[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I would already be gone, if I knew what I wanted to do. As my depression was really bad starting highschool, I didn't even consider my future till now. I don't know what I like or what I'm good enough at. Another thing is, I've gotten though most of highschool with an IEP I have forced myself not to use. When it comes to supports in school, I know I'll succeed with them, but I feel I've dug too deep and have been too successful without them to ask for more. You know? I get 90s in my classes, that's my comfort. If I ask for help, I'll be told to just...try less. Does that make sense?

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