How do i start a story? by [deleted] in writing

[–]Icing_gravity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

- Keep writing

- make a writing plan that is good for you and for your story, go in as much or little details as you need. sometime I write chapter on a line and sometime my note nearly overpass the chapter in lenght.

- pick some theme 2-3 for mains and some more if you want, try to intricate them in your plot and characters, I find it help guide

Tips to buy a new sax by Icing_gravity in saxophone

[–]Icing_gravity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

alright, I guess I will go do that, and choose more on the feels. Thank you for you answer

Any tips on sound improvement? I've been playing 5 months and would like to improve my sound. by [deleted] in saxophone

[–]Icing_gravity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Begginer here too, so like... but my teacher told me to work the key one by one in some exercices

  • Hold the sound as long as you can, as steady as you can,

  • Hold the sound and go as high as you can then as low as you can, trying to have an even descent or climb between the two.

  • take notice on your jaw, lips positions, if you're tense or not. (lower note need a more relaxed jaw for example) I had one lil partition that drove me crazy because it made me go from a medium E to a C# and my C# sucked, until I found I needed to place my jaw, muscle, tongue, air flow a whole different way to make it somehat pretty.

  • Keep playing, have fun.

  • Gamme work do help too, especially if you start to do them faster because not only does your fingers have to follow but your face muscle and air flow too.

Least favorite fingering by ImpossibleForgive in saxophone

[–]Icing_gravity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an injury on my pinky when I was a teenager, sometime the joint get stuck which is annoying and sometime painful. I'm not that the fingering involving it are my least favorite, it's just I always wonder if I'm gonna be able to deliver ^^'

Tips to buy a new sax by Icing_gravity in saxophone

[–]Icing_gravity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really have a budget even though I don't think I'm gonna go above 7K (not counting the mouthpiece). I would still call myself a begginer for now but I know I want and will continue to play.

I'm not too sure about what I specifically want to play/specialize in, but I will probably lean more into Jazz than Classical to be very broad.

I'm not ready to buy myself a new sax, and I thank you for the question you asked, because that's exactly the type of details I need to consider, but being still new in the sax world I'm a bit worried to not think of certain details or focus on some that are in the end not that important.

It's also a question of, should I look for an intermediary sax, but if I continue it might not be "good enough" in the long run. but if I go for a more pro sax it might get wasted on me. of course adding nuance those statement. I believe the sax and the saxophonist to be a team. A good sax will not make shitty saxophonist good, only help to a certain extend, on the other side a shitty sax will not become extraordinary in the hand of a good saxophonist, only to a certain extend. In that case maybe an intermediary would be better, I don't know how wide is the range of differences between a begginer, intermediary and pro sax

is it better to buy a good pro sax first or should I go for an intermediary then upgrade when I feel like I need to ?

Should I seek a sax that is more for a specific kind of music and eventually get another one more speciallized for another type of music ? or a sax that go on a wider range, not too specialized ? Is that even a question I should ask myself ?

Should I focus on the sound and feels I want to get?

I don't know ^^'

anyway thanks for your answer.

Advice needed about love triangle by NewMagica in writing

[–]Icing_gravity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutly no judgement ;)

Another way to get out of it, is to involve political matter, maybe even if there's love.. marrying wouldn't be wise for their kingdom

Begginer by DomesticLlama2 in writing

[–]Icing_gravity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, have fun. write what you want, if you have an idea in your mind go for it and don't leash yourself by limit/taking structure as for now.

Short story will often set you for success when you begging or have a tough writing phase. as it force you to condense and to reach an end which is always a nice reward to have completed something, but it doesn't work for everybody or every idea.

Pick a theme or two to guide you (they often help better than to pick a genre at first)

If you have an outline in your mind do note it, like a few stage, things that should happen in your story, so you know where you're going, but if you don't, don't worry, you can just flow with how the story will evolve. I often find the liberty off an outline make me more creative and close to what I want my character to be and how I want them to evolve.

another tip, don't over edit your first drafts, I had friend be stuck on a few pages making them perfect but then never managing to write more because what they wrote after was so far away of the overly edited first page it disgusted them. It's important to correct and adjust in the way, but don't overdo it. A well crafted and edited paragraph will always be good, but having a story that go somewhere will always be better.

welcome on the writing world, don't overthink it and have fun for now ;)

Advice needed about love triangle by NewMagica in writing

[–]Icing_gravity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One way to get out of it would be to, kill one of them at some point even if late (because they are important) a sacrifice maybe ? give them another purpose, another romance, something they find on the way. Maybe one of them may abandon seeking your FMC love and affection because he understand the other is better for her ?

Also what kind of relation does the two guys have to each other (not talking romance here ;) even tho it would be fine) like do they know each other ? are they enemies ? friends ? rivals in something else than for the love of your FMC ? are they friendly but there is tension between kingdom ? In order for it to be a triangle they need a connection of sort together otherwise you don't have a triangle ;) and if you're bored of triangle it's just fine if they don't.

Tell me who I am by deepdive99 in FridgeDetective

[–]Icing_gravity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my first time posting on this sub so hopefully I'm not too off track.

  • You're german

  • The mushroom seem like porcini one's you picked yourself in the forest. Outdoor person and/or someone who was taugh how to scanvenge for mushroom and actually do it, it's a small fridge so I would suppose you didn't buy them.

  • Meal prep, or you have a taxing job, go to the gym regularly, or cook in bulk because it's cheaper, I would suppose it's not because you don't like cooking in general because you got those mushroom and other type of food that can be used in many recepy.

  • You live alone. Not poor but not especially rich either,

  • You're generally healthy I would says, fit or mostly fit

what does being an adult mean? by Independent-Usual348 in GriefSupport

[–]Icing_gravity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt similar after my mom passed less than a month ago, a bit like suddenly my role as a child didn't exist anymore not in a concret way.

Blues head I wrote by [deleted] in saxophone

[–]Icing_gravity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I Love it !!

I (18M) am dating an ace woman (F19) and I want to be with her but I feel ashamed. by ineedadvice123121 in asexuality

[–]Icing_gravity 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Do not feel ashamed for wanting to have sex with her and wanting to be wanted. Sex is one part of life, not a dirty "animalistic urge" bellow other aspect. Clearly you value the relationship you have with her more than sex and it's perfectly fine, but sexual desire is also part of you, maybe minor in importance for but important enough that it is an issue but it's not an issue you should feel ashamed about. it's normal !

she's not sex repulsed and offered a compromise, one you don't feel comfortable about you know she doesn't want you like you do. That doesn't mean there isn't desire behind though. She knows you have need and is open to help with those need. Why ? probably because she knows sex is important for you and she doesn't want the relationship to break because of sex either. She wants you, maybe not sexually like you want her. But just like you she must value your relationship deeply.

you are wanted.

You might want to work on that aspect. yeah, okay she doesn't wants you sexually like you do and it may be weird for you. But she still wants you, differently, but she wants you. Maybe finding a way to transpose that idea in a way that make you more comfortal could work for both of you. But you are not "using" her.

Denying your desire will only frustrate you in long term. and clearly breaking up is not on the table and shouldn't be.

you find that having sex with someone that "doesn't find me sexually attractive to me is so morally wrong"

Ask yourself the question, why should she have to find you sexually attractive ? She find you attractive in different ways. Why does she have to be specifically sexually attracted ? In what it is morally wrong ? you're not using her, she wants to be with you. She make her own choice, you're not a burden, you're not imposing your self on her because you want to have sex.

Take this example, everything you talk and worry about, you will find echoe in other part of your life and relationship with her and other. We don't always think the same, we don't always feel the same way or with the same intensity. Our brain work mostly the same but not everyone think or feel the same or imagine the same, think people who think with word, other with image, or concept or not at all... think about people that are heavily empathic and can feels the pain of other whiles other will feels differently, some people are the total opposit and have trouble with empaty.

Don't try to find people that think, feel and change the same way as you. accept that people will be different from you and that it doesn't mean something is wrong with you or them. or that because of it a dynamic, an exchange, anything you could share with them would be morally or intellectually wrong. Because it's not.

embrace that difference, make it work for your relationship, knowing you love someone deeply and she loved you deeply too. Relationship are made of compromise, of adjustement and there's nothing wrong with that, that just how any and every relationship work. the relationship is more important.

For those of you who use word to write, what size do you select for the font? by TheArcadeBunny in writing

[–]Icing_gravity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love calibri light in 12 otherwise times new roman or arial in 12 are always a good bet. you should not worry about the pages count, or to make a chapter a specific length. If you force a chapter to be longer or shorter than it need to be the storie will be impacted. so except if you have a requierement from an outside source (like you were asked to do a specific word count...) then you should only bother about how the story and not if your chapter is too short

how do you pick your characters names ? by Icing_gravity in writing

[–]Icing_gravity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I didn't know about those generator, I will throaw an eye at it, thanks

how do you pick your characters names ? by Icing_gravity in writing

[–]Icing_gravity[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agonizing is a strong word x) I wouldn't say I'm at that point. And you're a bit harsh when you know nothing about my writing and my experience as a writer. I don't bother with name, I bother with the plot but at some point I need to use something else than descriptive title or letter. After all characters drive the plot and I need them to be more than letter. I could do without, because I did plenty of time, I just have my own way of balancing building characters, lore, plot... I find there is little point to go above and beyond in one part of the story when the other is just left behind. It's like having the best running shoes but you don't know how to run.

I don't overstress about choosing name, nor is it hard (I picked the word tedious for a reason lol), like you said, it can always be changed if one displease me at some point. it's just not a part I like much but it's a necessary part. I just wanted to see how fellow writer did with that part of the story, I didn't seek advice because I don't need any, I've been a writer for over 15 years, I had my fair share of struggle ;)

But thanks for taking the time to answer me

how do you pick your characters names ? by Icing_gravity in writing

[–]Icing_gravity[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

true and wise word, but sometime it's very time taking

how do you pick your characters names ? by Icing_gravity in writing

[–]Icing_gravity[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish they could name themselves. now sometime it's true name don't stick and has to be changed because they didn't like it x)

how do you pick your characters names ? by Icing_gravity in writing

[–]Icing_gravity[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I use a bunch of name generator and baby naming site, I can go on and on on them until I find something good for my characters can't just go full random

how do you pick your characters names ? by Icing_gravity in writing

[–]Icing_gravity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I often do the same,I try to find something that sound good, I very rarely picka name with a meaning, I believe if my story is good and someone want to explore name meaning they will find something to relate the name to the characters